Should beginners to anal toys go for a "beginners" model?

Contributor: Elliotstar Elliotstar
I've a friend who dislikes the beginners kits, but I personally think that they sound like a good idea - so, any opinions?
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The "beginners kits" are awesome!
6  (6%)
Meh, they've overpriced for what they are.
88  (86%)
Other
8  (8%)
Total votes: 102
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Contributor: GingerAnn GingerAnn
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01/19/2011
Contributor: Pleasure Piratess Pleasure Piratess
I definitely think you should start with beginner sizes... but I think you're probably better off getting one quality toy that would last you awhile.... like on with graduated balls/beads for example.
01/19/2011
Contributor: liilii080 liilii080
If it were me, I'd pick 1 or 2 small items and 1 or 2 intermediate items and just see what I liked. I find kits of any kind often have half useful stuff and the rest I don't like, so I prefer to make my own diy kit.
01/19/2011
Contributor: mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
i went with a small model for my first
01/19/2011
Contributor: Coralbell Coralbell
They seem unecessary to me, but I know they are helpful for some people. I went from 0 anal experience to fingering to anal sex in about 5 minutes, so if I had purchased a small beginner toy I would have wanted to buy a larger one right away. I agree with Pleasure Piratess that graduated toys are a great idea. You can progress from just using the narrow tip to using the whole thing and not have to keep buying different sizes of toys.
01/19/2011
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
I would think that most beginner kits will not get used that much. I think if you start with just your fingers (you have 10 already) you can skip the beginners kits and go up to something that you can enjoy using for a longer time.

The suggestion of something that gradually increases in size would work too.
01/19/2011
Contributor: Jobthingy Jobthingy
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Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
I would think that most beginner kits will not get used that much. I think if you start with just your fingers (you have 10 already) you can skip the beginners kits and go up to something that you can enjoy using for a longer time.

The ... more
Exactly. Not to mention the kits are usually made out of crap material.
01/19/2011
Contributor: Kayla Kayla
I'm confused by what "beginners model" you mean. If you mean a beginners toy, I'm all for it. Fingers are nice, but toy materials feel different and keep you from twisting in odd, subhuman positions. I don't know what beginners kits are out there, but I know the Silk Small dildo was our first "beginner dildo", and it's a great place to start.
01/19/2011
Contributor: csweatc csweatc
I think average size can be handled by beginners, but you just need to go slow and understand that a few uses are going to be necessary to get comfortable. I don't think most people would even consider some of the scary anal toys out there. I'm pretty experienced, and there are plenty of toys I will NEVER use. yikes
01/19/2011
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
Starting with fingers gives you a baseline for what kind of size you're looking for and (to an extent) what kind of stimulation you like. Take that and get a toy that fits for you - don't worry about "beginner" vs "intermediate" or "advanced" labels. Just make sure you don't think you can stretch it too much.
01/19/2011
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
Quote:
Originally posted by Kayla
I'm confused by what "beginners model" you mean. If you mean a beginners toy, I'm all for it. Fingers are nice, but toy materials feel different and keep you from twisting in odd, subhuman positions. I don't know what beginners ... more
I agree with you here, I thought beginner model meant beginner plug.

I started with something averag-ish made of jelly. It got me started into anal play and I quickly learned where to go from there.
01/19/2011
Contributor: Rayne Millaray Rayne Millaray
I recommend the beginner kits a lot, but I've never used one. I started with some cheap jelly thing back before I knew anything about materials.

Really, when it comes right down to it, though, it all depends on the person using it. Have they received anal sex before? How often? Has anything at all been in their bum?

If you think you need to, start out with a smaller plug like the The Li'l End ($17) or Pleasure #1 ($16). Both are silicone.

However, I started with something more the size of Pleasure Plug 2 without an issue.
01/20/2011
Contributor: TacoODoom TacoODoom
my first "anal" toy was the moon plug… i big honkin' GLASS butt plug. But i've been sticking things in my ass since i learned to masturbate. Your milage may vary but make sure there is always ALOT of lube involved

01/20/2011
Contributor: Waterfall Waterfall
I think it depends on the person. I consider myself a beginner, but I have tried toys of various sizes (from 1" in diameter to 1 1/2") depending on the material. If you are willing to go slowly then something sized for an intermediate user can work as well.
01/20/2011
Contributor: ihavenipples ihavenipples
I would suggest a small dildo or plug and a medium plug and/or dildo. I think most kits do have a bunch of junk in them and many have too large of a size increase between toys like 2 tiny plugs and 1 huge plug.
01/20/2011
Contributor: IndependentlyHappy IndependentlyHappy
In my opinion, a lot of the "beginners' kits" or individual anal toys labeled as such tend to be made of cheap, unsafe materials such as jelly. If a beginner's first toy looked bad, smelled bad, and deteriorated within a short period of time, I would think that that would forever turn him/her off of future toys. Not to mention that jelly is one of the worst materials that you can buy when it comes to hygiene, which is the LAST thing you want when you're talking about anal play.

Which, obviously, isn't what we would want! I think that a beginner should look into a relatively cheap silicone plug or probe as a first toy. Tantus and a lot of other companies make ones that don't necessarily break the bank (the Slim is under $30), and there are other such as this that are sized with beginners in mind without having the "beginner" label in the product name.
01/21/2011
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by IndependentlyHappy
In my opinion, a lot of the "beginners' kits" or individual anal toys labeled as such tend to be made of cheap, unsafe materials such as jelly. If a beginner's first toy looked bad, smelled bad, and deteriorated within a short ... more
I'm with you on the materials, but the big reason I recommend fingers first is that it gives you a feel for what type of stimulation you like and how big. I don't want someone to drop $25-$30 on a toy that rapidly falls out of use because it's too small or the user winds up preferring a different type of stimulation (dildo instead of plug, vibrator, whatever).
01/21/2011
Contributor: Free Free
I like that you don't often have to drop a huge amount of money to try something - I'll update with the quality of the kit I get in a few days.
01/24/2011
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
Quote:
Originally posted by Free
I like that you don't often have to drop a huge amount of money to try something - I'll update with the quality of the kit I get in a few days.
What kind of "kit" did you get? Most I see have several sizes of questionable quality toys, or else are rather expensive, so I'd go for one nice toy in a size that I know would work first.
01/29/2011
Contributor: thedude thedude
just get the ssentials
01/30/2011
Contributor: IndependentlyHappy IndependentlyHappy
Quote:
Originally posted by ScottA
I'm with you on the materials, but the big reason I recommend fingers first is that it gives you a feel for what type of stimulation you like and how big. I don't want someone to drop $25-$30 on a toy that rapidly falls out of use because ... more
I agree. I'm a relative novice to plugs, but have used fingers and had anal sex...so I'm not really sure how to classify myself. Probably more along the lines of "intermediate."

But yes, I agree that fingers should be the first thing that a beginner should get used to, long before any plugs arrive on the scene. Not only are they smaller, but they kind of come attached to your/your partners' body, so you're not wasting any money.
01/31/2011
Contributor: Happy Camper Happy Camper
It's hard to tell. My boy just kept using his fingers until he could get a solid four fingers in. And then I jumped straight into having 2" thrust up my butt (gently of course!). I just bought my first glass plug that's almost 1 1/2" in diameter and I definitely could have taken more!

It's easy to adjust how many fingers go in your butt and what shape they're taking. I don't know of any anal toys that you can change girth on a whim like that. I suppose you could buy kits but the kits just seem so unimaginative to me.
02/26/2011
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
They are a good place to start but I never did. I just plunged into a standard vibrator and dildo.
02/26/2011
Contributor: Woman China Woman China
I started with anal sex. No fingers, just lots of lube. Then went onto the Swirled Blue Dildo. That thing has a pretty big head for one first starting out with anal play with toys during masturbation.

People who ask me about what they should start with, I suggest a gradual toy like the Icicles No. 2 if they seem to be pretty interested in anal. The ones that seem scared but curious I suggest to them the Pleasure Pearls as it is really thin and about the length of a finger.

But overall, I think it would be wise for a beginner to anal play to get something that is made from silicone or glass or something that can be used anally and vaginally so if you end up not enjoying anal, you've at least got a new toy! And in men's cases I suggest something that can be used for g-spot stimulation as well.

Multi purpose.
02/26/2011
Contributor: Britny Britny
Quote:
Originally posted by Pleasure Piratess
I definitely think you should start with beginner sizes... but I think you're probably better off getting one quality toy that would last you awhile.... like on with graduated balls/beads for example.
I agree with this!
03/09/2011
Contributor: Fuck it. Fuck it.
I think you could get a smaller toy without buying into the 'beginner' kit craze. Just know your own comfort zones and shop based on that, not your experience.
03/10/2011
Contributor: PersonalAngel PersonalAngel
Buy a starter dildo, I have a starter kit and didnt like it at all.
04/01/2011
Contributor: Daddy Daddy
Quote:
Originally posted by IndependentlyHappy
In my opinion, a lot of the "beginners' kits" or individual anal toys labeled as such tend to be made of cheap, unsafe materials such as jelly. If a beginner's first toy looked bad, smelled bad, and deteriorated within a short ... more
My thoughts exactly. Getting three or four plugs in a set may sound like a good deal, but they are always cheaply made and made with unsafe materials at that.

Just start small and tapered for easy insertion, silicone is usually best, and use a GOOD lube like Maximus. Take it slow and relax.
04/10/2011
Contributor: Ropeguy Ropeguy
Kits are a waste of time in my opinion, they are usually more expensive than they are worth and has been stated previously they are usually made out of questionable materials. I would start with fingers and get an I idea of what you are comfortable with, then buy a quality toy that fits your need. You will never regret buying quality.
04/10/2011