I had actually written an entire response, then backspaced it because I sometimes do not feel like explaining things into much depth or posting my thoughts. I feel the same way that you do about this, Victoria.

I never speak to anyone about my sexuality or gender. I happen to look very androgynous, but I actually am masculine in personality, so if someone mistakes me for something else, I correct (or they hear my voice and say "whoops"). But aside from that, in my every day life, if someone asks if I am with someone, I say, "Yes, I have a partner." I refer to her as my little girl here and other places who know what sort of relationship we're in, but in my everyday life? She is my partner, and since I call her that, people often think that I am "cloaking my homosexuality" by not outright saying that she is my "boyfriend." HAHA! I get that a lot, people have said, "You're...gay?" "No, my partner is not a man." "But, usually homosexuals call their girlfriends or boyfriends 'partners.'" "That is not fully true."

In terms of labels, I never refer to someone with pronouns or assume their sexuality because there's no reason for me to. I am not interested in pursuing a relationship with them, so what does it matter to me what they label themselves as? If they tell me something about themselves, then I will of course honor that. I feel that if a person is willing to share such intimate thoughts with me, then I will respect those thoughts.

A gal after my own heart. And yeah, the scientist in me adores having everything defined. Even if I don't know what all the labels mean, it makes me all warm and fuzzy to know that I can find out what they are! They're a great place to start a discussion on stuff people rarely talk about, because so much is assumed.

Personally, my sexuality/gender labels are pretty boring. I'm a heterosexual woman in a monogamous relationship. Who likes to do crazy stuff like blow things up in lab and take turns with the flogger in the bedroom.

That's a really good point. If there's a label already out there that kinda fits who you are, at least you know you're not alone.

Your examples are quite insensitive. What you may see as "inconsistencies" can be your mistaken judgments of a person. No one has given you or anyone else the authority to judge someone else's label as "accurate."

I'm sorry. I didn't mean to come off as judgmental or insensitive.

But if someone says "I'm green" and they obviously are not, it confuses me.

I see what you're trying to say, but I think it might be useful for me to point out that some of your examples were perhaps poorly chosen. I'll try to explain in a way that is not intended to come across as an attack, but as education.

To clarify, the first one especially. If someone with a vagina and a pair of double D breasts tells you that they are a man, then you are probably talking to a FTM transgendered person. Telling them that they are saying something inaccurate/not believable is incredibly hurtful and invalidating. It may not be meant as such, but it does.

Am I right in saying that what you meant was this: when a person who does not in any way identify as male, says they are male - as opposed to someone who was born with a woman's body but identifies as male, says they are a male?

I think so, thanks for clarifying!

I originally wrote "man", but then realized that I'm not that manliest man out there.

Male: biological/chromosomal
Man: mentally a guy

I hope that clears up stuffs.

This is why I hate labels...

No problem. We all get tangled up in words sometimes. Labels are a double edged sword.

A double edged sword indeed. & Thus, my love-hate relationship with labels continues.

You're not the only boring one!

I'm a heterosexual female in a monogamous relationship. Only I don't get to blow things up in labs, lol

This made me laugh.

Also, I loved the comment above that said "I am in love with myself." I wish there were a sexual orientation for people that love themselves because I would totally use it. Like the above poster said, it took a long time to get there but now that I'm here I'd like to check it off on my census forms (do they even have a box for orientation on census forms?)

Im a hetro female to me. But I have had bi experiences...threesom es. ect. The labels thing throws me off whatever it may be.