Vibrators dont work for me?

Vibrators dont work for me?

SugarLips SugarLips
I don't get it...I hear lots of women talk about how great their vibrators are but I've never had an orgasm using one...despite trying to use it in every imaginable way. It doesn't matter if I use a vibrator on my clit or if I insert it or both...I still don't get off. Have I just not found the right one? Does anybody else have this issue? Any recommendations for good vibes?
10/30/2011
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toxie m toxie m
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Originally posted by SugarLips
I don't get it...I hear lots of women talk about how great their vibrators are but I've never had an orgasm using one...despite trying to use it in every imaginable way. It doesn't matter if I use a vibrator on my clit or if I insert it ...
Vibrators don't work for me either. Clitoral vibration is just not a thing that my body reacts to orgasmicly (sp?). I much prefer the rubbing sensation of fingers. I've found that I do like deep powerful vibration more than buzzier stuff (the Vanity line by Jopen is pretty awesome) but while it can feel quite nice, it still doesn't get me off. I don't think it's an issue so much as a different way of being wired. Just because most women love vibration doesn't mean there's something wrong with you if you don't. You just have to figure out what you like better.
10/30/2011
Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
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Originally posted by toxie m
Vibrators don't work for me either. Clitoral vibration is just not a thing that my body reacts to orgasmicly (sp?). I much prefer the rubbing sensation of fingers. I've found that I do like deep powerful vibration more than buzzier stuff (the ...
To examine your spelling: my guess is that it would be most likely be "orgasmically,&qu ot; but in actuality it's not a real word at all, so spelling is irrelevant. Fun fact: the historically correct form of "orgasmic" would actually be "orgastic" (similar to sarcasm/sarcastic) though this has pretty much fallen out of use.

Okay, that's enough with the lessons.

But yeah, many women enjoy vibrators very much (some find it nigh-impossible to orgasm without one), but if they don't work for you then there's nothing wrong with that. I myself can orgasm with a vibrator, but it often feels different from orgasming (also not technically a word) with my fingers, so there's variation even among those of us who manage with vibes.

You could keep playing around with different positions, vibration strengths, shapes, and so on, but don't feel bad if it's just not for you.
10/31/2011
Love Perpetua Love Perpetua
It might be that you haven't found the right vibrator for you. The first two vibrators I tried weren't very powerful, and had buzzy vibrations, so I thought I couldn't orgasm with a vibe. I had only orgasmed from oral before, but I couldn't exactly do that for myself. I was in a long distance relationship, and very frustrated! Finally I got myself the Hitachi Magic Wand, and it was like a whole new world! It's also okay if vibrators just aren't your thing.

Which ones have you tried?
10/31/2011
SugarLips SugarLips
Thank you so much for responding! It's good to know that other people have the same issue and I'm not just a freak. I've only ever tried the kind of "traditional" vibes and rabbits...they haven't worked. I hear so many good things about the Hitachi...I think I'll have to check it out.
10/31/2011
Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
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Originally posted by SugarLips
Thank you so much for responding! It's good to know that other people have the same issue and I'm not just a freak. I've only ever tried the kind of "traditional" vibes and rabbits...they haven't worked. I hear so many ...
Just be a little careful. The Hitachi is super-duper strong, and some people find it to be too much (though you could still use it as a back massager). If you can, find a brick & mortar shop near you. Most adult stores sell the Hitachi, and will let you turn it on so you can get an idea of the strength.

But yeah, it's pretty awesome. Mine arrived today. VROOOOOOM!!
10/31/2011
Beck Beck
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Originally posted by SugarLips
Thank you so much for responding! It's good to know that other people have the same issue and I'm not just a freak. I've only ever tried the kind of "traditional" vibes and rabbits...they haven't worked. I hear so many ...
I find my mini miracle massager to be very powerful also!
10/31/2011
Antipova Antipova
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Originally posted by SugarLips
I don't get it...I hear lots of women talk about how great their vibrators are but I've never had an orgasm using one...despite trying to use it in every imaginable way. It doesn't matter if I use a vibrator on my clit or if I insert it ...
I'm with you---sort of. Clitoral vibrations are pleasant for me, but I just recently found one that really did something exciting for me. (That was the Spoon, which I still rub against myself like I do with my fingers, except that it happens to be vibrating also.) If you really really want to make a vibrator work, check that one out!

(That's assuming you can get off using your fingers. Is that true?)

A wand vibrator can be neat too---I have the Fairy Mini and I think it's pretty awesome---but it's easier for me to come to orgasm by using an attachment so they're internal vibrations. Or by grinding my clit against the head. (Not just holding it gently like other people seem to do).
10/31/2011
LQ LQ
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Originally posted by SugarLips
Thank you so much for responding! It's good to know that other people have the same issue and I'm not just a freak. I've only ever tried the kind of "traditional" vibes and rabbits...they haven't worked. I hear so many ...
I was just responding to your post in the "Vibes vs. Clitoral Hood" thread. Sounds like your parts may be built on the smaller scale. I'm the same way & only certain vibes will work for me. Others just don't hit me right: Rabbits, especially... I've gone through like 5 & they all smack me in the pubes. G-Spot vibes typically not near my G-Spot, etc.

So, if that's an issue for you, make sure to take a good look at measurements & the 1:1 size dealy. Just one thing to keep in mind.

Uhm... also not sure what you've tried, but different materials & textures can make a difference, too.

Other than that... I have a headache & can't think at the moment. Good luck, though.
10/31/2011
Love Perpetua Love Perpetua
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Originally posted by SugarLips
Thank you so much for responding! It's good to know that other people have the same issue and I'm not just a freak. I've only ever tried the kind of "traditional" vibes and rabbits...they haven't worked. I hear so many ...
The Hitachi is fantastic, but it is *extremely* strong. I don't use it directly, I either press it against my mound, or use a blanket in between me and the head. It also works great while using a dildo.
11/01/2011
Purplelion Purplelion
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Originally posted by Rin (aka Nire)
Just be a little careful. The Hitachi is super-duper strong, and some people find it to be too much (though you could still use it as a back massager). If you can, find a brick & mortar shop near you. Most adult stores sell the Hitachi, and will ...
I agree; the Hitachi is very powerful. Neither me nor my husband can apply it directly to our genitals.
11/01/2011
SugarLips SugarLips
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Originally posted by LQ
I was just responding to your post in the "Vibes vs. Clitoral Hood" thread. Sounds like your parts may be built on the smaller scale. I'm the same way & only certain vibes will work for me. Others just don't hit me right: ...
LOL, you know, as I was responding to that post I was thinking "that must be the answer". I think I'll give up on the rabbits...they definitely don't work for me. I'll look into the different materials though...that's a good idea. Thank you!
11/02/2011
SugarLips SugarLips
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Originally posted by Love Perpetua
The Hitachi is fantastic, but it is *extremely* strong. I don't use it directly, I either press it against my mound, or use a blanket in between me and the head. It also works great while using a dildo.
I've seen the Hitachi (or something similar to it maybe) in porn and it does look super strong! Interested to try it though.
11/02/2011
LQ LQ
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Originally posted by SugarLips
LOL, you know, as I was responding to that post I was thinking "that must be the answer". I think I'll give up on the rabbits...they definitely don't work for me. I'll look into the different materials though...that's a good idea. Thank you!
Glad to help. I do have a couple dual-stimulators that are okay. So, don't get the idea that they are all bad. But, yeah, if they tend not to fit you, buying a zillion isn't going to help. I'm playing around with DIY rabbits right now by sticking cockrings on my vibes, but haven't had time to fool with it much yet.
11/02/2011
Angelica Angelica
Sometimes I can't get off with my wand vibe, so I use my eroscillator. It isnt vibration so it feels a bit different to your body, there isn't any numbing for me or anything. Maybe give that a look? Its strong and I love love love it.
11/02/2011
Talena Talena
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Originally posted by SugarLips
Thank you so much for responding! It's good to know that other people have the same issue and I'm not just a freak. I've only ever tried the kind of "traditional" vibes and rabbits...they haven't worked. I hear so many ...
your def. not a freak. I can eventually get off using vibes but it takes forever...and I end up more bored than pleased..so I, myself am in search of the perfect one..could it be realistic or more oddly shaped. Who knows. Good luck in your search.
11/02/2011
LQ LQ
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Originally posted by Angelica
Sometimes I can't get off with my wand vibe, so I use my eroscillator. It isnt vibration so it feels a bit different to your body, there isn't any numbing for me or anything. Maybe give that a look? Its strong and I love love love it.
I've been really curious about that, but it's so expensive. Trying to find a cheaper rotating type vibe to test out the sensation with before I could consider the actual Eroscillator.
11/02/2011
chicken12 chicken12
Could it possibly have to do with the types of vibrations?

"Buzzy" vibrators, like the High Intensity Bullet just don't do it for me. I prefer vibes with deeper, rumblier vibrations.
11/02/2011
toxie m toxie m
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Originally posted by LQ
I've been really curious about that, but it's so expensive. Trying to find a cheaper rotating type vibe to test out the sensation with before I could consider the actual Eroscillator.
I'm not sure if cheaper ones would be worth the money, really. I've heard that they're all pretty crap - probably be better off saving that money to put towards the real thing. As someone who vibrations don't do anything for, I absolutely have my eyes set on the Eroscillator as a potential alternative
11/02/2011
Liz123 Liz123
It takes a lot to work for me. The wahl seems to be the best. I completely understand.
11/06/2011
SugarLips SugarLips
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Originally posted by LQ
Glad to help. I do have a couple dual-stimulators that are okay. So, don't get the idea that they are all bad. But, yeah, if they tend not to fit you, buying a zillion isn't going to help. I'm playing around with DIY rabbits right now by ...
Wow, I hadn't even thought of that, that's a great idea!
11/07/2011
SugarLips SugarLips
Quote:
Originally posted by Angelica
Sometimes I can't get off with my wand vibe, so I use my eroscillator. It isnt vibration so it feels a bit different to your body, there isn't any numbing for me or anything. Maybe give that a look? Its strong and I love love love it.
Thank you for the suggestion! I'll check it out.
11/07/2011
Mr. John Mr. John
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Originally posted by SugarLips
I don't get it...I hear lots of women talk about how great their vibrators are but I've never had an orgasm using one...despite trying to use it in every imaginable way. It doesn't matter if I use a vibrator on my clit or if I insert it ...
Try oscillations rather than vibrations possibly. The one that works for my wife no matter what is her Eroscillator. She likes to take her time when possible, but always comes hard. The Eroscillator 2 deluxe with the grapes attachment is her all time favorite.
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