The debate is raging on EMandLO.com this week as our Wise Guys answer the question, "Who has to work harder during sex, men or women?" One guy says that erections themselves are proof that men work harder, while another says that it depends on the position...and still another says that men used to work harder, but these days women are putting forth a bit more effort. So, what do you think? (Check out what our readers have to say here.)
Who has to work harder during sex, men or women? - from Em and Lo
09/14/2011
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It depends on so many variables. Sometimes I think hubby works harder than I do. Other times I'm sure that I'm working harder than him. What position you're in has a lot to do with it, but a lot of other factors play a part as well.
09/14/2011
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Definitely dependent on so many factors. I feel the same way. Sometimes it's me, and sometimes it's her.
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Ivy Wilde
It depends on so many variables. Sometimes I think hubby works harder than I do. Other times I'm sure that I'm working harder than him. What position you're in has a lot to do with it, but a lot of other factors play a part as well.
09/14/2011
Well, for us, my husband definitely works harder. I am like a cat: I lie around and accept the action, thankfully. ;3
09/15/2011
My husband works a lot harder than I do. All I need to do is give him a nice BJ and/or ride him a bit, then he'll take care of the rest!
09/15/2011
I agree to variables. Depending on the position, either myself or my guy will take charge and do most of the work, and if you are counting foreplay, it all depends on the scenario that day!
09/15/2011
My boyfriend works the hardest most of the time.
09/15/2011
I would have to say unless the women is on top, the man does. All the positions except cowgirl and reverse cowgirl, require the man to do all the work. Sure us ladies can move during it, but the man is the giving it to us for the most part. Of course this is not including oral and same sex couples. Since same sex couples it would not be which sex is working harder, it would be which partner worked harder.
09/15/2011
I know that when I meet up with my Master he will be working harder cause he is the top and demands it be that way!
09/15/2011
eek, so many variables. it depends on my partner, how we're both feeling and who's in a more domineering mood. It also depends on my attraction to them as well; if I'm incredibly attracted to them, I feel more motivated to work harder. If it's an "eh, you're cute but that's it" I don't have the same drive to please him. so yeah.
09/15/2011
Before my recent experiences, I would have also said it depends. However, I can now say that I believe the man works harder. I say this because when I'm pegging my boyfriend, it doesn't matter what position we're in, I always get tired muscles and usually break a sweat. It's hard work using the penis!
09/15/2011
It depends on what kind of mood I'm in about who works harder. If I'm the one suggesting it I'm usually the one that works harder,but if he's the one thats in the mood and I'm not then I make him do all the work.
09/15/2011
Definitely depends... I think position is a big factor in determining who works harder
09/15/2011
i think it just depend but mostly women
09/15/2011
My man, definitely. Most of the positions that would make me do the harder work, such as being on top, have me paranoid that I'm going to squash him.
09/15/2011
Ive pretended to hump him and thats a lot more work than being on top in my opinion.
09/15/2011
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I have to say I do my best to put on one hell of a show about it... I choose to be on top riding or doing reverse cowgirl most of the time. When I give a bj I put a lot into it and a lot of full body movement. Even with doggystyle I do my best to thrust back as much and as hard as they guy does... If I am ever guilty of anything it wont be being guilty of being a dead lay in the sack
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Em & Lo
The debate is raging on EMandLO.com this week as our Wise Guys answer the question, "Who has to work harder during sex, men or women?" One guy says that erections themselves are proof that men work harder, while another says that it depends
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The debate is raging on EMandLO.com this week as our Wise Guys answer the question, "Who has to work harder during sex, men or women?" One guy says that erections themselves are proof that men work harder, while another says that it depends on the position...and still another says that men used to work harder, but these days women are putting forth a bit more effort. So, what do you think? (Check out what our readers have to say here.)
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09/15/2011
men by far. I have always done most of the work in bed.
09/17/2011
That's an interesting question. For me, there is no simple answer. If you're asking who works harder to have an orgasm... then for me it's the woman by far. I have to work much harder to have an orgasm than my man, for him they're pretty much automatic, but I have to really focus and try hard. If you're asking who does more physical exertion... then that varies by position, but by and large I'd say he does. The positions that feel best (and work best) for me are not woman on top positions. But I work pretty damn hard no matter what. I think that's too hard to answer because each person is an individual - some individuals lay there like a dead fish regardless of gender, and some work really hard regardless of gender.
09/17/2011
Im not really sure If you mean thrusting and doing the lifting then it could be me or her depending on the position. But sometimes it feels like she has hundreds of arms and is just all over me hitting all the areas i want her to touch. After that i feel like im not doing enough.
09/17/2011
My partner for medical reasons
09/17/2011
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