Anyone interested in Sister Wives? (Polygamy)

Anyone interested in Sister Wives? (Polygamy)

LusciousLollypop LusciousLollypop
I know I've been off base here on EF for about a week and a half now -- sorry about that.

I've been catching up on this show that I was always interested in "Sister Wives" it airs on TLC but I watch it through my netflix.

Anyways, I'm about half way done with season two and I am completely all up in their lives and can't stop watching. I am just like.. "wow" this guy has four wives and like.. 17 children and there isn't anyway he is stopping soon.

Then I was wondering, Could I do this? It is always something that you ask yourself or put yourself in some other person's situation. I asked myself that same question and I'm not religious, but I think that I absolutely couldn't have "sister wives" since I am the jealous type and I know it.

All woman aren't jealous, some have threesomes, some add another lover to their marriage, ect ect. Some woman AREN'T jealous and you know what? More power to them. It is really a personal issue I have with myself, jealousy. I just can't break it, I guess.

But then I saw the pro's of this lifestyle. Your children would always have a "mother", always have "sisters and brothers" and always have SOMEONE. You would never be alone, and I kind of find comfort in that when it came to the show. I was relating in a very small way and I still can't stop watching it, but I felt comfort in "never being alone" "always having someone".

Like.. these woman are best friends. They are more then that. They don't dabble in like four or fivesomes like you may think. They are uniquely all four woman married to the same man and he just travels from one house or one part of the house to the next to be with that specific woman on that specific day so he equally shares his time with everyone.

I just wanted to know your take on this, and it may be controversial. I kind of want it to be. I want discussions about it. It is a very interesting topic to me and I'd love to know your input.

I know we have some polygamists on this website and I'd LOVE to hear from you. especially. and everyone else who isn't. just everyoneeeee.
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
I've seen that show! :)
LusciousLollypop , Intrepid Niddering , Rossie , Gluesnffr , darthkitt3n , rockblenny , KyotoAngel , P'Gell , PropertyOfPotter , padmeamidala , Ansley , indiglo , Ex-prude , Dandelions , wet mama , LovesAPoet , Nacht Stern , Allstars316 , dv8
19
I watch that show religiously!
LusciousLollypop , Nacht Stern
2
I don't watch that show but I know what you are talking about!
Calla , JennSenn , brevado , K101 , Neotigress , Incendiaire , Sima-pusya , Bethy Cassatt , Eyesonfire , padmeamidala , Andrey2052 , PeachCandy , Leather & Lace , G&L
14
I think I could be a "sister wife", and I am religious, Let me explain!
I think I could be a "sister wife" and I am NOT religious, Let me explain!
I live polygamy every day of my life already and I have some stories!
I don't live this lifestyle but I'm curious about it! Let me explain!
LusciousLollypop , KyotoAngel , padmeamidala
3
I don't think I could ever share my wife or husband with someone else!
Calla , LusciousLollypop , Sodom and Gomorrah , Intrepid Niddering , Rossie , Gluesnffr , brevado , K101 , rockblenny , KyotoAngel , Eyesonfire , PropertyOfPotter , Ansley , indiglo , Ex-prude , PeachCandy , Dandelions , Leather & Lace , G&L , LovesAPoet , Nacht Stern , dv8
22
I'm too jealous for this lifestyle!
LusciousLollypop , Intrepid Niddering , Neotigress , Eyesonfire , PropertyOfPotter , Ex-prude , wet mama , LovesAPoet
8
Other -- Please Explain!
ellieprobable , JennSenn , sexfairy , Bethy Cassatt , P'Gell , indiglo , PeachCandy
7
Total votes: 75 (35 voters)
Poll is closed
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ellieprobable ellieprobable
I've been polyamorous in the past and am unlikely to do it again. But it is within the realm of possibility. I could never be a sister wife, though. The crazy religious fundamentalism and misogyny inherent in that setup is too much for me.
09/05/2012
Sodom and Gomorrah Sodom and Gomorrah
I bought it I keep it lol. I'm a very generous person, but I don't see anything good coming out from sharing a husband.
09/05/2012
Intrepid Niddering Intrepid Niddering
I highly doubt I would ever be able to do that. I don't want to share. If I commit myself to someone, I want them committed to me as well, not me and three other people. I understand some people do that and it works for them, and that's great. -For them-. For me, I just can't do it. If someone I was with felt they needed more than just me around, I would feel terrible about myself, as though I weren't good enough for them.
09/05/2012
Gluesnffr Gluesnffr
ive seen it, not interesting
09/05/2012
brevado brevado
Saw an episode and it didn't catch my attention
09/05/2012
sexfairy sexfairy
I think that I could live this lifestyle if I wanted to since I am not especially jealous. I'm not really into it though... I prefer monogamy in general, to develop something deeper with another person.
09/05/2012
darthkitt3n darthkitt3n
I used to watch the show when we had DirecTV. I don't think I could be a "sister wife" however my partner and I are currently kind of polyamorous. We are actively interested and looking however we haven't done anything with anyone else yet.
09/06/2012
K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by LusciousLollypop
I know I've been off base here on EF for about a week and a half now -- sorry about that.

I've been catching up on this show that I was always interested in "Sister Wives" it airs on TLC but I watch it through my ...
I have sadly seen the more common, and negative side of the religious polygamy. I wouldn't do it for many reasons. In most cases, the women are not treated very kindly and certainly not equal to men. I can't live that way because I feel that I, as a female am equal to men. I couldn't do it because I feel like I deserve someone who's only for me, and not for as many women as they can grab. I couldn't do it because I could never live by some man's rules. It's not for me and never could be.
09/06/2012
KyotoAngel KyotoAngel
My mom DVR's that series, so I do watch it...but I don't think I'd be alright sharing my man 24/7 like that.
I could do a threesome, either way (MMF or MFF), but I don't think either of us would be able to (or desire to) have a full time polygamist relationship.

But the way Cody, Meri, Janelle, Christine, and Robyn are going about it, it seems like it's a healthy relationship for the most part. It's not some creepy cult, it's a genuine love shared between four consenting adults so I'm hoping it all works out and they can get houses close to each other like they want. ^_^

Edit:
Just checked the Sister Wives page on TLC's website...they have a section with their favorite recipes. :3 ....*bookmarks*
09/06/2012
Neotigress Neotigress
Quote:
Originally posted by LusciousLollypop
I know I've been off base here on EF for about a week and a half now -- sorry about that.

I've been catching up on this show that I was always interested in "Sister Wives" it airs on TLC but I watch it through my ...
As an only child, I never learned to share my toys.
09/06/2012
Sima-pusya Sima-pusya
I don't watch that show but I know what you are talking about!
09/06/2012
Bethy Cassatt Bethy Cassatt
My partner and I have agreed to let other women in the relationship, but we'd play together. However, I love him. I couldn't share him like a toy, because he's not mine to give. If he wanted someone else, I'm gone.
09/06/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
I've seen the show and I find it interesting. Oddly my husband hates it. "Is that guy crazy? Four women? I'd rather eat glass!" He thinks having one woman full time is enough. He also doesn't understand what "all those women see in him." Me, I think this guy (on the show) is one of those people who tend to easily have influence over others and uses that power. If you watch his oldest son, this young man has a similar power. (For some reason I'm blanking on what word this is.)

I wouldn't want to share my husband in that way. We've talked about re-opening the relationship, but I don't think it could work again for us.

Living that lifestyle full time would never work for me. You get sex, what, at most once or twice a week, if you're one of the women? I'd lose my mind. And to know he was having sex with an other woman in the next room (or even the next house) I'm not a really jealous person, but that would piss me off.
09/06/2012
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I couldn't do it. On top of having to share my man with other women, which would mean I would spend nights without him in bed with me, I don't think that having that many children really gives the dad enough individual time with each of them. I imagine some of the children must feel 'lost' in the mix of everything happening. I've seen the show and it looks like they all have it together pretty well, but I would worry about the impact on my children.
09/06/2012
Ansley Ansley
For me, in this exact scenario I'd have the attitude of "quality over quantity". I just don't think having that many children benefits anyone or anything and I don't think I'd enjoy having to create a schedule just to make sure I get laid every once in awhile. That's just not who I am. Yay for those who can do it, but I think you're viewing it with rose colored glasses in a way.

If you look at it very analytically, these women are not truly happy. Robin is insecure, Christine is jealous, Mary wants out and Janelle is just Janelle. It's not one big happy family and most of the kids don't like one another.
09/06/2012
indiglo indiglo
I've seen an episode or two. I have absolutely NO interest in living that lifestyle. I'm not particularly jealous, but I feel much more secure being totally monogamous with my man. It works well for us, and I've noticed the same thing Stormy mentioned. The women do not seem secure and happy in their relationship with the husband.

(I also can't figure out what they all see in this guy at all.) Anyway, it really doesn't seem healthy or happy to me, and I much prefer the happy, healthy, secure relationship my man and I have.
09/06/2012
Andrey2052 Andrey2052
I don't watch that show but I know what you are talking about!
09/06/2012
Ex-prude Ex-prude
waaay too jealous. I think polygamy is just men justifying having multiple women. That's what happened with the mormon leader who decided it was alright. He was cheating on his wife and decided to say god told him polygamy was right to save face!
09/06/2012
Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by indiglo
I've seen an episode or two. I have absolutely NO interest in living that lifestyle. I'm not particularly jealous, but I feel much more secure being totally monogamous with my man. It works well for us, and I've noticed the same thing ...
Yeah...Cody does not strike me as being totally on the ball but he does strike me as being manipulative enough to keep things going for awhile.
09/06/2012
PeachCandy PeachCandy
I don't watch the show and don't have any interests. I think that lifestyle is just foul sorry...
09/06/2012
LusciousLollypop LusciousLollypop
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Originally posted by KyotoAngel
My mom DVR's that series, so I do watch it...but I don't think I'd be alright sharing my man 24/7 like that.
I could do a threesome, either way (MMF or MFF), but I don't think either of us would be able to (or desire to) have a ...
I found the recipes too! -bookmarks-
09/06/2012
LusciousLollypop LusciousLollypop
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
I've seen the show and I find it interesting. Oddly my husband hates it. "Is that guy crazy? Four women? I'd rather eat glass!" He thinks having one woman full time is enough. He also doesn't understand what "all those ...
Exactly! My boyfriend is like.. "Is this guy freaking nuts?! Four wives?!"

I am very interested in the show, not the "omg I must have this" aspect of the show. Like.. I keep up with it and watch the episodes and I'm very much into the story of their lives, almost obsessive. Lol.

I couldn't do it. For one, I don't want or need like.. 17 children or three other sister wives. I'm not religious. I know people that aren't religious and are in poly romances, such as one man and like two other woman and they are completely happy. So, I know that it can work in real life. I just don't think I'd go down that road. I am a way jealous person and I wouldn't want to sleep alone or know that my husband/boyfriend/what ever is having sex in the next room either.

I was raised as an only child and I do not share. Lol
09/06/2012
LusciousLollypop LusciousLollypop
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Originally posted by Ansley
For me, in this exact scenario I'd have the attitude of "quality over quantity". I just don't think having that many children benefits anyone or anything and I don't think I'd enjoy having to create a schedule just to make ...
I totally understand where you are getting at and that is exactly why I wanted to post this forum poll. I wanted to see other people who are equally into watching the show as I am, and how their opinions differ on different things.

Robin is majorly insecure. Christine is very jealous "all of a sudden", Mary just wants out and Janelle couldn't give a shit. They are not happy and their children aren't happy.

If it wasn't for the religion part, I've seen poly romances work. I don't agree with them because I could never do that but I don't hate them for having a poly romance. It is their choice and if it makes them happy, so be it. If they can make it work, all the power to them.

And Cody does seem very manipulative. I do not think that he is part of this crazy religious cult but he has his beliefs. He hates that poly guy that got arrested for marrying like 16 year olds and 14 year olds ect ect. He just seems like a big talker and when he talks, it is just like.. everyone has to listen and if I were in that situation, i'd just be the outspoken one who an opinion all of my own and be like "You are an idiot" but I wouldn't "hate" them for that.

It is just a super crazy show that I am so obsessed with, I totally had to ask people about it. Thanks EVERYONE for your input. It strikes me that most people probably couldn't be a sister wive, just like I could never do it either, and they have their own reasons and opinions about it. I am still obsessed over their family. LOL
09/06/2012
Leather & Lace Leather & Lace
I wouldn't be able to share my man, but polygamy has always sparked my interest.
09/06/2012
G&L G&L
No interest.
09/06/2012
Nacht Stern Nacht Stern
I watch waaay more than I should.
I have no planes made the night it's on. And I'm in my pj ready to watch an hour before.
09/06/2012
Allstars316 Allstars316
I watched the first season and then lost interest for the second. Not my thing.
09/07/2012
Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by LusciousLollypop
I totally understand where you are getting at and that is exactly why I wanted to post this forum poll. I wanted to see other people who are equally into watching the show as I am, and how their opinions differ on different things.

Robin is ...
I just feel bad for Mary. I think she feels like she has the weight of the entire family on her shoulders and she gets the least amount of attention because she has the least amount of children.

I thought Robin telling her that she'd carry a child for her and Cody was extremely presumptive and a last ditch effort to keep Mary in the family. Which is manipulative and probably only adds more anxiety for Mary.

Still, it is fascinating and it's a scripted perspective on what a poly-family might look like.

If you want to know what another poly-family looks like, ask Airen Wolf. She is the only person I've ever met who has been genuinely happy in her relationships.
09/07/2012
LusciousLollypop LusciousLollypop
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Originally posted by Ansley
I just feel bad for Mary. I think she feels like she has the weight of the entire family on her shoulders and she gets the least amount of attention because she has the least amount of children.

I thought Robin telling her that she'd carry ...
I've talked to her. And I also have other people that I've talked to about their poly romances who are super happy as well. So, it can be done. Just like.. not in that extreme cases as four wives and 17 18 children.
09/07/2012
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