ordered me very first vibrator but....

ordered me very first vibrator but....

pchy pchy
the other day i ordered my very first vibrator and it should arrive by the end of the week. i am really excited to get it but also kinda scared (sounds strange).

i have so many question about using my new toy and this topic and everything that goes with it(sex, self pleasuring, ect.) i dont know where to start or what to do. i feel kinda dumb asking some for help and advice of my concerns and worries.

mainly i have never touched/explored my lady parts at all not even with my fingers, never used a tampon down there or anything. it may sound really weird (i feel dumb asking this) i am not even sure i can locate the opening to my vagina and even if i did i wouldn't even know if that was it or if i was even close to it. how do you really know.

how do you go about starting to explore your lady parts down there and use a toy. how do you know if you are doing something wrong or right? will it cause me a lot of pain or hurt down there where its never been touched with anything?
do you go really slow? do you keep trying if you cant feel or experience any kind of sensation?
im worried that the if i do get excited with all these sensations that i will produce a really bad odor and draw attention that i do not want. does this happen?
how can i ease these fears and concerns?

another fear in the back of my mind, is it true that if you get to excited/stimulated that it can cause you to have a heart attack?

i really want to start getting to know my body and what feels good and have all these sensations that everyone talks about but i keep doubting myself with these concerns.

im sorry for the long post or if this is in the wrong section or if this kind of topic is not suitable for the discussion boards.

i never got much of the talk when i was growing up and topics like this were never talked about(self pleasuring, "toys", things your body goes through doing these things) any help or advice or or tips or anything on any of these would be greatly appreciated.

thank you
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Inquisitor Inquisitor
First, I'd like to congratulate you on ordering your first toy. I hope you will like it and bring you some newfound enjoyable sensations.

Now I'd like to address some concerns you might have. Don't feel "dumb" or "silly" for asking any type of question you want an honest answer to on this message board. We are all hear to learn and share information as well as our personal experiences in order to grow as sexually responsible humans.

Unfortunately, it seems as though you might have come across some misinformation. You will not produce or excret any foul odor by masturbating. As a matter of fact, no one will ever know unless you either tell them or they find your toys and if they find your toys you can always tell whomever is asking that its a history project for your human sexuality class. That's a great class by the way! I highly recommend taking that class if you can make it fit into your schedule.

The only way you will draw attention to yourself is if your vibrator is ridiculously loud when you use it or you use it in public. I would not recommend participating in either of these activities for the obvious reasons. Let's see, what were some of your other concerns.

I'm curious, have you ever seen a Gynecologist? If you haven't, you might want to consider it. This doctor will answer all the questions you have and tell you what is best for your particular situation. You don't have to go in for an exam, they are availabke to just talk to and they are also non judgemental.

If the idea of seeing a Gynecologist frightens you, you can also talk to a nurse practitioner. They are also a valuable and sometimes under utilized resource. They are also very knowledgeable. There are also resources in the health department on your campus.
02/28/2015
Rossie Rossie
My gosh, who provided you with all those false information? You will not produce any unpleasant odor or get an heart attack from enjoying a great masturbation session.

Inquisitor's suggestions are very helpful. However, if you're uncomfortable asking your Gynecologist this type of question face-to-face, go study the information on this site. Before you check the site out, go get a compact standing mirror — it's much more comfortable to observe your lady parts with the help of a mirror.
03/01/2015
pchy pchy
thank you both for the great advice and the info.

i feel really dumb now asking all this.

Rossie as to who provided me with this info, i was raised by my grandparents they were both very religious and very old school (so to speak) when it came to these topics and going to a catholic school they didnt have sex ed classes there like you get today.

i dont have a gynecologist at this time i can go see for info and to talk so that site is a big help thanks. lots to read on it.

i am feeling lot better now about receiving my new "toy" and discovering my body for the first time.
im glad i can post questions like this on here and not be judged it really helps to have people you can trust to talk to for advice
03/01/2015
Rossie Rossie
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Originally posted by pchy
thank you both for the great advice and the info.

i feel really dumb now asking all this.

Rossie as to who provided me with this info, i was raised by my grandparents they were both very religious and very old school (so to speak) when ...
No worries! It's always good to ask when you have questions, much better than guessing!

I fully understand what you're going through because I'm from a traditional Chinese family and attended a Convent school.
03/01/2015
symbiasin symbiasin
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Originally posted by pchy
thank you both for the great advice and the info.

i feel really dumb now asking all this.

Rossie as to who provided me with this info, i was raised by my grandparents they were both very religious and very old school (so to speak) when ...
Hey.....

It's too bad that you did not run into a natural family planning couple. I'm Catholic too and thanks to all the stuff they wanted me to pay attn to...temperatures, opening of the cervix, etc. I know that part of my body pretty well.
03/01/2015
Inquisitor Inquisitor
Pchy, once again there is no need to feel "dumb". There will always be something we don't know about. This is when we ask and learn. Fortunately for you, you've come to the right place .

During my high school years, I also went to a religious school, although it was a Jesuit high school and not a Catholic one. My parents didn't approach the subject either. Either way, my high school's sex ed program consisted of a bunch of people basically lecturing us about not having sex and the religious ramifications of having premarital sex. I also have a pretty good idea of what you might have gone through.

Personally, I feel that not telling teens when they come of age about sex in a responsible manner is reckless. Hopefully the analogy I'm about to draw will make some sense. Sex ed, when taught responsibly, are like behind the wheel drivers lessons. If no one tells, teaches and demonstrates to you how to operate the vehicle in a responsible manner, then there will be problems in the future.

Enough of my rant. Let's talk about something more fun. I'm curious, does your new toy come with batteries? If it doesn't which size batteries does it use?
03/01/2015
Vnessa Vnessa
Congratulations on your first purchase! First, Inquisitor gave wonderful advice Second, please don't feel ashamed of the things that you do not know yet. It will all come in time and with patience.

It's going to be scary at first. I would recommend using your finger first, just to get used to having something inside you. Some lubrication is probably a good idea to help the process go smoothly. You can either lick your finger or use a little Vaseline (if you don't have actual lubricant).

Take your non-dominant hand and use it to part your lower 'lips'. Now you have your dominant hand free to explore. Working North to South---up North, you will notice a tiny little hidden bud. This is your clitoris hood and hidden inside is your clitoris. When you start rubbing it, it will feel good, then great, you will notice the little clit start to peek out (this is when you are highly aroused), you can then have a clitoral orgasm by the rubbing Moving south from the clit, take your middle finger and just slide it on down towards your anus. Your finger will naturally find your vagina opening. It's a rather larger hole and your finger will fit quite nicely there. At first, it may be a bit tight but you will stretch to accommodate the size. This is when I might try using a little lube. It might ease your fears of it hurting and the fear of the unknown. Then, just go slow, slowly inserting your finger, bringing it in and out until you are comfortable and have finally managed to get it all the way in.

Once in, now you can feel around Try curving your finger upward, searching for the texture of a 'cat's tongue' for your G-spot. This is the 2nd area that will give you that orgasm. Some people like stroking it, some like tapping it, try different things. Try different positions. You can flip over on your belly, grind your pelvic and clit against your palm, moving your finger in and out, pumping your hips however feels best.

When your comfortable with your lady parts you just replace your finger with your vibrator. Go slow and find a rhythm that just feels good. Try placing it on your clit and feel the sensation it gives. Then take it on in for a different kind of sensation. If something hurts....don't do it and try something different.

I hope this helps,good luck and have FUN!!!!
03/01/2015
pchy pchy
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Originally posted by Inquisitor
Pchy, once again there is no need to feel "dumb". There will always be something we don't know about. This is when we ask and learn. Fortunately for you, you've come to the right place .

During my high school years, I also ...
thank you for the response and advice.

yes the school i went to also did not approach the sex subjects either. they only lectured dont do this dont do that. yes i totally agree 100% all aspects of sex good and bad and everything inbetween should be taught in all schools. that way if some parents wont talk about it kids will still get the right info they need.

dont get me wrong im very thankful my grandparents stepped up to raise me but i do wish at times i had parents that taught me all this. i wouldnt be so confused and misinformed.

i am feeling lot better now i have friends on here i can turn to for advise and help/info and not get lectured. big weight off my mind/shoulders (if that makes any sense)

ok enough of my rants (sometimes it helps to have someone to vent to that has a good idea of what you are trying to say/going through)


for you question: for my very first vibrator i got the Snoo silicone mini vibrator (i hope i made the right choice). it runs on a double a battery i ordered a few with it. the features sounded good to me i like that it is water proof and small. for my first i was not looking for something to insert mainly just something for clitoral stimulation and the areas around it then slowly working up to going further.
was this a good choice for my first or is there a better one out there?

i also ordered a small bottle of the JO H2O lubricant to try and see how i like it. and said its compatable with all toys.
03/01/2015
pchy pchy
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Originally posted by Vnessa
Congratulations on your first purchase! First, Inquisitor gave wonderful advice Second, please don't feel ashamed of the things that you do not know yet. It will all come in time and with patience.

It's going to be scary at ...
thank you very much for the post and all the great advice in your post.

very great tips makes lots of sense. yes i agree i am going to go slow and take my time. dont want to rush any of this and put all your great tips to use.

didnt realize there was so much to exploring your lady parts and getting to know yourself. i do agree it is best to go slow and take your time get to know every crease and crack and spot inbetween.

now i am really excited to receive my new toy in the mail is it friday yet
03/01/2015
Inquisitor Inquisitor
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Originally posted by pchy
thank you very much for the post and all the great advice in your post.

very great tips makes lots of sense. yes i agree i am going to go slow and take my time. dont want to rush any of this and put all your great tips to use.

didnt ...
No, sadly it isn't yet. The good news is that it's only a few more days away though.
03/01/2015
Rossie Rossie
Hey Pchy, while waiting for your Snoo to arrive, you can explore yourself with your fingers first. That way, you will know what to do with the toy once it arrives!
03/02/2015
pchy pchy
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Originally posted by Rossie
Hey Pchy, while waiting for your Snoo to arrive, you can explore yourself with your fingers first. That way, you will know what to do with the toy once it arrives!
thats a really great idea thanks

why didnt i think of that duh

will definitely have to do that as soon as done with home work and papers (yuck)
03/02/2015
Rossie Rossie
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Originally posted by pchy
thats a really great idea thanks

why didnt i think of that duh

will definitely have to do that as soon as done with home work and papers (yuck)
Happy exploring!
03/03/2015
Inquisitor Inquisitor
Pchy, is it Friday yet? I was thinking you might have gotten your package early.
03/04/2015
pchy pchy
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Originally posted by Inquisitor
Pchy, is it Friday yet? I was thinking you might have gotten your package early.
no not friday yet

didnt get my package today hopefully tomorrow if not friday for sure

woohoo cant wait feel like a little kid at christmas
03/04/2015
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by pchy
no not friday yet

didnt get my package today hopefully tomorrow if not friday for sure

woohoo cant wait feel like a little kid at christmas
Based on your location, you should rec'd it tomorrow. I'm on the West Coast and it takes 5 working days. You're much closer. Just hope it's not stuck on a truck stuck in the snow. Yes, it's like that when waiting for "Toys".
03/04/2015
Vnessa Vnessa
I have another package arriving myself lol. Should be a GOOD Friday all around
03/04/2015
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by Vnessa
I have another package arriving myself lol. Should be a GOOD Friday all around
OW got hers last Thursday.
03/04/2015
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by Vnessa
I have another package arriving myself lol. Should be a GOOD Friday all around
Ohhh, hint please? Is it from FF, Njoy? hint pls, do u like guessing games? I bet you do.
03/04/2015
Vnessa Vnessa
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Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
Ohhh, hint please? Is it from FF, Njoy? hint pls, do u like guessing games? I bet you do.
(giggle). Not yet. I'm holding out on that awesome little gem . (Guessing games are fun!)

Two are for the Mr and 1 is for me!!! I took advantage of the Buy 1 Get 1 deal and the 40% off deal the were having. Nothing major.
03/04/2015
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by Vnessa
(giggle). Not yet. I'm holding out on that awesome little gem . (Guessing games are fun!)

Two are for the Mr and 1 is for me!!! I took advantage of the Buy 1 Get 1 deal and the 40% off deal the were having. Nothing major.
What kind on hint was that ? At least spell part of it our with some blanks. ( Like B_ _ _ _ _ _ g ) or C _ _ _ _i _ _ .
03/04/2015
joshaugust joshaugust
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Originally posted by pchy
the other day i ordered my very first vibrator and it should arrive by the end of the week. i am really excited to get it but also kinda scared (sounds strange).

i have so many question about using my new toy and this topic and everything ...
Biggest thing, relax. The exploration of the human body is and always has been a natural things. If it hurts stop. If it feels good keep going. Using any toy with its intended purpose in its intended way is not going to cause you any extreme distress. Remember it is supposed to be fun. So just relax and enjoy the exploration.
03/04/2015
Vnessa Vnessa
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Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
What kind on hint was that ? At least spell part of it our with some blanks. ( Like B_ _ _ _ _ _ g ) or C _ _ _ _i _ _ .
I am cracking up trying to fill in your blanks!!! I feel like it's a game of Hang Man

Okay, geesh, we can't have you dying over there so I will just tell you lol. The Eden Precious G spot for me (it looked pretty), the Escapade Anal Massager and the Escapade Vibrating Prostate Massager for him Two tiny little toys to break him in
03/04/2015
pchy pchy
woooooo got my toy in the mail today

cant wait to try it out tonight when im little more relaxed and not so stressed

any one have any tips/ideas to help de-stress so i can enjoy my toy to the fullest?
03/05/2015
Rossie Rossie
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Originally posted by pchy
woooooo got my toy in the mail today

cant wait to try it out tonight when im little more relaxed and not so stressed

any one have any tips/ideas to help de-stress so i can enjoy my toy to the fullest?
A nice, relaxing bath, then play some soft music while using your new toy. Have fun!
03/05/2015
pchy pchy
Quote:
Originally posted by Rossie
A nice, relaxing bath, then play some soft music while using your new toy. Have fun!
thanks will have to try that
03/05/2015
Vnessa Vnessa
Candles (even for solo play) often help set the mood to relax. A nice glass of wine never hurt either. You'll find it very surprising how quickly the body let's go and responds.
03/05/2015
Inquisitor Inquisitor
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Originally posted by Rossie
A nice, relaxing bath, then play some soft music while using your new toy. Have fun!
I agree. Also, try not to be interrupted during your time. If you live with someone, I'd tell them that you need to be left alone for at least an hour while you "study".

Good call Ladies!
03/05/2015
pchy pchy
well, thank you all for the great tips to help me try to relax

unfortunately, no luck relaxing or getting to try out my new toy

guess just to much on my mind at the moment and just as i was starting to unwind and do some self exploring got a phone call wish i hadn't
found out my grandma passed away yesterday morning so that killed the mood right there.

not going to try to use my new toy for a little bit just cant get my mind on it but hope to really soon
03/06/2015
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