Do you look at others?

Do you look at others?

klyte klyte
With my relationship, I don't ever look at other people. A lot of people claim that I'm lying or being dishonest, but I truly just don't like looking at other women and I don't see them as women, just people. I walk right past without a glance. I can tell you if they're unattractive to me or not, but I don't say they're hot or attractive, even with just my friends. Do you openly admit to looking at other people because you find it healthy, or are you too blinded by your wife/SO to even recognize them?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I look at other people.
9  (22%)
I look at others, but not very often.
18  (44%)
I look at others, but I'd like to stop.
I don't look at other people.
3  (7%)
I don't even see other people, I'm far too excited about what I have.
11  (27%)
Total votes: 41
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12/15/2011
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switzerland switzerland
i don't look at other people nor am i interested in other men. when my man sees another girl, he always tells me that she isn't me. which is nice, but i'd prefer if he just didn't look in the first place
12/15/2011
The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
I don't even see anyone but my fiancee!
12/15/2011
~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
I look sometimes, but don't gawk when I do. I'll say something to my guy about a hot gal that walked past and 99% of the time he will say he wasn't even paying attention. Only once did I catch him do a double take and its an inside joke now. Looking is nothing bad unless you are truly ignoring your partner! Looking doesn't mean you are interested.
12/16/2011
Coralbell Coralbell
My boyfriend and I were talking about this a couple of days ago. I never look at other guys, but I will notice attractive women. He says he can't help looking at other women, but doesn't actually have any interest in them. I don't mind, and can't really blame him.
12/16/2011
Shellz31 Shellz31
I never noticed others when with past partners. It was like they were the only guys in the world...lol.
Being single now, I can't say whether or not I'd notice guys while in a relationship. But I would notice girls.
In my opinion, it's fine to notice and mention hot girls cause any male partners would be checking them out too....lol.
If I was with a female partner, it would be a different story.
12/16/2011
Chirple Chirple
I dunno, we talk about cute other people together despite not being poly (not that poly's a bad thing, but in this context I think it makes a slight difference).
12/16/2011
K101 K101
OMG! My heart skipped a beat when I read this! I am in the SAME EXACT "situation!" I have been told for years that I am a liar because ALL people look and lust. You don't know how awesome it is to hear that my partner and I are not the only ones! I seriously started to think I had some kind of disorder. No joke! Not that I am complaining. I love that my partner is everything I dreamed of in a man...of course not perfect, but everything I ever wanted! I'm so excited to hear that others feel the same way.

So neat!
12/16/2011
Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Usually GF and myself end up checking out the same people, then we compare our observations
12/16/2011
K101 K101
PS: For the record, looking IS NOT something that isn't controllable! It isn't a disease that you cannot help. It's fully controllable. It all comes down to wanting to or not. If you don't want to look and don't care about the opposite sex (besides your partner) then you won't have the desire to look at them in that way. I should introduce my partner! He is a man and does not look. He'll be the 1st to tell you that it's not about control, it's about wanting to or not and that if you don't WANT to, it's not something that has to be controlled. Control would be you are tempted, but control it. If you're not tempted, you simply won't do it or feel the need to.
12/16/2011
Rossie Rossie
Both my husband and I check other people out, we only look at them because they're attractive, it's not like we want to go to bed with them! In my opinion, the more a person denies it, the more he/she actually WANTS to but feels guilty about that impulse.
12/16/2011
AndroAngel AndroAngel
I can appreciate a beautiful person, no matter the gender, and my lover and I often find someone catching our eye. I honestly don't see it as a problem. Admiring a beautiful person is no threat to our relationship. I don't need to be the only one he finds beautiful, I don't even need to be the most beautiful person, because our relationship is so much deeper than looks.
12/17/2011
Girly Girl Girly Girl
i really don´t
12/18/2011
Vanille Vanille
I'm too daydream-y to notice other people than my girlfriend.
12/18/2011
indiglo indiglo
I voted the last option. I don't even see other people, I'm too excited with what I have. I honestly don't look either.
12/18/2011
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by klyte
With my relationship, I don't ever look at other people. A lot of people claim that I'm lying or being dishonest, but I truly just don't like looking at other women and I don't see them as women, just people. I walk right past without ...
I have no problem looking at either men or women even though I am totally besotted by my guys. I don't think it's wrong to admire a lovely chin, a beautiful pair of eyes and graceful hand gesture. I think all people are lovely and beg looking at, but it doesn't mean I want to have a relationship or even just sex with them. I look, much the same way one would look at a lovely or even just unusual painting. It keeps me connected to the wide world, and is perfectly natural.....BUT my life partner truly doesn't look most of the time and never when he is with me unless I point people out. That's natural too as far as I can see and is quite a compliment.
12/18/2011
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Chirple
I dunno, we talk about cute other people together despite not being poly (not that poly's a bad thing, but in this context I think it makes a slight difference).
Not terribly actually LOL We are poly but I notice my guys actually don't really like me pointing out women to them...though they will laugh and admit that it is harmless. Generally we tend to pick partners after we get to know them in a social setting. I love going people watching with my guys...though I do notice they are less likely to point out men to me than I am to point out hawt women! Funny how that works...
12/18/2011
Zombirella Zombirella
Quote:
Originally posted by klyte
With my relationship, I don't ever look at other people. A lot of people claim that I'm lying or being dishonest, but I truly just don't like looking at other women and I don't see them as women, just people. I walk right past without ...
Sure I noticed other attractive guys but it never goes past just thinking someone is cute. Anyone that says they don't is lying, we all judge.
01/02/2012
DreamWolf DreamWolf
I see and admit when a female or male is attractive, beautiful, I even mention it mostly (only when the person is really beautiful), but my Master already knows that I just simply appreciate beauty in everything, and He is the same, W/we both look at people and their "sexiness" with objective, judging eyes, W/we are somewhat picky about what W/we find delicate enough, or attractive, but W/we are too crazy for E/each O/other, so W/we admit such things when someone is hot, but that can't even come close to how much W/we would gobble E/each O/other up all the time! ^^
01/15/2012
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Unique posters: 17