The New Intimacy

Does it bother you when your partner leaves or goes to bed without giving you a kiss?

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Contributor: CuteDee CuteDee
It always bothers me when my boyfriend leaves for work w/o kissing me good bye.

I also feel upset when he just goes to bed... No good nite, I love you, or kiss.

Is that normal? Does anyone else feel miffed by this? = p
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Yes... Pucker up, baby!
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No... It's okay to not kiss all the time!
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9  (10%)
Total votes: 94
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Contributor: MJ1337 MJ1337
I'm a super affectionate person... so I like the goodnight kissies
07/04/2011
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
We would not be miffed by the lack of a kiss; however, the lack of acknowledgment at all would piss either of us off. We almost always give a kiss goodbye or goodnight, but even when we don't kiss we at least say something (even if we are mad at each other).
07/04/2011
Contributor: Noira Celestia Noira Celestia
I need my kisses goodnight. ;0; But I don't always get them. Sad face
07/04/2011
Contributor: Dusk Dusk
We usually do goodnight kisses
07/04/2011
Contributor: MaryExy MaryExy
On normal nights I'd get upset if I didn't get something like that, but sometimes he's too tired, which I understand.
07/04/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by Redboxbaby
We would not be miffed by the lack of a kiss; however, the lack of acknowledgment at all would piss either of us off. We almost always give a kiss goodbye or goodnight, but even when we don't kiss we at least say something (even if we are mad at ... more
Yea - that's us as well.
07/04/2011
Contributor: M.H1 M.H1
I can't really sleep if i don't get a good night kiss
07/04/2011
Contributor: tickle me pink tickle me pink
My husband and I both have to give each other goodbye and goodnight kisses. Even if we just had a fight we will at least say "I love you."
07/04/2011
Contributor: ss143 ss143
It bothers me if that happens
07/04/2011
Contributor: married with children married with children
it is ok sometimes, I know that life gets busy. But not all the time
07/05/2011
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
I don't know if I'd get miffed... especially at night. Sometimes he just konks right out. But I definitely prefer it!
07/05/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
We don't normally kiss goodnight, but he always gives me a kiss in the morning before he leaves for work. It's how I know he's left the house vs just doing things around the house while I'm still sleeping.
07/05/2011
Contributor: Envy Envy
I no longer have a partner, but I don't think it'd bother me, I'm not an overly affectionate person to begin with.
07/05/2011
Contributor: amandaco2011 amandaco2011
I crave the intimacy and affection.
07/05/2011
Contributor: Acorn Acorn
We always say I love you and kiss goodnight. I'd be sad without it.
07/05/2011
Contributor: Jaimes Jaimes
It's one of the few things that will make me go from happy to livid in just a few seconds. I have a pretty mellow temper. He hasn't done it in years though. Apparently, the message was received.
07/05/2011
Contributor: lovemuscle n cookie lovemuscle n cookie
A good night kiss is a must!
07/05/2011
Contributor: Gingy Gingy
Quote:
Originally posted by CuteDee
It always bothers me when my boyfriend leaves for work w/o kissing me good bye.

I also feel upset when he just goes to bed... No good nite, I love you, or kiss.

Is that normal? Does anyone else feel miffed by this? = p
This would annoy the $%#* out of me!
I live seperate from my partner a few days a week and find it very hard not receiving the good night phone call or text. When Im at her house we never go to bed at different times even if it means Im in bed before 10pm I deal with it so I can hug her :/ (I know Im a dork)
07/05/2011
Contributor: A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople)
I'm not a really "kissy" person, so it's absolutely okay. In fact, I rarely kiss before going to bed.
07/06/2011
Contributor: Eucaly Eucaly
Kissing is for when you feel like it. Not a routine or a chore.
07/07/2011
Contributor: ac0313 ac0313
Yes, it bothers both of us if the other does not. We have a routine where we will say "I love you" then "Goodnight" before going to sleep. In the morning, I am up for work before her, but still kiss her good morning be fore I leave.
07/07/2011
Contributor: IrishLassie IrishLassie
we always try to kiss each other before we go to bed or when one of us leaves before the other. However it doesnt happen all the time or sometimes I am an incredibly sound sleeper and dont wake up when he kisses me. It doesnt happen often and we have been married enough that it doesnt hurt my feelings anymore.
07/09/2011
Contributor: K101 K101
Yes, it's normal. I don't think kissing is something that has to happen constantly, but I have to admit I'd feel a little strange and maybe sad if my partner left or went to bed without kissing me. He kisses me even when I come outta the bathroom! Lol. I'd think he must be up to something if he didn't give me a little kiss since he's always doing it. I think it's a good thing though. It's good when a couple still cares that much and shows love. Some couples don't even kiss or really touch very often after so long. I don't want to be that way. I don't like someone clinging to me, but I like when he gives me a kiss or puts his hand on my thigh while in the car or smack my booty every single time I get up. Lol.
07/18/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by CuteDee
It always bothers me when my boyfriend leaves for work w/o kissing me good bye.

I also feel upset when he just goes to bed... No good nite, I love you, or kiss.

Is that normal? Does anyone else feel miffed by this? = p
For DECADES he would never leave without giving me a kiss...but he leaves SO early for work, I have asked him to PLEASE not wake me up with one. May sound bad, but after 31 years of wonderful love, I KNOW he loves me. He KNOWS I love him and clamping lips for half a second does nothing to enhance or detract from that fact. When he comes home he can kiss me twice as long. At 5 am (when I don't need to get up till 7), I will take the sleep instead..thank you.
07/21/2011
Contributor: padmeamidala padmeamidala
Quote:
Originally posted by CuteDee
It always bothers me when my boyfriend leaves for work w/o kissing me good bye.

I also feel upset when he just goes to bed... No good nite, I love you, or kiss.

Is that normal? Does anyone else feel miffed by this? = p
I always kiss my Master goodnight so it would really bother me if he didn't.
07/21/2011
Contributor: onehotmomma onehotmomma
It used to bother me, when we were by ourselves. Add two kids into the mix, and the fact he works the night shift and is going to bed as we are finishing dinner or wrapping up sports/playdates, I'm not so bothered about it anymore
08/13/2011
Contributor: EJ EJ
Generally speaking, I would say "kiss when you feel like it; don't make it mandatory because that takes some of the spontaneity and joy out of it." However, like Jul!a, I'm presently with a man who kisses me goodbye before he goes to work. Because it has become a ritual of affection, I would think something was wrong (or that he was upset at me) if he didn't do it.
08/13/2011
Contributor: Breas Breas
It doesnt really bother me
08/13/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
For DECADES he would never leave without giving me a kiss...but he leaves SO early for work, I have asked him to PLEASE not wake me up with one. May sound bad, but after 31 years of wonderful love, I KNOW he loves me. He KNOWS I love him and clamping ... more
My Man gets up at about 4:00 or a little later and leaves about the time that yours does.

I am a light sleeper, so there is no way I could sleep through his bath, shower, dressing etc. So, I may as well get up groggily on one elbow and kiss him. That is if we're not having sex. Yep, we often squeeze one in that early.

Once in a while I don't wake up until he comes back into the bedroom after his bath and shower, but I don't think in all the years we've been together he's ever gotten out of the room without waking me. But, I sleep very lightly.

Sometimes, if we aren't having sex that night, we go to be without a kiss. I usually kiss him in the living room before we go upstairs. I don't know why. It's just something we do. Sometimes I reach over in the bed and punch him on the shoulder. Very sexy.
08/13/2011