Learning your body first? Or buying a toy...

I used my fingers and brush handles long before I used toys. Toys did make it more real though, but now that I have toys, I feel I've spoiled myself and don't have as much as a sexual imagination. I also feel that I crave more intensity because the toys I have are no longer good enough. I always want more, and I don't know if that's a good thing or not!

Sometimes I get that way, too, but it seems to be cyclical. After a while I'll want something more subtle again.

I definatly learned on my own b4 a toy!

I learned how to pleasure myself with a toy. I discovered my shower head at a very young age. I know my body fairly well and I don't think that was a hinderance. I absolutely love toys, but I don't always use them. I think the issue is more whether or not people feel free to pleasure themselves. In my opinion however you do it, you are still learning things about your body. I am learning and I am nearly 30.

I started exploring my own body when I was around 12-13. I think it is a natural thing to do before you venture into the realm of toys. That was a good 5 years before I even got my first toy.

As far as the mind being the biggest sex toy, I can definitely relate. Honestly, I get more turned on sometimes by reading erotica or writing it. I use it as my own personal form of foreplay when I do not have a partner.

I think sometimes a toy helps you learn your body. It did for me.

I had a friend at one point, who never had an orgasm and didnt know what her girlie parts even looked like - actually, she never saw any vagina at all. I told her to take a small mirror, and look, and feel. And that she cannot expect someone else to make her cum and give her pleasure, if she doesnt know how to make herself cum and satisfy herself.

I learned my body first, then got a toy after I met my husband. He helped me explore the world of toys- but i explored and learned myself first.

You have to know what makes you happy first, before you can expect anyone or anything to make u happy.

Same here. I find that penetrative toys are best for me because fingers are only so long, but I always prefer my own fingers to any kind of clitoral vibe. I actually just got the Hitachi and .. no orgasms yet. I actually ended up turning it off and finishing off with my fingers, haha. I just prefer more of a rubbing than a vibrating sensation. It all depends on the person, I suppose. I sure do wish I could relate to all the fuss about vibes, though!