The porn is not what made him cheat! He would have done it anyway. Men are visual creatures. The women they lust after in porn are different from the ones they settle down with. If he was watching porn before the two of you became a couple, then you should not have tried to change that. Just join in on the watching and relax. Having a woman that is willing to watch is a bigger turn than a woman trying to change you. less

The porn is not what made him cheat! He would have done it anyway. Men are visual creatures. The women they lust after in porn are different from the ones they settle down with. If he was watching porn before the two of you became a couple, then you should not have tried to change that. Just join in on the watching and relax. Having a woman that is willing to watch is a bigger turn than a woman trying to change you. less

My husband watches porn..he didn't before we had children. After children I gained a lot of weight, we also started dating as teenagers, so obviously my body would change. I use to wear a size 5 pants and weighted 130 and now after 4 kids (2 are twins) I wear a 14 pant and weight 220. He says he looks at porn to get ideas for us in the bedroom, but I highly doubt that. All the women are blonde and skinny, what I use to be. I've tried doing things like they did, but it didn't help..so I put a password on the computer and he can't even get on computer without me putting in password. HAHAHA!!! Yes, I treat him like a child, but there is no more porn. He tried ordering it on his phone, but I put a stop to that too. Our cell phones are in my name. I don't believe in porn, and I want him to focus on me not fake tits. He says with tax money one year I could go get my boobs done and lipo and tummy tuck, but I'm ok with my body, I don't think it is disgusting just another type of beauty!! less

I was wondering, how many of you have done this? Does this sound like a good idea? What do you think would come of this?

Back when I was married to my first husband, he looked at a lot of porn. I'm not just talking that he was on the sites here and there, he was on them daily. He had a porn addiction.

Well, my creative mind thought "Well, maybe if I do something like that, then he'll want to see ME instead of the porn!" So I did. I was very conservative and didn't really get into all that stuff in the past and for me to take photos of myself (nudes, close ups of certain areas hehe, etc etc) and even take a few videos of myself masturbating, it was a huge step for me.

In the end, it didn't work out too well. Not days later, he started back into watching the porn (he watched/looked at my stuff too-but, still with the porn). Of course, this devastated me and I was at a loss of what to do to get his attention away from it.

Eventually, he ended up cheating on me with my cousin and we divorced. I know, blah blah-TMI. But, I was wondering, have any of you ever tried this idea? (In general, not to pull your partner away from anyone or anything lol).

If so, how did it work out? less