I think what you do is sweet, and I hope he appreciates you. While I have no hubby when I lived with the boyfriend, I did such things making sure everything he needed was by the door, his shoes were shined, clothes laid out, lunch made.. I figured while I was just being a stay at home girl I might as well make his life easy.

My Mom is/was a stay at home wife and mom and God knows she did and still does things like this for us. My sister and I are out of the house now, but being a mom will never go away. When we come home for visits, she still does things like that. She claims that sometimes it is just easier and makes more sense to do our laundry with the rest of the households etc. I know the best way we can thank our mom is to clean up after ourselves, do the housework (without being asked) and takeover the laundry etc. when she is taking a break. I have often asked her if she regrets her decision to leave the workforce to raise her daughters and keep the household running; she has told me no, that it was the right decision for her.

Two years ago, my mom had to have abdominal surgery for colon cancer and I lived out of town at the time. I came home to take care of the house while she was recovering. I know first hand the amount of work that my mother puts into making our lives in that house wonderful and stress free. It put everything in perspective for me.

All I can say is that, I understand your reasoning for doing what you do and one day, your daughter will appreciate it. I hope your husband shows you his appreciation as well. Sometimes my Dad forgets that my Mom can't read his mind and I need to remind him that small things like cleaning up after himself, helping to clean the house etc go a long way to showing my Mom that he cares. Tell her so also helps But I know that my dad appreciates the effort my mom puts into keeping their household.

Rock on stay at home moms! I love you all truly.

No way. lol I wake up at 3am just to get my hair and makeup done in time to get my son's things ready for school and go through the ordeal of fighting him to get up and get dressed. There's no way I would wake up any earlier to make hubby lunch. Plus, he eats meat and I don't so I don't much like touching his food. I figure he's a big boy and can make his own lunch anyhow. Perhaps if I didn't have SO much on my plate already, I would make him lunch or something. I did it a few times to be nice when we lived closer to my work and didn't have a child. He seemed to appreciate it, but when he started to ask if I had made him a sandwich yet or not, I stopped. Didn't want him expecting me to wait on him when I have stuff to do, too!

It's really nice that you do that for him.

Once in a while, I'll make his lunch the night before from what we were having for dinner. But, he gets up at 4:00 AM or so, and I am not getting up that early to make lunch, coffee etc. He usually sets up the coffee maker the night before, sometimes I make it on weekends. The thing has a timer on it, but he refuses to figure out how to use it. Hint: READ the manual.

I will often make him a sandwich in the afternoon or fill his plate at dinner. Sometimes I'll make him a snack in the evening. But, I'm not a morning person, he is.

I do do his laundry and make sure he has clean shirts, pants, underwear, socks to pick from. But, I NEVER lay out his clothes. He hates that. He's a grown man and prefers to choose his own clothes. Instead of saying, "Are you going to wear that?" I usually say nothing. Unless it's a wedding or a funeral. Or holes in the clothes, he never notices holes in what he is wearing. He isn't much a fashion plate and sometimes picks out some weird combinations.