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What Are Your Dating Turn-Offs?

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Contributor: Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
DAMMIT, I MEANT TURN-ONS, not turn-offs!!! Can't change the title now though, argh Well, crap. Hope I get replies nonetheless


A while ago, Edeneve posted the discussion What are your dating turn-offs? After thinking about it, I thought it only fair to start a turn-ons thread. At the very least in an attempt to rehab my reputation based on my lengthy list of turn-offs, LOL!

I don't want to influence the responses too much right off, so I will only mention one of my dating turn-ons:

-good manners/courteousness! !!

...carry on!
12/04/2015
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Contributor: RonLee RonLee
Smart is very sexy! (with or without university degrees)
Unconventionally attractive
Passionate about more than one interest
Ability to accept divergent views
12/05/2015
Contributor: Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
Quote:
Originally posted by RonLee
Smart is very sexy! (with or without university degrees)
Unconventionally attractive
Passionate about more than one interest
Ability to accept divergent views
Hey, RonLee, great to see you again and thanks for answering. As usual, I couldn't agree more with your comments.

Very good call on these and not your run of the mill answers, thanks! I don't know if I would have thought of the last one, but I sure agree with you. I also find that a university degree, or graduate degree for that matter, is no guarantee of intelligence And how nice to see someone appreciate when another person is passionate about more than one interest. I often feel like there are so many people who have no passion to speak of (and I don't mean a passionate self interest, lol). It sounds like those traits you mention would make for an engaging and successful date!
12/05/2015
Contributor: Vnessa Vnessa
Confidence
Intelligence
A Conversationalist
Someone with a good sense of humor
Soulful Eyes
Sexy Grins
Manners! The lady comes first....in all things
The sexy scent of a good cologne
12/05/2015
Contributor: Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
Quote:
Originally posted by Vnessa
Confidence
Intelligence
A Conversationalist
Someone with a good sense of humor
Soulful Eyes
Sexy Grins
Manners! The lady comes first....in all things
The sexy scent of a good cologne
Ohhh, thanks for replying!! Nice list. Nice to see intelligence pop up again
12/06/2015
Contributor: Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
In no particular order...

- Open mindedness
- Good hygiene
- Manners
- The ability to hold an intelligent conversation
- A true sense of humor (vs. he's obnoxious but thinks he's funny)
- Someone who doesn't follow trends just to look cool
- Someone who doesn't believe he's a sex guru (because that type is usually the opposite)
- A mellow disposition overall... no hyper chatter or being an attention ho
12/08/2015
Contributor: Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
Quote:
Originally posted by Alan & Michele
In no particular order...

- Open mindedness
- Good hygiene
- Manners
- The ability to hold an intelligent conversation
- A true sense of humor (vs. he's obnoxious but thinks he's funny)
- Someone who doesn't follow ... more
Ohh, can't say I disagree with a single thing!

Love that you specified "vs. he's obnoxious but thinks he's funny" LOL! Seems to be a lot of that going around nowadays

I'd add to the "Someone who doesn't follow trends just to look cool" to say, no pseudo-iconoclasts, either, lol!

As I think on it, a lot of what I agree with in people's choices has to do with a person's maturity level.
12/08/2015
Contributor: MrClark MrClark
Quote:
Originally posted by RonLee
Smart is very sexy! (with or without university degrees)
Unconventionally attractive
Passionate about more than one interest
Ability to accept divergent views
This is pretty much my thoughts on this too...

I tended to struggle to find women I could carry a conversation on with... I think it's become easier for me as I learned to communicate better and online dating became an option. So the smart and able to carry on a conversation with me is a key attractor for me. It definitely helps if they have a passion for things as well, as this allows me to get excited about what excites them.
06/13/2016