sex before marriage and guilt.

I actually felt pretty proud of myself for having sex without marriage.

Try before you buy. I don't know if I will choose to get married at all. I have had regrets about sex but it wasn't because of religion or feeling the need to wait.

I don't feel GUILTY per se, more like sad. Sad that I lost my virginity to such a...I'm trying to be a good Christian here!..dud...in a relationship that got me nowhere and actually set me back in life (not my husband, my first boyfriend.) I'm trying to work that out with God, because I know He doesn't want me to live in condemnation. I'm one of those antiquated types of people who believe virginity is a precious thing and it's wonderful if it can be saved until marriage. I realize though that other people have different values and I respect that. I just wish I had known how important it was to ME and listened to my head instead of my vagina.

I had sex before marriage, but I've never felt really guilty about it. I'm still with him, and I know I'm gonna marry him. It probably sounds like puppy love, but I know it's not. That's what's important.

I have felt more guilty about having sex knowing a relationship won't follow.

We're both Christian (though we'll be the first to say we don't go to church enough), and were both active before marriage. Granted, to this day he is still the only person I've been with, but I do know that he's been active since he was around 11 or 12 years old, (though just how many partners I couldn't say; not sure I really want to know, either).

What guilt I did have has more or less vanished. I did end up marrying him, so it's not that I feel I've "cheated" him out of anything, but sometimes I do wish that I would've held out a little longer, (we were only on our 3rd day of dating when I gave it up). As far as I know he doesn't have any guilt over his past exploits, as he's always said that if anything were to "come out of it" (for example, a past partner coming forward years later with what turned out to be his kid) that he would take full responsibility for his actions.

my guilt came mostly from my sexuality not being unmarried

I never felt guilty about it, though my family tried to make me feel like a heathen for moving in with my fiance when I was 20. They even refused to refer to him as "boyfriend" or "fiance," opting instead for "friend" or "special friend."