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Contributor: innervated innervated
Hey everyone!

Just found out about EF and it's my first post here. I'm very exited and hope to make my first buy soon.

Although it'll be my first anal toy purchase, I've played around a little with household objects, so I don't think I'll have any problems with discomfort or size. I'm looking to get something that will bring me closer to the unattainable and mythical prostate orgasm, and so I've narrowed it down to 3 choices:

Nexus Vibro link
Aneros Helix link
Rudeboy link

Any help, suggestions, or info would be great! Thanks!
03/29/2010
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Contributor: Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
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Originally posted by innervated
Hey everyone!

Just found out about EF and it's my first post here. I'm very exited and hope to make my first buy soon.

Although it'll be my first anal toy purchase, I've played around a little with household objects, so ... more
Welcome to Eden!

I don't possess a prostate myself, but my boyfriend does, and he's pretty much all for sticking things up his bum. If this is your first prostate toy, I would recommend against getting the Nexus Vibro--it's just a vibrating version of the Nexus Titus link and twice as expensive. It might be a better idea to try the Titus or one of your other two picks first to see if you even like prostate-specific toys before splurging on your second one. Most guys seem to like them, but a few (like my boyfriend) feel that they don't have enough girth/weight to do the job. If that turns out to be the case, you can opt for thicker toys like G-spot dildos (with a flanged base) that aren't necessarily marketed for prostate use, but will still deliver.

Good luck prostate-hunting
03/29/2010
Contributor: Luscious Lily Luscious Lily
Welcome to EF, and good luck discovering your prostate! Like Cynthia, I don't have a prostate, but I have a boyfriend who is madly in love with playing with his. Cynthia's right, the Nexus Vibro's probably not a good first toy. The Aneros Helix isn't, either, for a couple of reasons. The Aneros toys all have a pretty big learning curve, but they're worth it in the end. The Helix is one of their more advanced toys, so you'd be better off starting with the Aneros MGX. With Aneros toys, bigger does not mean more advanced. Smaller may be more advanced, or differently shaped to make it more difficult for the sphincters to maneuver.

Of the three you posted, the Rude Boy is definitely the best to start with. (though be warned, that curve is much more intense than it looks) Otherwise, try the Nexus Titus as Cynthia suggested, or the Aneros MGX. And a lot of good lube.

Have fun!
03/29/2010
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
The big question is do you want it to stay in hands-free or not. The Aneros will, as will the Nexus, but the Rude Boy tends to slide out and needs to be held in somehow.

Two more to consider - While I haven't used it, I really like the look of the Nexus Gyro/Gyro Extreme, and Jimbo liked it. I've also really liked G-spot vibrators - the G-Ki is expensive but really nice and you can sterilize it and use it on a partner as well.

I'm with Cynthia questioning the value of the Titus, and do note that the hands-free Aneros/Nexus types do have a learning curve/get used to the sensation curve.

You might want to start off with fingers to make sure you like prostate play.
03/29/2010
Contributor: innervated innervated
Thanks for the quick replies everyone. Forgot to mention that I have tried prostate simulation before and that I do enjoy it, mistake on my part =)

@Cynthia & Lily: It's good to hear some encouraging things about the Aneros and especially the Vibro. If the Titus and Vibro are mostly the same I wouldn't mind spending a little more to get the Vibro, vibration just sounds so irresistible! The MGX and Helix look very similar, so if there aren't a lot of differences between them, would it be a better idea to start with the more advanced Helix even though it looks to have a steeper learning curve?

@ScottA: The Nexus Gyro and Extreme definitely look interesting. No worries about the learning curve though! I'm very patient and eager to put time into experiencing every inch of any of the above models. About the Rudeboy, would it still have trouble being hands free and staying in place if you use it in the sitting position? It'll be discouraging if it's vibrating causes it to wriggle and move away from the prostate.
03/29/2010
Contributor: Luscious Lily Luscious Lily
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Originally posted by innervated
Thanks for the quick replies everyone. Forgot to mention that I have tried prostate simulation before and that I do enjoy it, mistake on my part =)

@Cynthia & Lily: It's good to hear some encouraging things about the Aneros and ... more
From what my boyfriend says, the differences are much greater than they look. It's because the point of the Aneros aren't how they feel getting shoved in and sitting there, it's about how they move. The little differences in shape affect the... balance of how they sit, making them move differently. From what he said, it's like moving the center of a see-saw a bit, but more complicated. And more fun. Honestly, I can't tell you any more than that. I don't have a prostate, and he's not the best at explaining the intricacies of this to me.
03/29/2010
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
I have the bigger Bad Boy and I have never had a problem with it rotating away when I use it in the sitting position. Reviews and talk seem to indicate that the Rude Boy might be a bit more wiggly during use. If you have very thin buttocks you might need to rig up some sort of pad for your cheeks to be comfortable with the bulge on the 'Boys. They do tend to put very firm pressure on the prostate, so make sure you enjoy strong stimulation.

My Progasm doesn't work when I'm sitting down. I generally lie down, stand, or kneel when I have it in. I'd imagine the other Aneros products probably wouldn't work while seated either. The Nexus (excl. the Vibro) might, though.
03/29/2010
Contributor: innervated innervated
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Originally posted by ScottA
I have the bigger Bad Boy and I have never had a problem with it rotating away when I use it in the sitting position. Reviews and talk seem to indicate that the Rude Boy might be a bit more wiggly during use. If you have very thin buttocks you might ... more
The Bad Boy definitely has a more interesting shape than the Rude Boy. It's also priced lower than the Rude Boy which is kind of surprising. Would you say it's a better choice?
03/30/2010
Contributor: innervated innervated
Thanks for all the replies! I've finally overcome indecisiveness and went with the Nexus Vibro and Rude Boy. Very excited and awaiting their arrival =)

I do have some newbie questions about lubrication and general care for toys if anyone wouldn't mind helping me out:

-When the toy first arrives, is it factory sterilized or would I have to clean it (would soap or rubbing alcohol be fine in this case)?
-Are there any lubricants that could potentially damage the toy? I've vaguely read to use water based lubricants, but I'm not quite sure what they are. Would vegetable oil or olive oil be alright?
03/30/2010
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
Best to clean it with soap and water. They shouldn't have any beasties on them, but there might be some residue from the factory. Treat 'em like your new Tupperware and you'll be fine.

Lube-wise you can use water or oil-based lubes, no problems. High-quality silicone lubes don't seem to cause any permanent damage to most high-quality silicone toys, but it is very difficult to get all the lube off, so I'd recommend giving silicone lube a miss. If you aren't sensitive to chemicals, Maximus or Boy Butter are pretty good (I'm sensitive, so I use Probe and a homebrew shortening-coconut oil mix for an oil-based lube). An oil might be worth a shot, but keep in mind that they're thin and will tend to run off/not stay around very long. My Bad Boy has a texture on the surface that really doesn't feel very good unless you use a thick lube (it does help keep the lube on the toy, so there is a purpose).
03/30/2010
Contributor: JustYourAverageGuy JustYourAverageGuy
Glad to hear you made a choice. However, the Rude Boy might end up being a bit big for a "beginner". I started out with the naughty boy and graduated up to the bad boy when I was ready. Hope you enjoy!

I am interested in hearing what you think of the Nexus Vibro! Keep us posted on that one!

I personally love the Anal Lube by Cal Exotics for anal use. I would highly recommend it. I would also strongly advise against silicone lube as it can damage your expensive toys. Better play it safe Good luck and Welcome!
03/30/2010
Contributor: innervated innervated
Thanks for the quick replies as always!

Would any of you know of any good household lubricants? I'd like to look into store bought lubricants if they're a lot better than what's available around the house, but my budget's kind of low from splurging on the Vibro

and I'll definitely update on how the Vibro turns out =)
03/30/2010
Contributor: innervated innervated
Sorry if I'm asking the same questions or being too cautious, but I've just got a quick last question. Would olive/vegetable oil be a safe lube to use with the Nexus Vibro and Rude Boy (not damaging the toys, hygienic in terms of anal, etc.)? Thanks again for all the help so far
03/31/2010
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by innervated
Sorry if I'm asking the same questions or being too cautious, but I've just got a quick last question. Would olive/vegetable oil be a safe lube to use with the Nexus Vibro and Rude Boy (not damaging the toys, hygienic in terms of anal, etc.)? ... more
It would be safe on those toys and used anally, but you might not like it very much. Oil doesn't stick around very well, tending to run off, and lube makes textured toys much nicer.
03/31/2010
Contributor: innervated innervated
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Originally posted by ScottA
It would be safe on those toys and used anally, but you might not like it very much. Oil doesn't stick around very well, tending to run off, and lube makes textured toys much nicer.
Hmm my only other choice is KY jelly, though from what I've read it's not much of an improvement over oil if it's an improvement at all =(
04/01/2010