More sex better relationship?

"Sex at least once a week is like vitamins for a relationship. The more you do it, the more you'll want to" Ian Kerner, Ph.D Sex Therapist.

So my question is, do you think the more sex you have the better your relationship is? How often do you have sex during the week with your partner on average? less

"Sex at least once a week is like vitamins for a relationship. The more you do it, the more you'll want to" Ian Kerner, Ph.D Sex Therapist.

So my question is, do you think the more sex you have the better your relationship is? How often do you have sex during the week with your partner on average? less

I think more sex makes a better relationship. In hetero relationships there is a lot of tension, because we are so different from each other. Sex defuses tension and helps us reconnect.

My Man and I have sex between 6 and 10 times a week. Once a week would be a drought with us. We'd be at each other's throats if we only had sex that infrequently.

I know, after decades together that the more sex we have, the better things are between us. Not only is tension defused, but good feelings are intensified. We feel closer to each other, petty indifferences are forgotten, we joke around more and feel IN LOVE the more sex we have.

I would not be able to have an love relationship without a lot of sex. I don't understand how people do it. HOW do they connect with each other? Men and women think differently, sex is there to bridge the gap!How do they defuse the tension? How do they express their love and get their rocks off? Don't they get bored with each other, don't they get on each other's nerves with no release valve?

I think some couples are faking it, when they have gotten to the point of so much resentment and dislike for each other that they don't even fuck. (I mean, your spouse/partner is the only other one in the house you can fuck, why say no? If you are not getting along, sex will ONLY help you get along.) They probably stay together to avoid the "disgrace" of divorce. I know my in-laws were like that. In reality, she couldn't stand him, she went to the trouble of not going to sleep until he woke up, sleeping on the couch, making one excuse after an other until she got her own bedroom. She had a lot of reasons to have very strong anger towards him. She didn't cry at his funeral, and neither did anyone else. That says something.

At least my parents has the balls to admit it was over (and what the neighbors, relatives and "The Church" thought be damned) and END it when it was no longer good and couldn't be fixed.

And sex is just so fucking good I can't see why anyone would want to live without it. It's for all intents and purposes (with the exception of the sweet warm embrace of a newborn baby) the BEST THING IN THE WORLD.

I simply can't see from the view point of people who refuse to have sex with the partner they purport to love, or those who ignore their sex drive. I try to say "Mileage and all that." But, I don't get sexless relationships. Getting to it is so fucking good. It's the best feeling in the world and the most fun two people can have. Why not do it?

I honestly couldn't live without it. (Neither could My Man.) And I would NOT live without it. Ever.

And, IMO, when something is good and not fattening, one is best off doing that thing as often as possible.

Again, mileage may vary. But, damn. less

I'm single at the moment, but when in a relationship I require sex regularly! If not I become frustrated and seriously moody to the point where I'll drive a partner away. And honestly, if I'm not getting sex I'd rather move on and find someone who can satisfy me in every area! less

I agree with the quote - I find that after sex I want it more the next day. I don't think more sex makes a better relationship though. In fact I think a better relationship makes better sex. If my husband and I are fighting sex tends to be pretty miserable but if everything is great sex follows suit. less

I think more sex makes a better relationship. In hetero relationships there is a lot of tension, because we are so different from each other. Sex defuses tension and helps us reconnect.

My Man and I have sex between 6 and 10 times a week. Once a week would be a drought with us. We'd be at each other's throats if we only had sex that infrequently.

I know, after decades together that the more sex we have, the better things are between us. Not only is tension defused, but good feelings are intensified. We feel closer to each other, petty indifferences are forgotten, we joke around more and feel IN LOVE the more sex we have.

I would not be able to have an love relationship without a lot of sex. I don't understand how people do it. HOW do they connect with each other? Men and women think differently, sex is there to bridge the gap!How do they defuse the tension? How do they express their love and get their rocks off? Don't they get bored with each other, don't they get on each other's nerves with no release valve?

I think some couples are faking it, when they have gotten to the point of so much resentment and dislike for each other that they don't even fuck. (I mean, your spouse/partner is the only other one in the house you can fuck, why say no? If you are not getting along, sex will ONLY help you get along.) They probably stay together to avoid the "disgrace" of divorce. I know my in-laws were like that. In reality, she couldn't stand him, she went to the trouble of not going to sleep until he woke up, sleeping on the couch, making one excuse after an other until she got her own bedroom. She had a lot of reasons to have very strong anger towards him. She didn't cry at his funeral, and neither did anyone else. That says something.

At least my parents has the balls to admit it was over (and what the neighbors, relatives and "The Church" thought be damned) and END it when it was no longer good and couldn't be fixed.

And sex is just so fucking good I can't see why anyone would want to live without it. It's for all intents and purposes (with the exception of the sweet warm embrace of a newborn baby) the BEST THING IN THE WORLD.

I simply can't see from the view point of people who refuse to have sex with the partner they purport to love, or those who ignore their sex drive. I try to say "Mileage and all that." But, I don't get sexless relationships. Getting to it is so fucking good. It's the best feeling in the world and the most fun two people can have. Why not do it?

I honestly couldn't live without it. (Neither could My Man.) And I would NOT live without it. Ever.

And, IMO, when something is good and not fattening, one is best off doing that thing as often as possible.

Again, mileage may vary. But, damn. less

You said:
I would not be able to have an love relationship without a lot of sex. I don't understand how people do it. HOW do they connect with each other?

I thought I'd reply from the point of view of someone who has been in the "once a week" or even less often position. Mind you - that was pre-toys.

A lot of things can affect a person's libido and sometimes both partners just don't desire that much sex. I've known a couple of couples that were like that - they were happily married and shared several interests and while they enjoyed sex - they didn't "need" it as often as others - and they were ok with that.

For my husband and I - from about year 5 (aka "had kids") to year 30+ has been filled with bouts of "feast or famine" but usually sex once a week with times when we might have it 3 times per week for a few days and then have it drop back down.

We even had good sex during times when we couldn't stand each other and it truly wasn't a reflection of our relationship status right then - it was simply we were so darn frustrated and needed the release. But if you looked at our relationship as a whole at that time - you'd think we hated each other - and maybe we did!

Our relationship over the years has been good and/or not so good based upon how involved we were in each other's lives and interests. With our interests, Eharmony would certainly never put the two of us together as a match - yet we make it work and usually enjoy our marriage.

I guess what I'm saying is - for us - sex is the topping on the cake. The cake is the basics of everyday life and lots of times its sweet cause we're gaming together online or driving somewhere and having long talks about things.

Sometimes - our cake doesn't seem to have much frosting...but its still sweet. Sometime the cake is short...but the frosting is so yummy (as in - we're mainly involved in sex and haven't shared much in other areas of our life) and sometimes - thank God - there is a balance between the cake and the frosting.

Me? I love frosting - but I'd rather have the cake and frosting together be good. less

You said:
I would not be able to have an love relationship without a lot of sex. I don't understand how people do it. HOW do they connect with each other?

I thought I'd reply from the point of view of someone who has been in the "once a week" or even less often position. Mind you - that was pre-toys.

A lot of things can affect a person's libido and sometimes both partners just don't desire that much sex. I've known a couple of couples that were like that - they were happily married and shared several interests and while they enjoyed sex - they didn't "need" it as often as others - and they were ok with that.

For my husband and I - from about year 5 (aka "had kids") to year 30+ has been filled with bouts of "feast or famine" but usually sex once a week with times when we might have it 3 times per week for a few days and then have it drop back down.

We even had good sex during times when we couldn't stand each other and it truly wasn't a reflection of our relationship status right then - it was simply we were so darn frustrated and needed the release. But if you looked at our relationship as a whole at that time - you'd think we hated each other - and maybe we did!

Our relationship over the years has been good and/or not so good based upon how involved we were in each other's lives and interests. With our interests, Eharmony would certainly never put the two of us together as a match - yet we make it work and usually enjoy our marriage.

I guess what I'm saying is - for us - sex is the topping on the cake. The cake is the basics of everyday life and lots of times its sweet cause we're gaming together online or driving somewhere and having long talks about things.

Sometimes - our cake doesn't seem to have much frosting...but its still sweet. Sometime the cake is short...but the frosting is so yummy (as in - we're mainly involved in sex and haven't shared much in other areas of our life) and sometimes - thank God - there is a balance between the cake and the frosting.

Me? I love frosting - but I'd rather have the cake and frosting together be good. less

You said:
I would not be able to have an love relationship without a lot of sex. I don't understand how people do it. HOW do they connect with each other?

I thought I'd reply from the point of view of someone who has been in the "once a week" or even less often position. Mind you - that was pre-toys.

A lot of things can affect a person's libido and sometimes both partners just don't desire that much sex. I've known a couple of couples that were like that - they were happily married and shared several interests and while they enjoyed sex - they didn't "need" it as often as others - and they were ok with that.

For my husband and I - from about year 5 (aka "had kids") to year 30+ has been filled with bouts of "feast or famine" but usually sex once a week with times when we might have it 3 times per week for a few days and then have it drop back down.

We even had good sex during times when we couldn't stand each other and it truly wasn't a reflection of our relationship status right then - it was simply we were so darn frustrated and needed the release. But if you looked at our relationship as a whole at that time - you'd think we hated each other - and maybe we did!

Our relationship over the years has been good and/or not so good based upon how involved we were in each other's lives and interests. With our interests, Eharmony would certainly never put the two of us together as a match - yet we make it work and usually enjoy our marriage.

I guess what I'm saying is - for us - sex is the topping on the cake. The cake is the basics of everyday life and lots of times its sweet cause we're gaming together online or driving somewhere and having long talks about things.

Sometimes - our cake doesn't seem to have much frosting...but its still sweet. Sometime the cake is short...but the frosting is so yummy (as in - we're mainly involved in sex and haven't shared much in other areas of our life) and sometimes - thank God - there is a balance between the cake and the frosting.

Me? I love frosting - but I'd rather have the cake and frosting together be good. less

You said:
I would not be able to have an love relationship without a lot of sex. I don't understand how people do it. HOW do they connect with each other?

I thought I'd reply from the point of view of someone who has been in the "once a week" or even less often position. Mind you - that was pre-toys.

A lot of things can affect a person's libido and sometimes both partners just don't desire that much sex. I've known a couple of couples that were like that - they were happily married and shared several interests and while they enjoyed sex - they didn't "need" it as often as others - and they were ok with that.

For my husband and I - from about year 5 (aka "had kids") to year 30+ has been filled with bouts of "feast or famine" but usually sex once a week with times when we might have it 3 times per week for a few days and then have it drop back down.

We even had good sex during times when we couldn't stand each other and it truly wasn't a reflection of our relationship status right then - it was simply we were so darn frustrated and needed the release. But if you looked at our relationship as a whole at that time - you'd think we hated each other - and maybe we did!

Our relationship over the years has been good and/or not so good based upon how involved we were in each other's lives and interests. With our interests, Eharmony would certainly never put the two of us together as a match - yet we make it work and usually enjoy our marriage.

I guess what I'm saying is - for us - sex is the topping on the cake. The cake is the basics of everyday life and lots of times its sweet cause we're gaming together online or driving somewhere and having long talks about things.

Sometimes - our cake doesn't seem to have much frosting...but its still sweet. Sometime the cake is short...but the frosting is so yummy (as in - we're mainly involved in sex and haven't shared much in other areas of our life) and sometimes - thank God - there is a balance between the cake and the frosting.

Me? I love frosting - but I'd rather have the cake and frosting together be good. less

"Sex at least once a week is like vitamins for a relationship. The more you do it, the more you'll want to" Ian Kerner, Ph.D Sex Therapist.

So my question is, do you think the more sex you have the better your relationship is? How often do you have sex during the week with your partner on average? less