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Contributor: Zombirella Zombirella
I just read a review for a slim vibrator and the reviewer wrote that it is a thin viberator so "bigger girls may want to look elsewhere". I don't know, but something about that statement just rubbed me the wrong way.

Since when does weight matter with using a vibrator and the width of it? Weight has nothing to do with how tight a vagina is or whatever. It just offended me to see that written in there. I'm a little 'thick' and I actually prefer smaller toys, the girthier ones hurt me too much....

So, what do you think? Is that offensive to you?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Yes
P'Gell , Red Vinyl Kitty , succulenthunny616 , pinkpottergirl , mat , Hekate101 , namelesschaos
7
No
kittycatgirl , Peggi
2
Other
Raigne , Madsinner , Gone (LD29) , ksparkles16 , Rossie , ghalik , Woman China , Entropy , underHim , Badass , vanilla&chocolate , Pi , callsignhusker , sweetpea12 , Bpmrn86 , CollegeFun2014 , MissCandyland , ellejay , Various , Love Obsessed , Lulia , Missmarc , StarFire , Bethy Cassatt , Femme Mystique , Melan!e , DiamondKoala , Deeder , 12345678 , potstickers , pasdechat , Incendiaire , Bex1331 , Tangles , Ice1
35
Total votes: 44 (44 voters)
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Contributor: Chirple Chirple
Did they really mean weight, not just... vagina size ?

I think I remember someone bringing this up before - probably that same review. If that's the case, and they're talking about all-over body-weight, that should probably be edited. :/
04/13/2012
Contributor: Raigne Raigne
I didn't immediately think body size. In that context that sounds more to me like it's referring to tightness.
04/13/2012
Contributor: kittycatgirl kittycatgirl
I'm thinking they meant big as in vagina size. Since that's what I thought when I read it, it didn't offend me. But I could see how someone could take it that way.
04/13/2012
Contributor: Zombirella Zombirella
I don't know, that is how I took it though. Either way it wasn't worded well and if that is not what was meant it could be said in another way, ya know? I've just never thought of vaginas as "big" or "small".

I think this is a different review that I'm talking about.
04/13/2012
Contributor: ksparkles16 ksparkles16
I also thought it referred to vagina size and not weight but who knows?
04/13/2012
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
Maybe the person's an inexperienced reviewer and used the wrong words to express her notion.
04/13/2012
Contributor: Raigne Raigne
I agree that it's definitely not the best wording and probably should have been queried for revision. Who's to say that a woman with a "larger" vagina can't appreciate a smaller toy if it's built the right way? Still, I understand what the reviewer meant and while there's room for improvement, what is this community for if not to learn?
04/13/2012
Contributor: Peggi Peggi
I wasn't offended, I actually read the review you were talking about, I first read it and just thought she meant girls with bigger vaginas, but I can see how it could come off the wrong way to some.
04/13/2012
Contributor: ghalik ghalik
Not offensive to me, but definitely poor word choice which could offend some.
04/13/2012
Contributor: Entropy Entropy
+1 on poor word choice. Anatomy and size can play a role in how enjoyable a toy is to someone, but that could have been said differently.
04/13/2012
Contributor: Woman China Woman China
I didn't see a problem with it till you pointed out that it could be taken as women with weight wise. But then again, I am not the thinnest woman out there and I didn't find it offensive after I realised either.
04/13/2012
Contributor: underHim underHim
I agree with most of the others on here. I don't think the reviewer meant weight.
04/13/2012
Contributor: Badass Badass
honestly, i probably would have been a little put off by this myself for a minute, being a bigger girl. but after thinking about it, i bet she was talking about bigger vagina's.
04/13/2012
Contributor: vanilla&chocolate vanilla&chocolate
I really, honestly think she meant that if a girl has a bigger vagina and wants to insert the vibrator, she likely will not get much pleasure from it.
04/13/2012
Contributor: callsignhusker callsignhusker
I think it was merely misworded?
04/13/2012
Contributor: sweetpea12 sweetpea12
Quote:
Originally posted by Zombirella
I just read a review for a slim vibrator and the reviewer wrote that it is a thin viberator so "bigger girls may want to look elsewhere". I don't know, but something about that statement just rubbed me the wrong way.

Since when ... more
When I heard this I though she was trying to warn girls with "wide vaginas" that this might not be enough for them. I don't think it correlates with weight at all
04/13/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Zombirella
I just read a review for a slim vibrator and the reviewer wrote that it is a thin viberator so "bigger girls may want to look elsewhere". I don't know, but something about that statement just rubbed me the wrong way.

Since when ... more
Yes, I think it's a bit insulting to both BBW and women who enjoy larger toys. They are not always the same people. What does weight have to do with the ability of the vagina to stretch, the woman feeling pleasure from that stretch and anything else?

I'm a tiny women, and I LOVE big toys.

I agree that it's a statement from someone who maybe doesn't know a lot about differing preferences in the sizes of sex toys and the pleasure stretching can cause. It also perpetrates the myth that there are "tight" (good) and "big" (bad whore) vaginas. Nothing is further from the truth!

The "size" of a vagina is not static. All women have the walls of their vagina touching when at rest. I've said it before, but a vagina is made of "Memory Foam." It can stretch to accommodate a small penis, a medium penis, a large penis, a slim line dildo, a large vibrator, or even an infant's head.... then go right back to the "size" where the sides are touching.

Vaginas don't "stretch out." They spring back, if they are healthy. There is really no such thing as a women "with a big vagina." Arousal has a lot to do with it, too. I can take large toys, but My Man can't even get his pinkie in if I am not completely aroused. That has nothing to do with capacity for stretch or "size" but only what happens before arousal occurs.

Looks like some of our reviewers may need a Sex Education 101 course.
04/13/2012
Contributor: CollegeFun2014 CollegeFun2014
They probably meant someone with a wider vagina. But as P'Gell stated, vaginas wrap around any sized penis or in this case a toy and then go back to the walls touching each other. It seems like it was just a poor choice of words when they wrote the review. Everything is personal preference anyways.
04/13/2012
Contributor: Crystal1 Crystal1
At first glance, I interpreted it as "girls who like bigger toys", just worded awkwardly.
04/13/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
I am not offended, but the reviewer should have worded that much better.
04/13/2012
Contributor: succulenthunny616 succulenthunny616
That could have been worded better. Some people may take offense to that. Big is beautiful!
04/13/2012
Contributor: Various Various
I would assume they meant vaginal size, but if not then I am a touch offended.
04/13/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by CollegeFun2014
They probably meant someone with a wider vagina. But as P'Gell stated, vaginas wrap around any sized penis or in this case a toy and then go back to the walls touching each other. It seems like it was just a poor choice of words when they wrote ... more
It was. I try to be careful, but perhaps everyone needs to learn at their own pace. (I don't even know the review, so....) I wrote a review today, about a very large toy that was heavily textured. And I just said, "Those who don't like textured or larger toys may want something else from the Tantus line." That way it doesn't appeals to preference not someone's assumed physical attributes.
04/13/2012
Contributor: Love Obsessed Love Obsessed
I would read it as vaginal size but,if they were talking about weight and I was big I would be offended.
04/13/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Love Obsessed
I would read it as vaginal size but,if they were talking about weight and I was big I would be offended.
But, don't you think assuming some women have "bigger vaginas" than others (which is totally a myth) is just as offensive?

I'm a petite woman. I enjoy large toys. I no more have a huge gaping... orifice... than someone who likes to bite big sandwiches would have a huge stretched out mouth. It just doesn't happen. Your mouth doesn't "get bigger" if you bite into large food, nor does your vagina "get bigger" if you like big toys or have a well endowed partner.

Orifices are meant to stretch to accommodate and then go back to their original size.
04/13/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Rossie
Maybe the person's an inexperienced reviewer and used the wrong words to express her notion.
I think that's it.
04/13/2012
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
I think the term the person was looking for is "size queens". And it was simply misworded.
04/13/2012
Contributor: Lulia Lulia
I assumed poor wording when I first read it and that the writer was referring to vaginal tightness.
04/13/2012
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
Quote:
Originally posted by Zombirella
I just read a review for a slim vibrator and the reviewer wrote that it is a thin viberator so "bigger girls may want to look elsewhere". I don't know, but something about that statement just rubbed me the wrong way.

Since when ... more
Did you PM that person with suggestions to modify the wordings?
04/13/2012