Soooo... Gaping - Am I doing it right?

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Soooo... Gaping - Am I doing it right?

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Contributor: BiBrian BiBrian
Hi everyone. So, I've recently been hooked up on the idea of gaping - both for myself and my partner. We've started training around a week ago, and I still seem to be unable to accept anything over 2 inches in diameter. To be honest, from the start I felt pain even from some 1-inch toys, but it's been a week you guys! Does gaping training really take so long? I have a few toys I really hope to fit one day, without the pain - the Big Boy link, and this Expand plug link - as far as I know, those are used specifically for gaping!

I don't understand it - if I'm moving too fast and being hasty, I want to know. Or is gaping something not everyone could do? Really waiting for your help here.
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Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I'd have to say that you do seem to be a bit impatient. I have no idea if you will ever be able to gape - but I do have some experience with larger toys.

I can do about 2.25" but that took months to achieve. If there is ever pain you need to stop - this is not a courage issue. It's about allowing your body to adapt to what you are asking it to do.

Try running a marathon - or even a 10K without adequate training - you are likely to hurt yourself. You get my point...

Almost everyone knows that there can never by too much lube - and because the anal muscles wipe the lube from your toys, frequent reapplication needs to be a part of the process.

I have found tapered toys like the Tantus Champlette are great for training. I even have the original Champ (it goes a little over 2" at the base) - which is quite a bit larger than the Champlette - but sadly has been discontinued.

Tonight is typical; getting ready for my wife tonight I did some anal cleansing (enema) and put in a 1.5" glass butt plug. Once everything settles down, I'll jump in the shower and start working in my 2" glass plug. I use conditioner for lube in the shower.

Once the 2" plug is in, I will wash, shave and shampoo. In between each step I will work the plug in-and-out about 15-20x. So by the time I get out my sphincter muscles know what's coming.

Since my wife prides herself on her "big dick" - when she takes out the plug, she will lube up her fingers and begin working from 1 finger to 4 - all the while teasing mw about how she's going to f**** me until she cums.

It's all rather fun - but working out the details and best practices took months - not days.

Best of luck - and slow down!
11/06/2018
Contributor: GingerAnn GingerAnn
Dear BiBrian, you are definitely rushing things. Gaping is not a fast kink, it takes months and months of thorough preparation and training. Please, don't be so quick about it - you might end up hurting yourself.

We will soon be launching a content about gaping - you might find that really interesting.

Gunsmoke is describing his pegging prep routine, and it's very schoolbook, must I say. It certainly takes time to figure out what warm-up works for you, and you should start with that every time you embark on anal. With time, the warm-up may become more and more extreme, opening you up to bigger things.

Be patient! Best of luck
11/21/2018
Contributor: Britannia Britannia
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Originally posted by BiBrian
Hi everyone. So, I've recently been hooked up on the idea of gaping - both for myself and my partner. We've started training around a week ago, and I still seem to be unable to accept anything over 2 inches in diameter. To be honest, from the ... more
I'll add to the chorus saying, "Take your time, go slow and lots of lube!"

I started out with a 1 inch diameter vibrator a friend gave me as a gift and now my butt will swallow hungrily anything 3.25 in diameter or smaller.

Listen to your body, increase size slowly, and enjoy the journey! You'll be buying lots of toys, with ever increasing girth, and hold them as markers on you path to gaping excellence!

Also, practice, practice practice! Gaping much like shooting a free throw, or hitting a long up hill breaking putt takes practice! Stretch out at least twice a week, but every other day is even better!
05/23/2021
Contributor: delilahdamage delilahdamage
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Originally posted by BiBrian
Hi everyone. So, I've recently been hooked up on the idea of gaping - both for myself and my partner. We've started training around a week ago, and I still seem to be unable to accept anything over 2 inches in diameter. To be honest, from the ... more
Definitely give it more time! It took me 6 months to finally be comfortable with a large plug and even now I'm still not at my goal plug. Remember, pain is not a good thing, especially anally so take it especially slow and carefully.
06/02/2021
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by BiBrian
Hi everyone. So, I've recently been hooked up on the idea of gaping - both for myself and my partner. We've started training around a week ago, and I still seem to be unable to accept anything over 2 inches in diameter. To be honest, from the ... more
Maybe your body is telling you not to do this The anus stays closed for a reason
06/05/2021
Contributor: Robin Goodfellow Robin Goodfellow
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Originally posted by BiBrian
Hi everyone. So, I've recently been hooked up on the idea of gaping - both for myself and my partner. We've started training around a week ago, and I still seem to be unable to accept anything over 2 inches in diameter. To be honest, from the ... more
For me, 6 months of diligent play/training, and investing in graduating sizes during this time was a life changer. I was not planning on gaping or fisting or anything, but was just having a good time. And by the end of that time period I was being fingered by someone and it spontaneously turned into being fisted, and I've never looked back.

I cannot reiterate this enough- serious anal play is ALL about relaxing, enjoying and practice. Don't worry about gaping specifically, just continue to stretch your limits and learn to enjoy yourself & the sensations and all your wishes will manifest in time, and you will be pleasantly surprised.

Gaping specifically is about relaxation. Once you're warmed up you can do some girth stretching with your widest piece. Then start pistoning all the way in and out and the muscles generally begin to relax and submit to more easily accommodate the penetration. When this is happening you will have begun to gape. Congrats!

Best of luck!
07/01/2021
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
Just saw a review on inflatable toys. I think you could get one of those, pump it up somewhat (maybe start small), insert and pull out slowly or leave in opening of anus for a short while then pull out. These are no firm and have some give so should be less chance of pain. Then increase size and do again.

These items are like silicone balloons that you squeeze a bulb to inflate with air.
Here's a review and video on one of them.
link
07/02/2021
Contributor: TheWickedFox TheWickedFox
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Originally posted by BiBrian
Hi everyone. So, I've recently been hooked up on the idea of gaping - both for myself and my partner. We've started training around a week ago, and I still seem to be unable to accept anything over 2 inches in diameter. To be honest, from the ... more
I wish I had a place like this to ask these questions when I was younger.
First off I will absolutely preach and parrot everyone by saying LUBE IS YOUR FRIEND!!!! take some time at your local sex shop and ask them about various brands. Most quality shops have their employees test out and extensively go over the different types. Find one that meets your needs.
Secondly, Dude, take your time! this is a fun journey to embark on but results don't happen over night. You hat gotta be like the tortoise: slow and steady. I wish someone had explained that to me when I started exploring myself. I was eager like you and wanted to go all out and get the satisfaction I craved. I went down to the shop and purchased a soft plug that was WAY too big for just starting out. I went home and without any type of warm up I would try and insert it. Unfortunately because I was not going the right way about it I would only feel pain and even get frustrated when I couldn't force it in. It took me actually injuring myself to realize I needed to slow down do some research and rethink this. After I recovered and healed I decided to take the research I had done and apply it. I swear to all the gods I am so glad I had patience. by relaxing and easing into it, my body was able to accept the process and eventually I was able to accept larger toys but it took time; even more so than it would have if I had just had a bit of patience to begin with.
Calm mind, relaxed body, and patient soul will get you there I promise.

Heed my cautionary tale, have fun, and best endeavors to you
07/09/2021
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by TheWickedFox
I wish I had a place like this to ask these questions when I was younger.
First off I will absolutely preach and parrot everyone by saying LUBE IS YOUR FRIEND!!!! take some time at your local sex shop and ask them about various brands. Most ... more
Great advice. Seems some us anal enthusiast don't have enough patience. Just got to get that thing in there. I remember when I got my nJoy 2.0. First purchase from Eden. It was expensive. Big jump from the njoy large and then my then favorite Lg Doc Johnson Classic. Anyway since spent over $100 determined to get that big heavy shiny plug in. Tried for days/ weeks. Then used one of Mrs dildos to open up more. Oh Boy I got it in but my inners were in shock for 15 mins.. Then getting it out Wow!

I can say it's the bestest! However if I don't use it for a period of time it's difficult to get in. And the shock in there when it gets sucked in. Shock again, but only for a min or 2
07/21/2021