thank you both for the great advice and the info.

i feel really dumb now asking all this.

Rossie as to who provided me with this info, i was raised by my grandparents they were both very religious and very old school (so to speak) when it came to these topics and going to a catholic school they didnt have sex ed classes there like you get today.

i dont have a gynecologist at this time i can go see for info and to talk so that site is a big help thanks. lots to read on it.

i am feeling lot better now about receiving my new "toy" and discovering my body for the first time.
im glad i can post questions like this on here and not be judged it really helps to have people you can trust to talk to for advice less

thank you both for the great advice and the info.

i feel really dumb now asking all this.

Rossie as to who provided me with this info, i was raised by my grandparents they were both very religious and very old school (so to speak) when it came to these topics and going to a catholic school they didnt have sex ed classes there like you get today.

i dont have a gynecologist at this time i can go see for info and to talk so that site is a big help thanks. lots to read on it.

i am feeling lot better now about receiving my new "toy" and discovering my body for the first time.
im glad i can post questions like this on here and not be judged it really helps to have people you can trust to talk to for advice less

Pchy, once again there is no need to feel "dumb". There will always be something we don't know about. This is when we ask and learn. Fortunately for you, you've come to the right place .

During my high school years, I also went to a religious school, although it was a Jesuit high school and not a Catholic one. My parents didn't approach the subject either. Either way, my high school's sex ed program consisted of a bunch of people basically lecturing us about not having sex and the religious ramifications of having premarital sex. I also have a pretty good idea of what you might have gone through.

Personally, I feel that not telling teens when they come of age about sex in a responsible manner is reckless. Hopefully the analogy I'm about to draw will make some sense. Sex ed, when taught responsibly, are like behind the wheel drivers lessons. If no one tells, teaches and demonstrates to you how to operate the vehicle in a responsible manner, then there will be problems in the future.

Enough of my rant. Let's talk about something more fun. I'm curious, does your new toy come with batteries? If it doesn't which size batteries does it use? less

Congratulations on your first purchase! First, Inquisitor gave wonderful advice Second, please don't feel ashamed of the things that you do not know yet. It will all come in time and with patience.

It's going to be scary at first. I would recommend using your finger first, just to get used to having something inside you. Some lubrication is probably a good idea to help the process go smoothly. You can either lick your finger or use a little Vaseline (if you don't have actual lubricant).

Take your non-dominant hand and use it to part your lower 'lips'. Now you have your dominant hand free to explore. Working North to South---up North, you will notice a tiny little hidden bud. This is your clitoris hood and hidden inside is your clitoris. When you start rubbing it, it will feel good, then great, you will notice the little clit start to peek out (this is when you are highly aroused), you can then have a clitoral orgasm by the rubbing Moving south from the clit, take your middle finger and just slide it on down towards your anus. Your finger will naturally find your vagina opening. It's a rather larger hole and your finger will fit quite nicely there. At first, it may be a bit tight but you will stretch to accommodate the size. This is when I might try using a little lube. It might ease your fears of it hurting and the fear of the unknown. Then, just go slow, slowly inserting your finger, bringing it in and out until you are comfortable and have finally managed to get it all the way in.

Once in, now you can feel around Try curving your finger upward, searching for the texture of a 'cat's tongue' for your G-spot. This is the 2nd area that will give you that orgasm. Some people like stroking it, some like tapping it, try different things. Try different positions. You can flip over on your belly, grind your pelvic and clit against your palm, moving your finger in and out, pumping your hips however feels best.

When your comfortable with your lady parts you just replace your finger with your vibrator. Go slow and find a rhythm that just feels good. Try placing it on your clit and feel the sensation it gives. Then take it on in for a different kind of sensation. If something hurts....don't do it and try something different.

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thank you very much for the post and all the great advice in your post.

very great tips makes lots of sense. yes i agree i am going to go slow and take my time. dont want to rush any of this and put all your great tips to use.

didnt realize there was so much to exploring your lady parts and getting to know yourself. i do agree it is best to go slow and take your time get to know every crease and crack and spot inbetween.

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the other day i ordered my very first vibrator and it should arrive by the end of the week. i am really excited to get it but also kinda scared (sounds strange).

i have so many question about using my new toy and this topic and everything that goes with it(sex, self pleasuring, ect.) i dont know where to start or what to do. i feel kinda dumb asking some for help and advice of my concerns and worries.

mainly i have never touched/explored my lady parts at all not even with my fingers, never used a tampon down there or anything. it may sound really weird (i feel dumb asking this) i am not even sure i can locate the opening to my vagina and even if i did i wouldn't even know if that was it or if i was even close to it. how do you really know.

how do you go about starting to explore your lady parts down there and use a toy. how do you know if you are doing something wrong or right? will it cause me a lot of pain or hurt down there where its never been touched with anything?
do you go really slow? do you keep trying if you cant feel or experience any kind of sensation?
im worried that the if i do get excited with all these sensations that i will produce a really bad odor and draw attention that i do not want. does this happen?
how can i ease these fears and concerns?

another fear in the back of my mind, is it true that if you get to excited/stimulated that it can cause you to have a heart attack?

i really want to start getting to know my body and what feels good and have all these sensations that everyone talks about but i keep doubting myself with these concerns.

im sorry for the long post or if this is in the wrong section or if this kind of topic is not suitable for the discussion boards.

i never got much of the talk when i was growing up and topics like this were never talked about(self pleasuring, "toys", things your body goes through doing these things) any help or advice or or tips or anything on any of these would be greatly appreciated.

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