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For the single people, how do you feel about it?

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Contributor: Real or memorex Real or memorex
This may have been asked, but doesn't seem to have been asked lately. I am single and have been for several years. I'm happy about it - I consider it my default state and I have to be very motivated and invested in someone else before I consider a relationship. Other single people I know seem less satisfied with their status quo overall, but I don't know anyone who is miserable about it.

With all one hears from the media and acquaintances, it's accepted wisdom that single people, and especially women, are dissatisfied with their status. On that note, I wanted to start a poll.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I love being single. I generally prefer it.
3  (7%)
I am happy with being single.
5  (11%)
I'm basically happy with singledom but would strongly prefer a relationship right now.
23  (50%)
I'm a bit dissatisfied with it.
3  (7%)
I really despise being single. It sucks.
8  (17%)
I don't care.
Other (please elaborate!)
4  (9%)
Total votes: 46
Poll is closed
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Contributor: Real or memorex Real or memorex
Hooray, I just voted in my own poll (for "generally prefer it").
04/16/2013
Contributor: MrWill MrWill
It's getting old real fast. It isn't a sexual thing at all with me, it's a I wanna share all this badassitude thing.
04/16/2013
Contributor: SourAppleMartini SourAppleMartini
I've been single for a very long time now. I certainly got used to it, but I can't say that I am very happy. I feel that my confidence has really started to drop. Lately I've been thinking that never be able to meet my other half and the thought of dying alone kind of sucks. I am also very shy (although not unsociable), so casual flings are not for me. Which means that being single for me equals no sex. I can't deny that I am a little lonely, no toy can replace another human being.
04/23/2013
Contributor: GirlOnGirl GirlOnGirl
I'm generally ok with it. It's not that I'm completely opposed to getting into another relationship but if I had to choose between a relationship with someone that isn't right for me or a situation that isn't right for me and just being single, I would rather stay single. I know unhappy single people and unhappy people that are in relationships so I don't necessarily think that a relationship will automatically make me happy. It makes more sense to me that I should work on being happy in my own life, regardless of what my relationship status happens to be at that particular moment.
04/25/2013
Contributor: Beautiful-Disaster Beautiful-Disaster
It sucks.
04/26/2013
Contributor: Bri9 Bri9
It does suck. Iv'e been single for a while now and its pretty lonely. It seems that everywhere I go I keep seeing these happy couples smiling and holding hands. Then I look at my life. Argh...!
05/25/2013
Contributor: mdnght mdnght
It kind of sucks. But at the same time dating sounds like a lot of work, lol
05/26/2013
Contributor: Trysexual Trysexual
It has it's perks and minuses just like Being in a relationship, but I prefer a stable relationship
05/26/2013
Contributor: SydneyScreams SydneyScreams
I generally don't have a preference, but I've been single-ish since 2009 and quite enjoy it. I don't feel that I need or want a relationship, but I'm also not the type of person to let a good thing slip through because of enjoying the single life.
05/27/2013
Contributor: curious kitten curious kitten
I am currently single, I am a widow. I miss being with someone, but it has to be right. I have been in bad relationships in my past. I loved my man very much, and it was good. Being single can get a little lonely sometimes; but I WILL TAKE SINGLE OVER BEING WITH THE WRONG PERSON. ANYTIME!
05/27/2013
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by Real or memorex
This may have been asked, but doesn't seem to have been asked lately. I am single and have been for several years. I'm happy about it - I consider it my default state and I have to be very motivated and invested in someone else before I ... more
I'm generally happy with being single, but if a good relationship came along, there is no way I'd prefer being single to being in that relationship.
06/14/2013
Contributor: BrittaniMaree BrittaniMaree
In a relationship but wanted to say there are all sorts of pros and cons for being single everyone is different I like being married but sometimes I wish I had waited til I had more time for my 18-22 or 23 ages was a mom at 18
06/14/2013
Contributor: melissa1973 melissa1973
I'm 40 single if divorced counts as single. For the most part I'm fine with it but every now and thin, i think I would rather have someone to talk to, snuggle with, and grow older with. Then I say aw screw it it'll never happen and move on.
06/14/2013
Contributor: Undiscovered Undiscovered
It sucks being single and for me never even being in a relationship.
06/19/2013
Contributor: CinnamonNights CinnamonNights
Seems more of a pole for currently single people, but I do remember how I felt single. I selected other because I feel it really depends. When I was single I accepted it but I was rather unhappy. However I had past relationships that were TERRIBLE so I decided I'd give up on relationship things. Luckily I met my current boyfriend and I'm very happy.

Long story short: I felt terrible when I felt I could be in a happy relationship. However after I started realizing that my past relationships were horrid I started to feel pretty happy and relieved single.
10/10/2013
Contributor: ~*Nikila*~ ~*Nikila*~
i just got out of a relationship that was pretty bad so at the moment im quite happy with being single
10/10/2013
Contributor: Live-love-laugh Live-love-laugh
Most of the time I'm fine with it. Quite honestly, I'm scared to make a commitment at this point in my life. Sometimes though I think it would be really nice to have someone special to share my time with.
10/13/2013
Contributor: HannahPanda HannahPanda
Both have their perks! I prefer being in a relationship, but single can be so much fun.
10/14/2013
Contributor: wicked48 wicked48
I've been single for awhile and am usually ok with it. There are times that it would be nice to be in a relationship so that I would have someone to go to concerts or movies with or just hang out with. However, if I were in a relationship I probably wouldn't have gotten on the internet searching for toys and would never have found EF! I guess everything happens for a reason!
10/14/2013
Contributor: edeneve edeneve
Quote:
Originally posted by Trysexual
It has it's perks and minuses just like Being in a relationship, but I prefer a stable relationship
a stable relationship would be nice - haven't had one yet.
10/14/2013
Contributor: earthmama earthmama
Love the freedom, hate being lonely. Pros and cons.
10/25/2013
Contributor: thebest thebest
love the freedom, don't like the occasional feelings of loneliness. but if i were in a relationship there would be pros and cons to that too, so either way, i'm pretty satisfied
10/26/2013
Contributor: battleaxe battleaxe
Though it can get lonely sometimes, I'm generally happy being single. I much prefer it to an unstable or rocky relationship -- so I tend to not go out of my way to seek romantic relationships. Too much nonsense to wade through in the dating world
10/28/2013
Contributor: Slutty Girl Problems Slutty Girl Problems
I LOVE the single life!! Even though I'm in a relationship now, being independent and not having to report to anyone can be a TON of fun - and so freeing!
10/30/2013
Contributor: Miaever Miaever
other, i am happy being single but have never been in a relationship so I really have nothing to compare with single life as it is the only thing I know.
12/23/2013
Contributor: RebelSentry RebelSentry
It seems I am in the majority, Single life sucks. Especially since I have been for so long, it has been quite a few years I wish I could find someone that had the same interests. Like someone else said its not even about the sex, its just about being with someone sharing a life. Not being so lonely all the damn time. I am sure others can relate.

~Rebel
12/23/2013