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Contributor: uneunsae uneunsae
Hi everyone,

Just curious if I'm the only one who practices abstinence between long-term partners. I want to be safe but also need some emotional connection to have sex with another guy. How about you? Voting is private.

So, do you practice abstinence between long-term relationships?

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Total votes: 25 (25 voters)
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04/17/2014
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Contributor: wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
Quote:
Originally posted by uneunsae
Hi everyone,

Just curious if I'm the only one who practices abstinence between long-term partners. I want to be safe but also need some emotional connection to have sex with another guy. How about you? Voting is private.

So, do ... more
I don't necessarily do it on purpose. I do it because I am usually too emotionally unstable to even consider sex at all, so I tend to go a while in between. However, I have had periods where I wasn't dating anyone, I was just sleeping with people, but I almost never slept with multiple people in the same time frame.
04/19/2014
Contributor: Sincerely yours, N Sincerely yours, N
It's not so much that I do it on purpose, but more so that I normally just am not into a guy in between relationships enough to want to sleep with him. I flirt a lot and have my little flings here and there, but I generally only sleep with a guy after getting to know him pretty well.
04/19/2014
Contributor: edeneve edeneve
I need to feel some kind of connection for me to be sexual w/ someone.
04/23/2014
Contributor: PadoruLover PadoruLover
I always do. It's just safer.
04/26/2014
Contributor: uneunsae uneunsae
Quote:
Originally posted by uneunsae
Hi everyone,

Just curious if I'm the only one who practices abstinence between long-term partners. I want to be safe but also need some emotional connection to have sex with another guy. How about you? Voting is private.

So, do ... more
It's kind of nice to hear from others who do because a lot of guys would like everyone to believe they are constantly in bed with someone. Not that there's anything wrong with that if that's what they're into, but it's not for me.

Thanks for the replies.
05/08/2014
Contributor: SouthernBelle SouthernBelle
I'm a serial monogamist, and I think that plays a role in my wanting to keep sex within my long-term relationships. I need the emotional and physical connection, and also the trust to be that involved.
06/16/2014
Contributor: Trixxxy Trixxxy
Nope. I would go batshit insane.
07/04/2014
Contributor: dv8 dv8
I practice abstinence only between sexual encounters.
07/04/2014
Contributor: karpov karpov
I can't have sex with someone if I'm not emotionally attached to them. So yes.
07/05/2014
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
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Originally posted by SouthernBelle
I'm a serial monogamist, and I think that plays a role in my wanting to keep sex within my long-term relationships. I need the emotional and physical connection, and also the trust to be that involved.
I too am a serial monagamist, but for the most part have had sex in one way or another on the first date with a new partner. Since I'm now married I'm hoping not to have to be "looking" again.
07/05/2014
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
Ive been married for a long time now but before yes because I have to be emotionally connected to someone before I ever sleep with them. That takes awhile to get to know someone
11/30/2015