Advice? Not until married, LOL!
Nah I never did anything as a teen. In fact even up to college I thought it was disgusting. Still on the fence about it even tho I lost it at 21. Am also an abuse victim, especially from my mother at a very early age. I did it more for my guy, not for me. He wants to marry me as soon as he's done with college, and we were each other's firsts. We still don't know wtf we're doing, but it's long distance and we only saw each other once. I'm seeing a psychologist, she helps me with it and everything else. But now my birth control has killed my drive completely, am off it, but still waiting for it to return. If I'm left without a drive for the rest of my life, I'll be calling off that marriage proposal, however--it's not fair to him, and I don't like sharing, either, so I'd rather cut him loose.
However if my dad found out or his parents that we lost it, oh man we'd be in for it. My dad says not until married and his parents, well.... bible thumpers explains it all, and I'm not even Christian, so this is going to be very, very fun in the coming years.... [/end sarcasm]