Do you ever pleasure your partner, even if you are totally not in the mood, just because you feel you are supposed to?

Do you ever pleasure your partner, even if you are totally not in the mood, just because you feel you are supposed to?

Bignuf Bignuf
I have pleasured him and him me, just for the other's enjoyment, when perhaps pre-occupied, but that has happened so rarely, and once we get going, the other is almost always quickly "in the mood".

How about in your relationship?
10/30/2012
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ShadowedSeductress ShadowedSeductress
We are the same way. It's not a matter of feeling obligated, just wanting him to enjoy himself even if I'm not in the mood.
10/30/2012
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I always feel like it! But giving my spouse kudos - she does not, but often she will 'oblige' me - and does so in a loving way.
10/30/2012
Hubby80 Hubby80
I always feel like it and want them to have pleasure to.
10/30/2012
- Kira - - Kira -
I kinda answered this in the other post, but yes. Our dynamic works where I'm here to please him, so if he wants me to do something I do it. Most of the time if I'm not in the mood I'll get there pretty quickly after we start, but every now and again it won't kick it.
10/30/2012
indiglo indiglo
Quote:
Originally posted by ShadowedSeductress
We are the same way. It's not a matter of feeling obligated, just wanting him to enjoy himself even if I'm not in the mood.
Yeah, I feel the same way. I don't feel obligated, I just want him to enjoy himself and feel fulfilled.

This rarely happens with us, but I know we've both fooled around just because the other person needed it. Sometimes, when I don't feel like I'm in the mood, but I go ahead... I get in the mood after we start and then really enjoy myself!
10/30/2012
no longer here no longer here
Usually we are both in the mood, but if for some reason one of us isn't, yes. Don't know if we feel obligated, but we do feel that part of our "job" as spouses is to keep the other partner satisfied. We are married ... can't go get it elsewhere...and really, once we get going neither of us EVER feels like it's an obligation.
10/30/2012
KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
I have had sex because it is important to the relationship even if I am not 100% in the mood, but once things get going then I am typically quickly "there". I don't like the idea of obligation.
10/30/2012
charletnarouh charletnarouh
Not because of obligation or "supposed to" but i've definitely had one sided sex because either me or my partner wasn't feeling it or was on their period or had a headache or cramps or was tired or something. This has happened with my current Miss and with past partners. It's just something that happens. i've never felt like it was any kind of obligation or anything and don't think any of my partners ever has either. i actually see it as kind of a benefit of being in lesbian relationships. Often sex is one and then the other, simultaneous activities are more of a special occasion thing, like strap-on sex or 69, not something we do every time we have sex. So when one of us isn't feeling it, it's easy to just do half. Shit happens. Sometimes one of us is too tired to reciprocate but happy to let the other pleasure her and it's never a burden for the other. Sometimes my wrists hurt, i have carpal tunnel, and using my hands can be painful, or one of us is having allergies and has a stuffy nose so oral is hard, so that night might be the one who isn't having some kind of handicap pleasuring the one who is. Or one of us might be too tired to have an orgasm (they can be work sometimes!) and is happy to just take care of the other, or one of us has a headache or something and doesn't feel like having the tension and build up of an orgasm that might make it worse. It generally works out and neither of us minds when we don't BOTH have an orgasm because it's still enjoyable for us both anyway. We can enjoy the activity and the intimacy without the orgasm.
10/30/2012
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