How can I convince my boyfriend to use butt plugs?

How can I convince my boyfriend to use butt plugs?

Nazaress Nazaress
My boyfriend is interested and has participated in some anal play before. We used fingers once and he's taken an old traditional vibrator a few times. The latter, of course, hurt at first. I've told him that we should get him butt plugs and work him up to bigger sizes because then it wouldn't hurt (as much?). We're going to try pegging eventually (at least, he hasn't outright objected but alluded to waiting) so I don't want to hurt him. But for some reason, he's resistant to use butt plugs. I think it has something to do with the lack of vibratons/movement but I'm not sure. Or maybe he doesn't think it would feel good? I don't know but I was hoping someone could give me some advice on how I can convince him that they'd be good for him.
02/18/2012
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PeachieClean PeachieClean
First off, if he doesn't want it he doesn't want it. Forcing the issue is only going to cause problems.

Next, you could try to explain to him that the small ones can be even smaller than a finger and that they wiggle about as you move during sex or activity. They don't actually stay stationary unless you do.

Maybe you should just buy one and keep it around. If it's a particularly pretty one he might find himself curious, which would lead into him wanting to try it without you pushing.

In the end though, the choice is his. No matter how much you want him to do it or like it, it's all up to him.
02/19/2012
charletnarouh charletnarouh
There are vibrating ones. If he likes vibrations, maybe he'd like that. You can also manipulate or rock a butt plug a little once inserted. There are also ones that are more about prostate pressure than just having something in there which he could appreciate during intercourse or you performing oral.
02/19/2012
Wild Orchid Wild Orchid
If he's having pain problems then get Jack Morin's Anal Pleasure and Health (get it here on EF or cheaper, through half.com). Painless anal penetration is more about relaxing the muscles than stretching them. I can't stress highly enough how useful that book is.

When he works out his problems you'll go on a shopping spree.
02/19/2012
Hallmar82 Hallmar82
I would start with external stimulation with just your finger. Then transition to single finger insertion, then two, etc. but take your time! Go slow and use plenty of lube. Stop when it's no longer feeling good and try again later. Little by little, you'll work up to larger toys.
02/19/2012
te te
Sounds like he does not want it. Do not force it on him. Just show him the positives of it and let his curiosity get the better of him.
02/19/2012
El-Jaro El-Jaro
Show him some reviews and videos from ScottA, Kindred, Jimbo, TooltimeTim (DWTim), and (humbly) me. If anything, he'll learn something .
02/19/2012
Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
If he wants to wait, you should wait. Anal isn't suppose to hurt btw.
02/19/2012
GoneBabyGone GoneBabyGone
I would say convince him to look at some choices on EF with you, if he expresses interest in one buy it and keep it around, but don't force the subject.

I would say not to force the issue because that is likely to make it less appealing to him.
02/19/2012
ScottA ScottA
There's no reason that a vibe should hurt at first. Go back and slow down.

He seems to be open to it, so just make sure you go slow and let him learn to relax and like it. Go back to fingers, try external play (perhaps during another sexual activity). Then try another inserted finger. If you can, find his prostate and play with that - many times that will add a significant amount of pleasure.

Once he's very comfortable with a finger or two then find another toy. Use your finger play to figure out whether he likes a toy that stays in place (plug/vibrator/prostat e massager) or a toy that thrusts (dildo/probe).

For anal toys I strongly recommend silicone to start.
02/20/2012
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