I'd have to say that you do seem to be a bit impatient. I have no idea if you will ever be able to gape - but I do have some experience with larger toys.

I can do about 2.25" but that took months to achieve. If there is ever pain you need to stop - this is not a courage issue. It's about allowing your body to adapt to what you are asking it to do.

Try running a marathon - or even a 10K without adequate training - you are likely to hurt yourself. You get my point...

Almost everyone knows that there can never by too much lube - and because the anal muscles wipe the lube from your toys, frequent reapplication needs to be a part of the process.

I have found tapered toys like the Tantus Champlette are great for training. I even have the original Champ (it goes a little over 2" at the base) - which is quite a bit larger than the Champlette - but sadly has been discontinued.

Tonight is typical; getting ready for my wife tonight I did some anal cleansing (enema) and put in a 1.5" glass butt plug. Once everything settles down, I'll jump in the shower and start working in my 2" glass plug. I use conditioner for lube in the shower.

Once the 2" plug is in, I will wash, shave and shampoo. In between each step I will work the plug in-and-out about 15-20x. So by the time I get out my sphincter muscles know what's coming.

Since my wife prides herself on her "big dick" - when she takes out the plug, she will lube up her fingers and begin working from 1 finger to 4 - all the while teasing mw about how she's going to f**** me until she cums.

It's all rather fun - but working out the details and best practices took months - not days.

Best of luck - and slow down!

Dear BiBrian, you are definitely rushing things. Gaping is not a fast kink, it takes months and months of thorough preparation and training. Please, don't be so quick about it - you might end up hurting yourself.

We will soon be launching a content about gaping - you might find that really interesting.

Gunsmoke is describing his pegging prep routine, and it's very schoolbook, must I say. It certainly takes time to figure out what warm-up works for you, and you should start with that every time you embark on anal. With time, the warm-up may become more and more extreme, opening you up to bigger things.

Be patient! Best of luck

Just saw a review on inflatable toys. I think you could get one of those, pump it up somewhat (maybe start small), insert and pull out slowly or leave in opening of anus for a short while then pull out. These are no firm and have some give so should be less chance of pain. Then increase size and do again.

These items are like silicone balloons that you squeeze a bulb to inflate with air.
Here's a review and video on one of them.
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