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Do you enjoy make up sex?

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Contributor: CuteDee CuteDee
After my partner and I have a fight (usually something he said and it hurt my feelings then he got upset about that but always apologies) he wants to have sex.

Im usually still a bit miffed and really dont wanna have sex cuz it just feels like f**king and not loving.

Ive heard some couples really enjoy having make up sex... is it true??
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Yes... pick a fight just to make up
6
No... Im still upset
17
Other...
13
Total votes: 36 (35 voters)
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06/14/2011
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Contributor: AngelEyes1975 AngelEyes1975
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Originally posted by CuteDee
After my partner and I have a fight (usually something he said and it hurt my feelings then he got upset about that but always apologies) he wants to have sex.

Im usually still a bit miffed and really dont wanna have sex cuz it just feels ... more
I never understood make up sex. How can you emotionally connect with someone who just hurt you or that you are angry with for something? I just don't get it. Even when it wasn't love in the past it took work to get me in the mood. As in the person being nice to me, touching me over time all he had to do it kiss me and i was putty in his hands. the idea of being upset or angry and having sex with my husband just doesn't sound like an enjoyable thing.
06/14/2011
Contributor: AngelEyes1975 AngelEyes1975
Quote:
Originally posted by CuteDee
After my partner and I have a fight (usually something he said and it hurt my feelings then he got upset about that but always apologies) he wants to have sex.

Im usually still a bit miffed and really dont wanna have sex cuz it just feels ... more
I just thought of something else too. I re-read you post and thought maybe as a guy he is feeling like that is the ultimate way he can apologize to you for what he said. He thinks he can make up for it even more so then just saying sorry. I know men think so very different then we do... what do you think?
06/14/2011
Contributor: padmeamidala padmeamidala
Quote:
Originally posted by CuteDee
After my partner and I have a fight (usually something he said and it hurt my feelings then he got upset about that but always apologies) he wants to have sex.

Im usually still a bit miffed and really dont wanna have sex cuz it just feels ... more
I enjoy make up sex a lot. It tends to be rougher and a lot more intense.
06/14/2011
Contributor: MaryExy MaryExy
Quote:
Originally posted by padmeamidala
I enjoy make up sex a lot. It tends to be rougher and a lot more intense.
Ditto.
06/14/2011
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
No, I don't particularly like make up sex. It takes me a little while to shift gears like that - from being hurt or angry, to wanting to have sex. However, the next time we're together (maybe the next day, or maybe even later the same day) it does sometimes feel extra bonding and like more of an emotional outlet for me - which can make it feel better physically.
06/14/2011
Contributor: MN58 MN58
I like it sometimes, but a lot of the times i need some time to cool off.
06/14/2011
Contributor: married with children married with children
I enjoy all sex with my wife. But I hate fighting, so we do not have a change to have make up sex very often. I would never pick a fight just to get make up sex. not worth it for us and our relationship.
06/15/2011
Contributor: big b big b
it can be great
06/15/2011
Contributor: hspence hspence
love it!!
06/15/2011
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
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Originally posted by married with children
I enjoy all sex with my wife. But I hate fighting, so we do not have a change to have make up sex very often. I would never pick a fight just to get make up sex. not worth it for us and our relationship.
Agreed!

I hate fighting with my husband, it makes me feel like crap and stresses me out (causing a whole swarm of other problems; stress and MS are not compatible!) If we happen to fight and have sex afterwards, great. We truly enjoy our playtime with each other, but would never go out of our way to purposefully pick a fight with each other.
06/15/2011
Contributor: curmudgeoncat curmudgeoncat
I feel pretty weird, but I have yet to get into an argument with the guy I've been dating for six months. Typically if something is bothering either of us, we just talk about it and fix it.
06/15/2011
Contributor: ID42 ID42
I think that sex after the make up is better. Angry fucking is nice sometimes, but when I'm pissed with my man, I don't want to have sex with him. I usually don't want to be touched or even bothered until everything is happy go lucky again.
06/15/2011
Contributor: CuteDee CuteDee
Quote:
Originally posted by AngelEyes1975
I just thought of something else too. I re-read you post and thought maybe as a guy he is feeling like that is the ultimate way he can apologize to you for what he said. He thinks he can make up for it even more so then just saying sorry. I know men ... more
You could have a point there... I do like having sex w/my bf and he knows it so he may be trying to make me feel better w/sex. However, I usually dont feel better. = ( I might feel better if he was more romantic about it... More kissing and touching... but hes just not like that. = (
06/15/2011
Contributor: ac0313 ac0313
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Originally posted by curmudgeoncat
I feel pretty weird, but I have yet to get into an argument with the guy I've been dating for six months. Typically if something is bothering either of us, we just talk about it and fix it.
Similar time and situation for us.

We have not had make-up sex and do not think we will ever have the situation to consider it. Our communication is completely open and honest, not always immediate though, and any issue that starts is quicky brought up and discussed. With our varied interstes and activities, we do not see anything that would cause one to judge the other or create an environment where an argument would begin.

We may be thought of as naive, but with 24 years of a prior marriage full of secrets and un-shared feelings, I have learned a great deal about what does not work. And my SO has a few relationships that have failed due to various issues, many of which revolve around poor communication and/or respect for the other.

We hope we never get to try make-up sex, but it certainly cannot be any better (more raw, emotional, romantic) than what we have now.
06/15/2011
Contributor: Cedarlooman Cedarlooman
After an argument or fight, my wife really wants to reconnect and the make up sex is amazing. I would never start a fight just to have make-up sex though. We don't actually fight that often, but my wife tends to bottle things up instead of talking about them right away so it happens every couple of months or so.
06/15/2011
Contributor: A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople)
We've had it once and it was amazing. I'm still not sure why.
06/18/2011
Contributor: IrishLassie IrishLassie
you know, I have never had make up sex. I find it really hard to have sex while we/I am still angry. We tell each other we should have sex but never actually do it.
06/29/2011
Contributor: sarki sarki
Never had make up sex
06/30/2011
Contributor: mzhoneythang mzhoneythang
Quote:
Originally posted by CuteDee
After my partner and I have a fight (usually something he said and it hurt my feelings then he got upset about that but always apologies) he wants to have sex.

Im usually still a bit miffed and really dont wanna have sex cuz it just feels ... more
umm....i used to, but since my bf is an ass and i can see that he's not really going to change...with him it's lost its novelty. i guess it depends on the person, i think it could be great the first few times but other than that...probably not.
07/06/2011
Contributor: SadoMas SadoMas
No..
08/13/2012
Contributor: woodsdragon woodsdragon
There is definitely something to be said about make-up sex. We honestly don't fit all that much and we usually end up making love after we fight
08/13/2012
Contributor: MissCandyland MissCandyland
Heck no, I'm still mad! Don't touch me!
10/09/2012
Contributor: Zandrock Zandrock
Sometimes yes, sometimes no
10/09/2012