Have you ever wanted sex, but declined to initiate it based on the fact that your partner had something important to do the next day, looked tired, etc.?

Contributor: ViVix ViVix
I often don't initiate sex with my partner, even though I want to, because he has to work a long day, wake up early, looks tired, or some other reason. Do you ever REALLY want sex, but decline to initiate it out of respect to your partner?
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I have experienced this.
Ciao. , Gunsmoke , BlooJay , js250 , Positwist , Pi , Rossie , Alyxx , curious kitten , OhMy! , indiglo , MistressDandelion , corsetsaurus rex , AnonymousX , Missmarc , Jenny Swallows , rom323 , PropertyOfPotter , padmeamidala , Checkmate , potstickers , WhoopieDoo , Squeaky
I feel like my partner has done this.
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If I want it, I'm going to try to get it!
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Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Of course, I have decided not to initiate on occasion because he was tired or had an early morning or something. But, that isn't every day of his life! I still find plenty of time to initiate, as does he.

The times either of us decide not to initiate is rare. The other person can always say "no thanks, we'll do it tomorrow" if they really aren't in the mood.

Personally, unless he's let me know, "Babe, I'm really tired. I don't want to 'play sex' tonight (or this morning)" ahead of time, I'll initiate and take the chance.
Contributor: Ciao. Ciao.
Oh definitely, both sides of things too. I think you just have to both be sensitive to eachother's needs and desires. If I'm really busy, tired, or stressed or have something where I need to go to bed early sex is just not going to be as appealing or even enjoyable for me.
Contributor: underHim underHim
I do not work, but I have to deal with a very energetic toddler all day, and he works, I cant count the number of times this has happened or some approximation to it.
Him: Hi honey
Me: It is late you have work tomorrow
Him: I know, Im not really horny I was just playing
Me: Yeah okay
Him:I love you
Me: I love you too, go to sleep, it is midnight
Him: (snuggling up closer to me)
Meont do that, you will just get horny
Him: No I won't I am just laying here
Me: Yes you will and you know it
Sometime later, after continuing like this for at least a half hour, we end up having sex, mostly because he is incapable of going to sleep and can't stop thinking about it. So lately, I do not let this happen, if he even remotely acts horny and tried the no I'm not thing. I will basically just say, you are horny, you may not know it yet, but I do, so dont argue with me for the next hour about it, it will just take longer. Silly Master doesnt know when he is horny.
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
My wife's work is more time consuming and stressful than mine - so during the week I'm careful not to ask for too much.

I get up early on the weekends to golf - but she has clear instructions not to let that interfere with having sex. Beyond that I have made the commitment to be permanently available to her at any time - day or night.
Contributor: BlooJay BlooJay
We both have done this.
Contributor: PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
I don't have to worry about this right now.
Contributor: Silverdrop Silverdrop
Sex helps him sleep.
Contributor: Nora Nora
The worst he could say is "no"...never hurts to ask.
Contributor: js250 js250
We have both done this and will usually end up masturbating. Neither one of us has any issues with that and will even end up joining in occasionally. When one of us doesn't, you know we really were beat!!!
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
Sometimes, especially if he has to wake up early or have a long drive the next morning.
Contributor: Alyxx Alyxx
I've definitely done this before when he looks tired or we have an early morning. Sometimes he goes ahead and initiates anyway, though! Can't say no to that!
Contributor: curious kitten curious kitten
I don't think that there isn't a situation I haven't experienced in my life. You just have to go with the flow sometimes.
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
Very rarely, but yes it has happened.
Contributor: Badass Badass
I swear, my guy never gets tired. I seldom initiate after one of this 10 hour days, but if I wear my panties around the house and "hint", i don't have to ask.
Contributor: corsetsaurus rex corsetsaurus rex
Stupid exams. The worst is we went to the same college, with similar exam times, and I always end up really needing sex when I'm all stressed out and studied to death, but he works differently.
Contributor: AnonymousX AnonymousX
I totally know where you're coming from. I just don't let it happen for more than two nights. Then I get selfish lol
Contributor: Missmarc Missmarc
Originally posted by ViVix
I often don't initiate sex with my partner, even though I want to, because he has to work a long day, wake up early, looks tired, or some other reason. Do you ever REALLY want sex, but decline to initiate it out of respect to your partner?
Yes, I have. If he works the next day, and it's really late. I'd just wait for him to fall asleep and then masturbate.
Contributor: married with children married with children
If I want it, it does not hurt to ask.
Contributor: gloomybear gloomybear
my partner never turns down sex lol
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
all the time