If today was your last day...

Contributor: Breas Breas
This has been on my mind for a little while now. I've been watching this TV show where the character is dealing with a situation where she knows she only has like, 8 years left of her life.

It got me thinking... If you knew that you had only one month left to live, would your daily life change drastically? would it not change at all? maybe just a little bit? and would your answer be different if you had one year to live, or let's say 5 years?

Personally, I feel that my life would change drastically and this makes me think about my everyday life and how I could be "seizing the moment" instead of putting things off like I usually do. I probably shouldn't get so weird about a hypothetical question but the more I thought about it, the more I became bothered.

Anywho, so my questions for discussion are basically:
If you had a month to live, how would your life/actions change?
If this time was increased to only one year, or five years, would the changes differ any?
and of course, you can add anything to the discussion (not just the answers I've asked). I'm interested in hearing what everyone has to say!
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
My life/actions would change completely
BG529 , Peggi , SimpleTeaser , GONE! , MistressDandelion
5  (19%)
My life/actions would change drastically but not completely
BlooJay , - Kira - , MissBre , booboo111926 , indiglo , K101 , pootpootpoot , treefrog88 , darthkitt3n , dv8
10  (38%)
My life/actions would change somewhat
WD40watcher , DeliciousSurprise , Azule , OhMy! , my name
5  (19%)
My life/actions would not change at all
G&L , amazon , digit88 , married with children , AshMegYo
5  (19%)
Other
js250
1  (4%)
Total votes: 26
Poll is closed
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Contributor: js250 js250
When I was in that accident a couple of years ago, I was blue, not breathing and had no pulse when the ambulance arrived. It was one hell of a wake up call for me, I realized that you never know when you will not have a 'later' to do things.

I made a lot of changes in my life, not leaving anything unsaid, getting myself happy mentally, becoming the person I wanted to be someday.. it is still ongoing, I treat every day like it is my last--one of them almost was. Let those you love know it, and be a person you are proud of today.
06/08/2012
Contributor: BG529 BG529
Quote:
Originally posted by js250
When I was in that accident a couple of years ago, I was blue, not breathing and had no pulse when the ambulance arrived. It was one hell of a wake up call for me, I realized that you never know when you will not have a 'later' to do things. ... more
i so agree with this. You never know what will happen. I always say what I feel. That may be bad cause I always feel as if I am rude..
06/08/2012
Contributor: PassionateLover2 PassionateLover2
I completely agree with the position "to live your life to the fullest each and EVERDAY" as the good Lord gives us! I am glad you started this thread. I think many people have similar thoughts. Living here on the west coast of the U.S., we just don't know when the next 'big one' (earthquake) will happen. But I wonder if that is the same thing. But from a health standpoint, I do think it takes on a whole different way perspective.

By the way, for everyone, that day may be closer to us than we think, like, December 21, 2012 don't you think!!!
06/08/2012
Contributor: Peggi Peggi
Honestly, I'd leave work and spend time with my loved ones if I only had 1 month left to live. I wouldn't bother spending my time away from the people I care about, and just enjoy it with them.
06/08/2012
Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
I'd keep my son home from school and spend the time with him, even if he drives me a little nutty sometimes. Then I'd make my husband take some vacation time so I could spend time with him as well.
06/08/2012
Contributor: SimpleTeaser SimpleTeaser
It would change drastically because, I'd want to live every moment to the fullest. That's really what I should be doing now, we never know when it's our last day.
06/08/2012
Contributor: G&L G&L
I'm already doing what I want to do with my life. I have a beautiful wife and I'm very happy with everything.
06/08/2012
Contributor: my name my name
i happy with the way i am living
06/09/2012
Contributor: GONE! GONE!
The less time I had, the more dramatically I would change. I have thought about this a lot lately and it has urged me to have more fun while I'm still alive.
06/09/2012
Contributor: Breas Breas
Quote:
Originally posted by SimpleTeaser
It would change drastically because, I'd want to live every moment to the fullest. That's really what I should be doing now, we never know when it's our last day.
See that's what I was thinking too. I mean, we all know that we're going to die eventually and when given the question "if you only had a month left", most people would say "I'd live it to the fullest". I feel like I should be doing that every day. Life is short, know what I mean?
06/09/2012
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
There are definitely things I would do completely differently. I've been putting off some traveling I'd like to do, for example, because life is just too busy and it costs more these days.
06/09/2012
Contributor: K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by Breas
This has been on my mind for a little while now. I've been watching this TV show where the character is dealing with a situation where she knows she only has like, 8 years left of her life.

It got me thinking... If you knew that you had ... more
I'm pretty big on living every day... I don't live everyday like it is my last day and I don't want to think about that, but I do pretty good about living every day happily and without ANY regrets. I don't regret things, I choose to learn from my mistakes. BUT there is one thing I COULD regret and that's waiting to say things like how I feel until it is too late. My mom told me something once about regrets and not regretting what you say, but regretting what you never got the nerves up TO say. I have learned a lot ever since she told me that and I do my best to speak things that I want my loved ones to know. Something about it really stuck with me because I don't EVER miss my chance to say those important things. For me, I would regret not telling my loved ones how much they mean to me all the time and not letting them know exactly what I love so much about each of them. So I've made a point to do it. It sounds cheesy, but I never go a single day without telling the kids that they are beautiful and that I love them. My neices have never gone a day without hearing those words from my mouth and I don't ever want them to. My parents, partner, sister and all the kids never go a day without hearing I love you. And for my grandparents, when I talk to them, I ALWAYS say I love you and you are precious to me.

So I guess the most important things in my life truly are my loved ones. A big part of me is all about making them happy. I would change things if I didn't think I'd live longer. I would go out and do crazy things instead of missing the chance. Like for instance running in the fields all over the mountain I live on. I always want to just stop driving, get out of the car and run! That thought comes to me each evening when it's really pretty out like today and I'm driving home. If I didn't think I'd live longer, I'd stop and damnit I'd run through that field! LOL. I would go do some of the things I really want like scuba dive ,swim with dolphins, see a snow owl. I would go spend the night in the Gordon Lee Mansion and all those things I've always wanted to do and plan to.

Still, the most important thing would be that my family and loved ones know exactly how I feel about them. I've even written down in a notebook, for each person I love, just how I feel about them. I get scared when I think of dying and these people not knowing just how I thought of them. Occasionally, when I have time, I keep a few special notes jotted down in my notebook. I'm a writer so everything gets jotted down. If someone were to read my years and years worth of notebooks, they'd think I'm crazy because little story ideas get jotted down along with everything. But when something special has happened, like when my dad and I have or special moments, I write down what it meant to me. See, throughout my teen years I kept my notebooks for writing the bad things. Writing is kind of therapeutic for me so when I was ever upset, I'd write it. Once my partner was reading one of my notebooks and thought I was crazy. So I decided that it was OK to write the bad since it was a release for me, but that I should also focus on writing the good. Now I have even more notebooks of damn feelings! LOL. But, if I ever died, I have told my partner that I wanted him to read my good notebooks and share everything I've written with everyone of my loved ones. I don't think they could ever comprehend just what they mean to me.

Long story! LOL. Sorry about that. It is interesting to read what everyone says. I'm still really young and passionate about everything under the sun. I still feel like I can take on the world and am eager to do everything I have ever wanted. In my mind, none of the things I want to ever accomplish or do, no matter how unrealistic, seem impossible to me. I don't think I'll ever be that person that simply gives up and turns old and says to the grandkids "I always wanted to do this and that, but well, I'm too old." I feel like I really will do it all. I mean, unless I die. I just don't feel like that passion and eagerness will ever just die in me personally.
06/09/2012
Contributor: K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by PassionateLover2
I completely agree with the position "to live your life to the fullest each and EVERDAY" as the good Lord gives us! I am glad you started this thread. I think many people have similar thoughts. Living here on the west coast of the U.S., we ... more
THIS. I totally agree with the "last day may be closer than we think." My family, parnter and I are Christian and we discuss quite often how the end times are closing in on us. Not to upset anyone who doesn't believe this way, but I am just saying this is our own beliefs. I think since we do talk about how we don't have a whole lot of time left, it really helps us to live every day a bit more "fuller" than we might if we didn't regularly discuss it. I'm not ready for anything to be over though. I have so many plans! But I agree, I want to be every bit prepared.
06/09/2012
Contributor: amazon amazon
Live every day like it may be the last, and life will be pretty damn nice!
06/09/2012
Contributor: digit88 digit88
Quote:
Originally posted by Breas
This has been on my mind for a little while now. I've been watching this TV show where the character is dealing with a situation where she knows she only has like, 8 years left of her life.

It got me thinking... If you knew that you had ... more
no change
06/09/2012
Contributor: SimpleTeaser SimpleTeaser
Quote:
Originally posted by Breas
See that's what I was thinking too. I mean, we all know that we're going to die eventually and when given the question "if you only had a month left", most people would say "I'd live it to the fullest". I feel like I ... more
I know exactly what you mean. I just hope that it's not down to my last days before I really do live life as if it's my last.
06/09/2012
Contributor: married with children married with children
I try to live every day like it could be my last. Life is too short to waste time. I treat people nicely. I stand up for what is right and good. I try to leave the life in a better place then it was before I woke up for the day.
06/11/2012
Contributor: AshMegYo AshMegYo
I'd stop being such a bitch to my man i always feel so bad for being so picky.
06/11/2012