How long before marriage?

How long before marriage?

Allison.Wilder Allison.Wilder
I met my guy in August of 2009. We're technically broken up, but we're working on things to make our relationship strong for us and our son. How long do you think after we officially get back together we should wait before marriage?

How long did you wait between meeting your spouse and tying the knot?
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Peggi Peggi
Well, I was ready to marry him probably after about the first 3 weeks, but we were living in two different states and wanted to be living together first. That took 2 months to get him fully moved in and all.

Really, it depends on you and him. Some people wait 10 or more years, some only a month or so. Whenever you both are ready, you'll know. No one else's relationship is yours, so just go with your heart
gsfanatic gsfanatic
My personal opinion is that the key is how long you've spent living together. That's where you get a good idea of how a marriage would go, since you don't have a chance to hide your flaws around your partner. I've heard anywhere from 2 weeks to 10 years, it comes down to when you feel comfortable and trust your partner.
indiglo indiglo
Yeah, I'll agree - there is no "should", every relationship is different, so to hold onto some sort of time-table and figure out when you should get married according to it might be counter-productive. For right now, if it were me, I'd focus on doing the personal work I need to do, and not put the cart before the horse as it were.

If you get back together and your relationship is working well, you'll decide together if and when it is appropriate for you to get married.

Best wishes!
Mamastoys Mamastoys
We dated when I was in high school, then he broke up with me, we both married other people..separated about the same back together in August, married the next May.
Every relationship is unique. Take your time and make sure that is what you want. Even if it doesn't work out, be friends for your son's sake. He needs both parents in his life regardless of their relationship.
Hope things work out the way you want them to!
Annemarie Annemarie
My significant other and I knew that we were going to get married, like, a few weeks in. Two years later, it hasn't happened, we haven't even met offline yet (extenuating circumstances, mostly), though I anticipate engagement in October when we finally do get to meet (with any luck).

That said, I agree with the above. There's no rule, not even a rule of thumb. Go with the flow and talk it out.
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