Some guys are insecure about sex toys in general because toys make them think their sexual performance is inadequate. Realistic dildos can lead to other insecurity about a partner seemingly enjoying a penis other than the guy's own; some couples stick to realistic dildos that match the man's flesh tone or use only a realistic dildo made from one of those penis cloning kits. Some people may dislike realistic dildos because the dildos resemble dismembered body parts.

I personally don't have any hangups about sex toys and view them as sex accessories or sex enhancers. Heck, if my gf wants to fantasize that I have multiple cocks or she's getting a gangbang or she's shooting a porno with some porn star, more pleasure to her. I don't have any cuckold inclinations but I find it hot to watch a woman be dirty enough to play with realistic dildos or any extreme ones like the njoy Eleven or anything from Bad Dragon.

If your boyfriend doesn't want you to get something realistic, I'd suggest speaking with him to find out his reasoning. Is he receptive to you having something that is less realistic. ...or something smaller and less threatening? Maybe you can come to a happy compromise. If not, you could always get something for your own personal playtime. Either way, I'd recommend sticking with 100% silicone. Have fun.

Personally I love to watch my wife with toys, be realistic or "whimsical"!!! I prefer realistic toys when I am playing with her, she prefers fake, she wont use the toys herself(that's my job i am told!) so i get an upfront view and show that beats all!!! The way you stated your side you are lacking in pleasure from what i can tell, If you aren't satisfied then you need to tell him and make sure he holds his end up. If he won't bring in a toy you want to help satisfy you then he needs to go down town and use his mouth and fingers to warm you up good. also just a tip mucinex at maximum does for a week or two and he will last for hours!!!

Also about the pain get checked by your doctor doesn't mean anything is wrong but it never hurts to make sure everything is OK down there... My wife did because we had the same problem with the pain part.

We like the realistic ones cuz I like the way it looks. Makes me feel like it's real and my hubby enjoys it to when I peg him. It's a comfort thing though, I love the feel of him inside me and nothing can replace that. Just because it looks real it's still a toy for us. But different strokes for different folks..

I think it's great, doesn't matter if it's realistic or colorful. It gives her a different feel without involving some real live ding dong.

He would love to use any dildo on me. We've a few realistic and BD ones. Actually he's shopping for for of those Elypse Art ones as we speak. Myself, I prefer real life ones.

He on the other hand will receive BD and realistic ones