Getting her to use big dildo

Getting her to use big dildo

wannaplaywithu wannaplaywithu
So my wife and I often use a dildo to simulate a threesome. I fuck her mouth while fucking her with the dildo in her pussy. Its a huge turn on for the both of us and I have once I was able to fit myself and the dildo (both about 5 1/2'' around) inside her.
Now I want more BUT at the local sex shop i suggested a monster dildo (about 7" long maybe 7" around) and she turned me down completely. She claims her last lover had a thick one and it hurt her. I have explained to her that that was a long time ago and shes had much sex to help her stretch since but she wont go for it.

How do i make her believe it will be ok and get on to the part where she gushes cum and squirt all over me and this thick cock?

Thanks in advance!
02/17/2013
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PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
Don't force her into anything, especially if she's had a bad past experience with something similar. You can express your desires, but it's still her decision whether or not she's comfortable with that.

I would say if it's something you can work out together, go up a little bit at a time. Get a dildo that's a little larger than the one you've been using, and when she's comfortable, move up again from there. Sometimes a little at a time works out much better.

The more you push someone to do something, the less they're going to trust you and feel confident in what you share. Be gentle, be loving, and don't push it! Start small and have good communication.
02/17/2013
vulvalicious vulvalicious
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Originally posted by PropertyOfPotter
Don't force her into anything, especially if she's had a bad past experience with something similar. You can express your desires, but it's still her decision whether or not she's comfortable with that.

I would say if ...
I second all of that! If it's meant to be it will work out when the time is right. Be optimistic and open minded. Since she had a past lover who was thick and it hurt her, she's probably going to be very cautious about doing this. If you had a bad experience with something, would you want to try it again with someone else when you didn't like it the first time?
02/17/2013
Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
Of course, I totally agree with what the others have said. I'd like to add that it may not take a size that large to get her to gush, so it will be interesting to see what size & shape do the trick -- provided she's game to experiment with less ginormous sizes!
02/17/2013
Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
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Originally posted by PropertyOfPotter
Don't force her into anything, especially if she's had a bad past experience with something similar. You can express your desires, but it's still her decision whether or not she's comfortable with that.

I would say if ...
I agree completely. Pressuring someone into trying something, especially in the bedroom, is never a good idea. Remember that she'll be more likely to enjoy the experience if she's actually looking forward to it instead of thinking she has to do it.

Also, keep in mind that even though, "shes had much sex to help her stretch," her body still might not be able to make a big jump in size right away. If she's used to a certain upper limit, going significantly larger in one go may not work. It's best to move up in size little by little, which in turn will probably help her feel less intimidated.
02/17/2013
Girly Juice Girly Juice
Dude, YOU try getting something of that size inside you! It's not fun unless you're a size queen, and your lady obviously isn't. You can't force her into anything she doesn't feel comfortable doing - and if you do, you're not being a good partner at all.
02/17/2013
Sbmsvschoolgirl Sbmsvschoolgirl
I agree with everyone else here. If you try to force her she might just pull away from you. Tell her about your desires/fantasies and see if she would be open to slowly working up to a large size. If she says no, don't push it. It's her body and if she's had bad experiences in the past it might be emotionally difficult for her. Discuss it with her and respect her decision.
02/17/2013
SMichelle SMichelle
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Originally posted by wannaplaywithu
So my wife and I often use a dildo to simulate a threesome. I fuck her mouth while fucking her with the dildo in her pussy. Its a huge turn on for the both of us and I have once I was able to fit myself and the dildo (both about 5 1/2'' ...
Not every women can handle a large toy, even if they've had lots of sex.. and even if they've experienced large toys/lovers before. My partner is very, very thick, and we've had lots of sex, but large toys (even ones that are just about the same thickness as him) still hurt me, so I don't care to use them. Personally, I would say no way in hell to a 7" around dildo, too.

Suggest working up to a larger toy. Increase slowly. Most importantly, if she says no she doesn't want to use a larger toy, accept it -- it's her body.
02/17/2013
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