I suggest you extensively research the toys on EF to see what you might enjoy & then get them to try out if they work for you. it's really a learning/trial and error experience at first and a really fun experience.

and when I'm horney, I get out several vibes including a couple faves to make my play time long and so so exciting.

Mr Will is right. It is a classic mistake to go back with your ex. Maybe you need to learn the hard way but you'll learn it. When I did it I always ended up with feelings for my ex and getting hurt all over again.

You will be better off in the long run if you take a little bit time off (even just a week or two) and focus on yourself. Have you tried a really good, powerful vibrator like the hitachi wand or g4 tiger?

I highly recommend writing erotica. You don't have to do full on novels or anything. Perhaps little snippets or one-shots of whatever makes you horny. That way, you can record your ideas for later and help with the horniness!

Thanks everyone. I'll look into the ideas ya'll gave me.... and yeah i agree that going back to him would be probably a bad thing. Thanks!

Print this out and carry it with you so you can re-read it when you're tempted!

I agree with others about not contacting the ex.

Sometimes, when you get out of a relationship, your body just has to adjust to not having as much sex. Try experimenting with new things or maybe join something like okcupid to find a hook up, but if you're anything like me, the extreme horniness will go away after several weeks when you're not as used to the constant sex. And maybe by then you'll find a new regular partner anyway.

I used to get bored masturbating, but then I discovered toys that make me enjoy it so much more. Figure out what you like and get those toys - they'll be worth it!

You shouldn't get bored while masturbating!

If you are desperate, put a Craigslist ad up and wait half a minute. You get hot on quicker than walking nude into a bar.

The thing I missed the most being single was not really the sex but the emotional/physical connection to another. Having someone that would just cuddle next to me on the couch while watching TV was what I missed more than sex, but might be that me and my ex-gf also had done the long distance thing for a while before breaking up.

But will say in the interim did make a new friend and we decided to do the FWB thing since they were soon moving and I wasn't sure I wanted a new LTR at the time. We discussed this at length, including making rules about if we met someone new or wanted to end it we'd let the other know. Communication I think like in any relationship makes things clear and helps make sure there is still friendship at the end.

But agree, don't go back to your ex. And take the time to explore and discover more about yourself... this will only make you more confident in yourself when you are ready and meet someone new.

Get on Tinder for a FWB, just make sure the both of you get tested before having sex and use protection. That's what I would do anyway. But I'm a bit of a proud whore. (I use the term whore as in someone who takes no shame in enjoying sex).

So glad I just found this post! I'm in the same boat right now as OP and it was great reading the comments for a little help figuring out what to do. I've been fighting myself on this whole do I/don't I thing.