Ladies, would you prefer sex with a small penis that allows you to experience vaginal orgasms over sex with an average- or above-average sized penis and not experience vaginal orgasm?

Ladies, would you prefer sex with a small penis that allows you to experience vaginal orgasms over sex with an average- or above-average sized penis and not experience vaginal orgasm?

strangebrew strangebrew
Where size is concerned, I'm certainly on the small side of both length (5.5"), and especially girth (~ 4 1/4"). My girlfriend has been with men MUCH larger than me but never experienced a vaginal orgasm before we met. Our first time together, she was able to reach orgasm with no manual manipulation of her own.

I'm quite insecure about the fact that she prefers both the look of a large(r) cock, and prefers the feel of a thicker cock. With that said, she says over and over that she loves sex with me for the multiple orgasms. This made me wonder how other women feel. I appreciate your votes. Thank you.
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wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
I honestly can't pick from the poll options because for me, it depends on if the person can actually use what he's got.

I've been with all sizes and the only time I haven't truly enjoyed myself is when they were insecure about how to use it or what they were even doing.

I can't speak for your girl, obviously, but that's how I feel about it.
09/04/2014
edeneve edeneve
I do want to say that there is so much more to pleasurable sex than penis size. and the real fun begins with exploration of those creative ventures as well as the tested & proven possibilities.
09/06/2014
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by strangebrew
Where size is concerned, I'm certainly on the small side of both length (5.5"), and especially girth (~ 4 1/4"). My girlfriend has been with men MUCH larger than me but never experienced a vaginal orgasm before we met. Our first time ...
Skill and attitude, in all aspects of lovemaking, outweigh "size" by a million to one for this lady.
09/07/2014
Heartthrob Heartthrob
Quote:
Originally posted by strangebrew
Where size is concerned, I'm certainly on the small side of both length (5.5"), and especially girth (~ 4 1/4"). My girlfriend has been with men MUCH larger than me but never experienced a vaginal orgasm before we met. Our first time ...
5.5 inches is average. You are not on the smaller side. As a woman, I just want a man who can get me over the edge. Penis size is not important. It's how you use it.
09/11/2014
strangebrew strangebrew
@Hearthrob, I guess then, I'm smaller than my gf's ex's average, which would sit well north of 6" and thick. Just my luck, I suppose. I'm by far the smallest she's been with, at any rate.

Thanks to all who have voted and to those who have taken the time to comment. I appreciate it.
09/12/2014
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by strangebrew
@Hearthrob, I guess then, I'm smaller than my gf's ex's average, which would sit well north of 6" and thick. Just my luck, I suppose. I'm by far the smallest she's been with, at any rate.

Thanks to all who have voted ...
strangebrew, you are not alone. I once dated a girl, who's ex as she described to me came up to his belly button. In the 8-9" range,col. She was ok with it though. However one day as I went over to her house, he was leaving. Didn't bother me, I knew they had been together for 6 yrs.
09/12/2014
Aesenthia Aesenthia
I once was with a guy who had an above average sized penis and I was in so much pain it wasn't enjoyable. He had zero skill. It was the worst sex of my life. Then I was with a guy who was smaller than average and I was a bit concerned, but he made it the best sex of my life. I think the difference, for me, is that the guy with the smaller penis really got me going both physically and mentally and that is important. Never underestimate the power of foreplay!
10/03/2014
CS2012 CS2012
I prefer smaller for a different reason. I have a severe bladder disease and sex can be very painful because of it. So naturally the smaller the penis is the better it is for me.
10/23/2014
Inquisitor Inquisitor
Strangebrew, if you are able to give her multiple orgasms with your equipment, then you have nothing to worry about. Everyone has preferences that their partner might or might not fulfill, but, the good thing is that these are preferences and not requirements.

For example, you might require that all your sexual partners be of a certain gender, i.e. female. A preference you might have could be for brunettes with blue eyes and glasses. Requirements exclude certain classes of things, preferences don't. Is this making sense? In the sexual department, you seem to be her unicorn. You are giving her the one thing that others who might be better endowed can't. Keep doing what you are doing and be empowered knowing that you are pleasing your girlfriend.
12/20/2014
Svenson Svenson
I'm not a girl, but I feel like you should know that your size isn't on the small end of average. 5.5" of length is either right on top of the bell curve, or slightly past it depending on what study you look at.

Those studies that show average being from 6-7" are all from self reported sizes, and we all know how reliable most guys are when it comes to that lol.

Your girth is admittedly on the smaller end, but if you lady gets off on it and doesn't mind then there's no need to worry.
03/08/2015
strangebrew strangebrew
Well it's been a while since I checked in on this but wanted to update the post. Since posting this question, I have purchased several sleeves designed to increase one's girth. Turns out that my wife prefers me with the sleeve. Not only does it give her the thickness she's used to from past lovers but she still is able to experience vaginal orgasms.

So, for any other less than average guys out there, if you're interested in giving your lover the thickness she misses, a sleeve is the way to go. The only down side is you don't really feel her much. The sleeve still slides up and down on your penis, leading to an orgasm but it's not from the friction you're used to.

Kind of feeling deflated that I'm not enough to fully satisfy her but it is what it is.
12/21/2016
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by strangebrew
Well it's been a while since I checked in on this but wanted to update the post. Since posting this question, I have purchased several sleeves designed to increase one's girth. Turns out that my wife prefers me with the sleeve. Not only does ...
sb, I'll read and found out for myself doing male kegels can increase girth. There have been successful studies of using E stim for induced self kegels have several benefits. Increased thickness and hardness are among then. Of course it won't make one longer or as thick as an extender but I just wanted to bring this up.

If done properly for couple of months, one can realize results.
For anyone interested,google male kegels and their benefits. Btw, edenfantasys sell E stim units about $10 and various sized probe/wand and some plugs to achieve male kegels.
12/21/2016
MrClark MrClark
So as someone on the statistically large side... there are some definite downsides. I definitely agree it's how you use what you have and your connection with your partner more than size. But my current girlfriend is extremely petite and if we don't do enough foreplay and commonly use lube than my size can be painful/difficult for her. With my ex-gf I had to be careful not to fully insert, even during rougher sex, as I would smash into her cervix that would take away from her enjoyment. But over time with both I learned how to best use what I had to bring them enjoyment.

I also struggle with many male masturbator toys as they either break quickly due to my size or I don't fit in them.

Oh and as a friend once mentioned, there is far more variability in vaginal size than male penis size... if your current girlfriend is a "size queen" you might consider DV play with a toy? There also are couple's toys that have an inserted end that adds a bit of "girth" and potentially vibrations/enjoyment for both partners. Our favorite of these is the Tiani 24k, but we also really enjoyed the Tiani 3. There are some great budget options of these toys sold by EF too.
12/22/2016
Dirty D Dirty D
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Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
strangebrew, you are not alone. I once dated a girl, who's ex as she described to me came up to his belly button. In the 8-9" range,col. She was ok with it though. However one day as I went over to her house, he was leaving. Didn't ...
Honestly you guys, it's not what it's always cracked up to be. Don't get me wrong, at 8 inches long and 5 and a half around, I'm not mad about the cards I've been dealt, but then again, I'm only 5 foot 4 inches tall, so I had to grow somewhere . Haha. But honestly, it has been somewhat of a burden at times, due to my size. Alot of women haven't been able to take it all or its ruled other kinds of sex just plain out of the question, so it's kept me from sex just about as much as it has gotten me, in a way, I guess it averages out. I will say though, that if you're a little short when you measure up, be sure to handle business in other areas so as to get you stuck in her mind. If you can lay the pipe down, though it's somewhat short or really just not huge...then you're good to go. You'll be alright
12/23/2016
strangebrew strangebrew
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Originally posted by Dirty D
Honestly you guys, it's not what it's always cracked up to be. Don't get me wrong, at 8 inches long and 5 and a half around, I'm not mad about the cards I've been dealt, but then again, I'm only 5 foot 4 inches tall, so I had ...
Dirty D - small guys never think of what the downside would be to having a bigger dick. Well, I haven't. My wife's ex bf was 7" long, 6" around and she took him just fine. In fact, before meeting me, that size was "normal" for her. So, even though she says she likes me just fine, she's also said she prefers the feeling of a thicker dick. It's playing with my head. Now, every time I approach her with my small dick I feel like I'm cheating her of a pleasure she's been used to her entire life.

Honestly, I'd rather apologize for being too big than feel the way I feel right now - not big enough.
12/23/2016
poetprincess poetprincess
Quote:
Originally posted by strangebrew
Where size is concerned, I'm certainly on the small side of both length (5.5"), and especially girth (~ 4 1/4"). My girlfriend has been with men MUCH larger than me but never experienced a vaginal orgasm before we met. Our first time ...
I do not care about the size as long as they know how to give me an orgasm. I dated a man once that was small but man he knew how to use his tongue. I also dated a guy who was hung like a horse. It was so huge it almost scared me but he did not know how to use it so I was disappointed. Plus it did not help that he called his penis the magic stick. um,,,, hell no. The only magic that ever happened was when I told him I was done.
12/28/2016
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
Quote:
Originally posted by poetprincess
I do not care about the size as long as they know how to give me an orgasm. I dated a man once that was small but man he knew how to use his tongue. I also dated a guy who was hung like a horse. It was so huge it almost scared me but he did not know ...
While I was reading your post, I thought it was going to say,
"The only magic that happened was when I made him disappear."

Don't mind me, sometimes I'm in a funny mood.
12/28/2016
Janelle Negrin Janelle Negrin
I honestly can't pick because, for me, it depends on if the person can actually use what he's got. I don't care about your size if you can give me a good time with what you've got you're a winner.
Feb 9, 9:21 am
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