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Can a person REALLY love someone if they cheat????

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Contributor: Kdlips Kdlips
I love to get down, be freaky, have multiples and give multiples! Well these past 3 years have been really complicated for me. I guess you can categorize me as a NYMPHO...I wanna go 3-2 times a day, 7 days a week. I have had men back up off me and be like damn baby I aint no machine! Well the past three years I have been able to suppress my urges, but the more I try to behave myself...the harder the temptation!

I know my sexy is amazing, aint no questioning that...but how can my man feel comfortable only having sexy with me once or twice a month....knowing how I like to get down. And the crazy thing is usually its the man upset cuz the woman is not giving it up!

Well know I have come to the point where I am like Ima have to get me some on the side. And it is nothing personal, it is not about me trying to be in a relationship with another man or trying to hurt the man that I am with. I just have needs and i go into withdrawl and turn into the wicked witch of the west ....when my sexually balance is off!!!!!


Does this mean I don't love my man! Of course not! I love him with all my heart and soul and can actually see me being with him for a long time.....but I have my needs and if he is not "superman", then whats wrong with getting a little supper on the side???? i dont feel Im disrespectful with it. I dont have to lie about it, because he doesnt ask. The cooch still is nice and tight when he slide up in it....SO DO YALL THINK IM WRONG?
05/11/2011
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Contributor: LicentiouslyYours LicentiouslyYours
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Originally posted by Kdlips
I love to get down, be freaky, have multiples and give multiples! Well these past 3 years have been really complicated for me. I guess you can categorize me as a NYMPHO...I wanna go 3-2 times a day, 7 days a week. I have had men back up off me and be ... more
Yep. If your partner thinks you're monogamous with him and you are not, that's a lie. Doesn't matter if you didn't speak the words.

That said, having sex outside your relationship with your partner is not inherently wrong. You just have to be respectful and responsible about it. I'd suggest you pick up either The Ethical Slut or Opening Up. Both are excellent books about being how to practice non-monogamy.
05/11/2011
Contributor: Yebby Yebby
Yes I do believe your wrong. When you choose to be in a commited relationship with someone you have made the decision to be respectful of them as well as yourself. If you both choose to have an open relationship that you are both aware of then it would be acceptable. It's never okay to treat someone else as though their feelings don't matter no matter if by accident or purpose.
05/20/2011
Contributor: Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
Most definitely! The parts of the brain responsible for sexual attraction and impulse control are completely separate from those which would drive you to be in a long term emotional relationship. I recently watched a documentary on the science behind "cheating" and the roles of Alpha/beta distinctions in modern society that I found really interesting. It went into various aspects of nature/nurture, evolution, hormone balance. Anyhow, one of the points they broached particularly pertaining to this topic is a woman's hormonal tendency to be polygamous based on her ovulation and fertility.

How the documentary put it was that when a woman is most fertile she will be attracted/ turned on by a certain set of features- typically those of "Alpha males" because subconsciously she wants to breed with those characteristics. Outside of that women are more attracted to the characteristics found in beta males as they are typically more suited to fathering and providing stability for the home. Even if consciously you don't want kids right now, your hormones will still be triggered in the same way and drive you to want sex with that individual, or those characteristics.
05/20/2011