Dear Anni fleur - first of all - welcome to our forum!
I'm the Community Manager here - if you have any questions ever, don't hesitate to contact me, and I will be glad to deliver.
EdenFantasys is an open space for sexual, witty and adventurous people, and we can talk volumes about anal sex.
The first thing anyone on this fabulous site will say - NEVER use numbing lubes when doing anal. When you're trying out the backdoor, you are at risk of hurting yourself and your partner, so you should remain fully aware of anything that happens down there at any given time. With a numbing cream you can black out the pain for some time, but if something does happen, you won't be able to stop it, because your body won't alarm you of something going wrong.
BTW, yes, if anal hurts, it means you are doing it wrong. Anal play is all about opulent amounts of specialized thick anal lube, careful warm up and going very - VERY slowly.
You can dive into our
explicit guide to anal sex for beginners - it tells you everything you need to know to approach bum play correctly. This guide -
on how to properly enjoy anal - tells you dedicated steps you need to perform before going from behind, including everything about the dangers of numbing lubes and ways to avoid any discomfort during butt play - because it is possible.
Hope this helps. Good luck!
