It's so sad. I was in an abusive lesbian relationship, and a few times when I'd call the police because my ex was being a huge bully, they practically laughed it off. All they did was leave a voicemail on her phone and they never followed through with either of us. It was physically abusive, but also extremely emotionally abusive and she'd also break windows here and destroy my other belongings. Even threatened to shove me out of her moving car a few times. And I still didn't get the help I needed from the police. I tried to file charges for harassment after we split, and I also tried for a restraining order, but I didn't get the kind of help I was expecting. I couldn't even file for a domestic violence restraining order.
Sorry if that's a little off topic. I just wanted to share my experience. I think it's also important to note that some abusive relationships can turn into being mutually abusive. I admit that I'd lash out at times to try and "defend" myself, and that helped my ex keep this kind of hold on me. I felt guilty and she exploited that more, saying it was me who made her act the way she did, and it was also me who was abusive.
Since we broke up, she's been saying the same things to others. At first I was consumed with the image she's portraying of me, but now I know it's another form of her abuse and I've since let it go.
