Do you have a hard time finding female friends?

Do you have a hard time finding female friends?

kristina0121 kristina0121
Do you women have a hard time finding female friends? It seems like since I became a mom, it's been hard to meet new people. I'm a very nice and outgoing person, so not socializing with many adults is driving me crazy!
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Bethy Cassatt Bethy Cassatt
My scene is very social, but it does seem like it's hard to make female friends.
Mwar Mwar
I tend to have a few female friends, but I tend to have more male friends (most of them are gay). I am very nuclear and prefer to have a few GOOD friends and then I have more vacuous/social peeps.

Depending on your child's age, have you considered a play group? Or enrolling your child in classes like dance or swim and befriending other moms?
js250 js250
I do--but only because most things I am interested in is a primarily male activity. I do have some super female friends that I have known many years, though.

After having my daughter xx years ago, I joined a play group and that really helped!!
MeenahPeixxxes MeenahPeixxxes
Yes and I blame my horrible personality. Girls shouldn't feel foreign but they do. I get along with bunches of guys and the girls I'd like to be friends with I either cower from or I talk myself out of it because of some lack in self esteem.
funluvinmama funluvinmama
I find it hard to make friends. I would love to have any friends near me, the only ones I have are online.

I work 4 days a week from 10 am to 3 pm and don't go anywhere except to the store. I have tried to set up play dates for my kids but the other parents always end up canceling. I can't afford to put my kids into any activities where I could meet other parents.
emiliaa emiliaa
Being attracted to all of them kinda makes it hard.
travelnurse travelnurse
It is hard and you have to be very careful with those you work with!
Alyxx Alyxx
I do. I've always found guys much easier to get along with.
Pixel Pixel
Yup. I don't get along well with women. I'm not overly femme myself, and have no idea how interact with them for the most part.
hyacinthgirl hyacinthgirl
I've never found it hard, but I'm a giant dork, and I make friends with other women who are giant dorks. Something about all of us having the same type of social awkwardness seems to help.

Or... I don't know, I've always thought of myself as an introverted person, and can be antisocial at times, but I also have more close friends than almost anyone I know, and plenty of casual friends. I've always found it pretty easy to make and keep friends, especially female friends, and I've been told that it's unusual.

I found most of my female friends in school, though some through work or volunteering or internet message boards.
Sera26 Sera26
Yes, I always feel like women are competing with each other even when it's unnecessary and I find that very off putting.
sparksrebbecca sparksrebbecca
I'm a full time college student, a full time mother, and working part time as well. It is difficult enough for me to meet new people (of any gender), and even more difficult to find female friends. I find females to be a lot of drama (at least around here), and I cannot tolerate them very well.
AliMc AliMc
I have a hard time finding friends regardless of gender lol
KyotoAngel KyotoAngel
Not really, most of my friends are women. It's the opposite gender that I seem to have trouble making friends with.
It's easy enough to make male friends, but a lot of them have made it abundantly clear they'd be interested in much more than just friendship.
Ansley Ansley
I do, but mostly because they don't understand how I can be so submissive to my husband and be a go-getter in the corporate world. It seems to really fry their neurons.

Then there's the added stuff like I don't want kids, they usually do and when they start family planning or actually get pregnant I have nothing in common with them anymore and I fear becoming their regular babysitter because we're homebodies. (But, what we do at home is not in any way, shape or form kid-friendly and I don't feel the need to explain those things to them so it just comes off as me being allergic to kids.)

And of course, there's the occasional "grass is greener" woman who thinks she can give my husband whatever she has determined he is lacking in our marriage (which is nothing, truth be told) and then I have to kick a bitch's ass and it just sucks to have to go through that.
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Yes, very much so. I have maybe 5 female friends in total and about 100 male ones I swear. I'm not very social though, I'm very anti-social so there's my problem.
SkylarrStarr SkylarrStarr
Originally posted by Sera26
Yes, I always feel like women are competing with each other even when it's unnecessary and I find that very off putting.
This is what I have found as well. Many women can be so catty. I like to compliment people on various things, like a nice dress or haircut or makeup item they are wearing. Often times when I do this, the subject is taken aback to receive the compliment, like they don't take it seriously. Why do women do this? I feel that being nice and giving a compliment is a great ice breaker, but I guess others don't see it that way.

It's hard for me to make female friends in my own age bracket. Most of my female friends are 10+ years older than me and it works out well. I only have about 5 fairly close ones, which I have been friends with for a very long time.
Beaners Beaners
I don't consider myself a "typical" woman. I don't deal with bullshit very well, like cars, don't care about clothes or shoes very much (thank god I have my mostly gay boyfriend to help me there), and swear up a storm. As a result it's hard for me to find female friends. :\ I have one friend here that I would actually consider a very good friend, and I'm holding on to her for dear life, lol!
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