Valentines crap- do you really have to buy stuff?

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Valentines crap- do you really have to buy stuff?

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Contributor: DreamWolf DreamWolf
Say am silly that I don't make a big fuss about gifts (though of course I LOVE THEM AS HELL!!! ), but to me occasions mean more because of why they are celebrated, and I am just grateful to have those I cherish around, my Master, O/our PreciousMutt, and O/our friends and family, so gifts are lovely of course and whenever it is possible I take a try to receive something little or greater from my Master (Who hates everything like occasions and does stuff for me only cause am always so enthusiastic about some of them! ^^), but I think it's crazy that they are demanded!

How is it in your case?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I am a female
34
I am a male
8
I identify as one of them or something else
4
I think gifts for such occasions are very important
3
I think that gifts are fine and I love them but I don't need them
27
I don't care whether I get any or not
10
I don't even want any gifts
7
To me such occasions are about the gifts only
1
To me such occasions are as much about the gifts as the reason for the occasion
To me such occasions are about the reason for them only
1
I want my gifts
1
Whatever is fine for me
16
No gifts for me please
3
Other
3
Total votes: 118 (46 voters)
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02/15/2012
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Contributor: Coralbell Coralbell
I prefer having an experience together, rather than getting a physical gift. I still appreciate getting gifts, but it's not the most important thing to me, and I definitely don't need anything fancy. I know some girls who will basically demand that their boyfriend buys them a specific piece of jewellery, or some expensive boots or something. I would never do that, and I think it ruins the meaning of the gift.
02/15/2012
Contributor: emiliaa emiliaa
I'm just gonna say this, I'm honest-to-goodness not a gold-digger, and I think it's just glorified prostitution, so call it what it is, LOL. So gifts do not matter and I usually would rather not have one unless it's been agreed upon that we are getting each other a gift.
02/15/2012
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
I honestly do not like getting a gift on any scheduled holiday. I would prefer to get a gift just because my partner wants to give it to me, rather than because he feels obligated due to a holiday.

I totally agree with Coralbell - stuff is just stuff, but having a happy life together is priceless!
02/15/2012
Contributor: Kayla Kayla
I'm "meh" on it. I'd like one, but I'm not too disappointed if I don't get one. I just mostly want my partner to remember the day and do something special.
02/15/2012
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by Kayla
I'm "meh" on it. I'd like one, but I'm not too disappointed if I don't get one. I just mostly want my partner to remember the day and do something special.
This is pretty much me as well. My poor husband spent the day at work being told by his coworkers that he was a bad husband because he wasn't getting me flowers or candy or jewelry or anything else. Like, really started to feel like he was bad for not getting me anything. I assured him that while I would love a gift of course, I wasn't going to be upset with him for not getting me anything. He said "Happy Valentine's Day" and that was enough for me.
02/15/2012
Contributor: joja joja
I'm not big into holidays like this, including our birthdays and anniversary. I'd much prefer to surprise him (or be surprised) on a random day than have some day where we're expected/obligated to do something.
02/15/2012
Contributor: MeliPixie MeliPixie
I'm not a fan of Valentine's Day. It's a day for companies to feed off the insecurities of women, and for women to place high demands on their significant others. It's the one day out of the year people decide they'll do for their SO what they should be doing ALL year.
02/15/2012
Contributor: Jaimes Jaimes
Valentine's Day has never been all that important to us, just so long as we get to spend a little time together for romance.

But I like that when we do gifts, they aren't Valentine's day themed. This year, he got me two hard-bound notebooks, because he knows I'm crazy for them, and the Skyrim playing guide. I got him a new pair of sandals. My gift might sound lame, but he wears a size 15 shoe, and they aren't easy, or cheap, to find. He LOVES sandals. So gifts are nice, but they aren't a big deal, just a chance for us to give each other something fun.

He gets me flowers at random times, and it's wonderful. He is the closest thing you can find to a professional at romance, and I'm a lucky girl for it.
02/15/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
I personally think at least a small token is important. I find some who say they don't want to be "forced" to give gifts "because it's a Hallmark Holiday" and then buy their beloved nothing, don't buy or make gifts for the people they love any other time either. I think they are getting a free pass by claiming to "not be conventional." How hard is it to offer a token of your love?

I have a friend who hasn't gotten a gift for any occasion for years. She says it's OK, but I've seen her in tears on her birthday, Christmas, etc.

How damn hard is it to buy a small bouquet of flowers at the grocery store and throw in a box of candy? It takes 10 minutes of your time and yes, is a physical reminder than someone IS thinking of you.

My Man isn't a huge holiday person, but he always gets me something. Yesterday, it was some Fanny May candy and three small bouquets of flowers and a card. It took 15 minutes or less of his time, and I felt cared about, loved and knew he was thinking of me.

I had to take a kid to the doctor yesterday, but I still was able to get him a box of Dots, some Black Crows, some hearts to share with the kids (he got them Fanny May, too) and some beef jerky and a card, (while I was already at the pharmacy) it wasn't hard at all, and he had had a really rough day at work, so it was nice to greet him with a little surprise.

The actual physical gift isn't that important, but yes, to me, the thought, does count.

Mileage and stuff.
02/15/2012
Contributor: Master DarkWolf Master DarkWolf
I hate such occasions, but they are pretty fun with you anyway...
02/15/2012
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
I feel really awkward when someone buys me something. I definitely feel a sense of obligation to get them something, whether I can afford it or not.

BTW: Dreamwolf, you're still a trip!
02/16/2012
Contributor: voenne voenne
I love getting gifts, but I don't expect them, and certainly don't care if I don't get any. I at least get cards and spending money from family members, so I don't complain.
02/16/2012
Contributor: voenne voenne
Quote:
Originally posted by MeliPixie
I'm not a fan of Valentine's Day. It's a day for companies to feed off the insecurities of women, and for women to place high demands on their significant others. It's the one day out of the year people decide they'll do for their ... more
^ I agree with this 100%.
02/16/2012
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
I never demanded anything out of my guy. He usually makes me origami frogs and animals and whatnot, and usually assists me in other ways throughout
I sometimes feel insecure when I see women with huge flower bouquets and diamond necklaces, but.. I hate diamonds.
I'd like a pretty silver heart ring, but... one day, right?
02/16/2012
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by DreamWolf
Say am silly that I don't make a big fuss about gifts (though of course I LOVE THEM AS HELL!!! ), but to me occasions mean more because of why they are celebrated, and I am just grateful to have those I cherish around, my Master, O/our ... more
I want a gift. It doesn't have to be expensive. It can even be a homemade card, but at least show you care.
02/28/2012
Contributor: roskat roskat
Valentine's seems so forced upon us. I don't really care for it.
03/24/2012