How do you bring up Fantasies up to your partner?

How do you bring up Fantasies up to your partner?

tlaskowski tlaskowski
So I was wondering how do you tell your parnter about your fantasies?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Just tell them
24  (80%)
Write it out
2  (7%)
Other (please explain)
2  (7%)
Don't tell them
2  (7%)
Total votes: 30
Poll is closed
11/30/2011
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Ghost Ghost
This should have been multiple choice, but in any case...
It depends, sometimes I will just say it when I see him, sometimes I will mention it in a text or instant message and sometimes I will have him read a story or watch something that has a similar scenario and judge his interest.
11/30/2011
Kendrir Kendrir
Open forthrightness is best, especially if you have the kind of relationship where you can discuss turn-ons with each other - regardless of what they may be - without fear of judgement or reprisal. Otherwise, hints ad things like writing them out in story form can work to break the ice
11/30/2011
EvilHomer EvilHomer
It varies wildly.
11/30/2011
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I'm a writer - then we talk about it.
12/01/2011
tlaskowski tlaskowski
Quote:
Originally posted by Gunsmoke
I'm a writer - then we talk about it.
I am too! I love to write things out even though Im not the best writer! Then once I have written it out we talk about how to go about things!
12/01/2011
Kitka Kitka
Daddy and I have gotten really good at communicating our wants and desires, etc.
12/01/2011
SexyStuff SexyStuff
Curled up together in bed after sex
12/02/2011
Jewels Titanium Jewels Titanium
Quote:
Originally posted by tlaskowski
So I was wondering how do you tell your parnter about your fantasies?
Okay i for one don't tell them i show them.. I am a writer and all though i can express myself very clearly in writing, there are some thing I just feel silly writing and having written record of what i want sexually isn't what i like to write about.( though my sex blog would be interesting to say the least) premeditated foreplay can be fun but i often feel odd and silly about "it" if it is not spontaneous .. I think that my man should understand what i want though my expression and body language.Hence the words connection and connected. However if a man is really stupid i think sending them a link to what you want on the net is just as effective for the simple minded man
12/02/2011
ijako9 ijako9
I made a list and gave it as a present to my wife for her birthday
12/06/2011
shcoo shcoo
We usually just ask each other during cuddling.
There have been a few particular erotica stories that I've asked him to read to see what I want, though, as I figured that would be easier and more detailed than me trying to reinterpret it to him.

And on the rare occasion that I want to roleplay, it's usually based on television characters, so we'll watch the show beforehand.
12/06/2011
eroticmutt eroticmutt
Quote:
Originally posted by tlaskowski
So I was wondering how do you tell your parnter about your fantasies?
I don't always bring it up, but sometimes I do like to start the conversation, or sometimes my partner asks me.
12/06/2011
LostBoy988 LostBoy988
I found its always good to be honest and upfront.
12/11/2011
bsgs bsgs
ill usually say that i had an incredible dream, and then describe it that way, but we've definitely said ours to each other outright
02/01/2012
L&P3040 L&P3040
I just tell my wife what I'm thinking, she's always told me to tell her what I want no matter what.
05/19/2012
gsfanatic gsfanatic
I just tell her, since she's not a mind reader yet. It works out, since we both like making each other happy and trying new things
05/21/2012
rom323 rom323
The only way i get any of my fantasies fulfilled is to wait until she wants to buy something and then i write it out for her. I feel weird describing it in detail. Plus then she knows exactly what is expected.

the latest is she wanted $600 earrings, so i got 4 fantasys fulfilled.

1. watching her masturbate in black lingerie and stockings
(she does not masturbate period apparently)
2. wear a wireless vibrator while i have the control
3. ride or Jetaime in lingerie
4. give a foot job while watching a movie at home, while wearing khaki pants and tan stockings.

if you could not tell, i have a lingerie/stocking fetish.
she hates lingerie.

so far i got 1 & 2 complete. and she actually liked #1 and agreed to do it more often.
05/21/2012
Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by tlaskowski
So I was wondering how do you tell your parnter about your fantasies?
Sometimes I just tell him, sometimes I keep it to myself.
05/21/2012
Total posts: 18
Unique posters: 17