How to get him to wear a ring?

How to get him to wear a ring?

luvinluv luvinluv
My partner has been having some issues as of late. He says that he has never had this before, that he has always been able to be rock hard for hours, but lately if we stop stimulation at all (change positions) he goes pretty flacid??? I think he could benifit from a ring, but he as some sort of thing against it. He screws up his face and says"NO WAY". How do you think I could get him to try it?
04/23/2010
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Sir Sir
Tell him that plenty of guys wear them, and that it's not something to scrunch his face up over. And maybe also encourage him and tell him that they might look attractive on him, and not only keep his erection, but also make it more intense for him.
04/23/2010
Sammi Sammi
I'd start with something simple, and ask him to try it just once. I'd go with what Sir said as well, and see if he'd try it just once.
04/23/2010
ScotchIrish ScotchIrish
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Originally posted by luvinluv
My partner has been having some issues as of late. He says that he has never had this before, that he has always been able to be rock hard for hours, but lately if we stop stimulation at all (change positions) he goes pretty flacid??? I think he ...
Tell him no more happiness till he at least tries. Your deserve what you want, and I am sure you have given of yourself. From a guy who is starting over. I would do anything for my gal. Relationships are give and take. Hell, I never even heard about them till a few years ago. I have never worn one. But, I want to please the woman that I am with, tonight and every night. It is like anything, perfume, weight loss, champagne ...ect it is all for one and other. We do things to make us look and feel better. Tell Mr. Limpy that there will be a time in his life that he'll do anything for a visit from Mr. Stiffy. Even if it means two popsicle sticks and medical tape. Do it for your partner.
04/24/2010
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Go for Cialis - don't get me wrong I frequently use a silicone ring, but for duration Cialis is a great 'cheater'.
04/24/2010
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
Get one with a vibe and tell him he can please you at the same time.
I agree with ScotchIrish. Guys sometimes have to do things like this for their women.
04/24/2010
Gidget Gidget
I think it will help to just make sure he knows that there is nothing wrong with him, he's not broken and in need of a fix via ring but that if he does feel bad/inadequate/unhappy with the fact that this is now happening than there is something he can do about it that can add even more pleasure for both of you. Alternatively, you can just buy one and then show him how it is not a big deal, just another toy that has an added bonus.
04/24/2010
luvinluv luvinluv
Thanks for the feedback:} We did kind of talk about it the other night and I did mention the vibe thing for more stimulation, he didn't say absolutely no!! So I may just end up getting one and see what he thinks:} Any tips on the first one? I want it to be comfortable but enough to give a little squeeze if you get me
04/28/2010
NY Toyfan NY Toyfan
I have never really been into rings, but I did just get the Lelo Bo. It is not too constricting and the vibration on it is amazing. Even my wife loved it and she isn't usually into vibrators. That is my recommendation.
04/28/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by luvinluv
My partner has been having some issues as of late. He says that he has never had this before, that he has always been able to be rock hard for hours, but lately if we stop stimulation at all (change positions) he goes pretty flacid??? I think he ...
He should first see a doctor, seriously. It could be something as simple as stress or diet change or something much more serious.
The only way you'll be able to get him to try one out is to ask candidly why he's against it. Perhaps read some reviews with him from guys who love their rings and then pick one out together. Get one that will stimulate you both to lessen the impact of his having a "problem". Seriously though if he's suddenly having problems maintaining an erection he needs to get checked out.
04/29/2010
luvinluv luvinluv
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
He should first see a doctor, seriously. It could be something as simple as stress or diet change or something much more serious.
The only way you'll be able to get him to try one out is to ask candidly why he's against it. Perhaps read ...
I know about the doctor thing, really he should get checked out, but how many guys do you think are willing to go to a stranger about that kind of thing?He HATES doctors!! And after a bad experience the other week, there is no way I could get him to go again!! I think he could quit smoking, but you know how that goes!
I will try to talk to him about it soon, but after last night it may have to wait a while, a little too close to home right now:{
04/29/2010
Elodie Elodie
"how many guys do you think are willing to go to a stranger about that kind of thing?"

I've never known a guy who wouldn't. This is his health. He needs to take care of it.

My first boyfriend went to the doctor because of a strange mark on his penis. The doctor called someone else into the room, then another person, and they all looked at it and hmm'd over it until someone said, "this looks sort of like a bruise from teeth marks -- could that be it?" Which it was. My boyfriend was hugely relieved, as was I, and it gave us a funny story.

What would be really embarrassing is having a health problem that could be fixed, but just gets worse and worse until he needs hospitalization. Or having a poor sex life over something that could be easily fixed.
04/29/2010
The Nakanas The Nakanas
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Originally posted by luvinluv
I know about the doctor thing, really he should get checked out, but how many guys do you think are willing to go to a stranger about that kind of thing?He HATES doctors!! And after a bad experience the other week, there is no way I could get him to ...
Honestly, if it's invovling the penis and a possible medical condition, I'd say at least 9 out of 10 guys would go to the doctor in a heartbeat. We'll be stubborn on a lot of shit, but that's one thing you we want at full capacity at all times!
06/03/2010
Red Vinyl Kitty Red Vinyl Kitty
I would ask him straight up why he doesn't want to. I think it is hard to give you too much advice without knowing what his reasoning is for not wanting to wear one. Does he think it'll hurt? Does he think only people who have trouble keeping an erection wear them? Once you know his reasoning, you may be able to assuage his fears.

I hope he tries it out!
06/03/2010
Liz2 Liz2
So many guys don't want anything about their masculinity questioned. To note his flaccid state and suggest a cock ring could appear being negative. Perhaps present the cock ring as a toy rather then as a cure.
06/04/2010
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I don't know if mentioning that many men report very positive results would help - but that's the case for me. Since getting in to my mid 50s I had some issues as you described. I bought several different kinds of rings - including some expensive metal ones - but the best is a small simple silicone ring.

It has some give so it's easy to put on - and it stays on. I can put it on well in advance - unlike the metal ones where your timing has to be just right. You need to flaccid to put it on - then you need to be erect to keep it on.

The silicone one I can put on in advance - or even after becoming erect - very versatile.

My wife absolutely loves the effect - it makes me just a little larger and much harder.

If I we're you - I'd try a demure approach - please honey, try it for me - please. If he waffles offer him something he really wants in return!

Is that a bribe - absolutely - but will it be worth it? You bet!
06/04/2010
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