Self Defense- Rape

I agree that this seemed like a joke. Like some sort of forward you might get. On the other hand, if it helps, then go for it no matter how ridiculous it is.


I have heard statistics for years that most rapes are not by strangers and I wonder how true those assumptions are or if it's just a rumour that has gained astonishing strength. less

These suggestions are not a joke at all. When I was in college, friends of mine used to practice acting crazy or faking seizures just to perfect our technique.

When you attack someone you want them to know they're being attacked, otherwise what's the point? There's no gratification in attacking a crazy person or someone who is seizing. less

This doesn't quite belong here.. but what the hoot. Has anyone taken a self defense class to ward off an attacker or rapist? Do you know what to do?

Most people know the basics- Have your keys in your hand at all times when you're walking to your car, never go to a second location, if it's dark ask for an escort outside of your work or a store, etc... but my sister called me up and shared some lesser known things.

If you're about to be raped, PEE on yourself! Apparently, it worked for a girl in her city. She was jogging in the park and the guy wrestled her down, she was scared so she ended up peeing on herself, her attacker was so disgusted that he punched her in the face and got up and ran away instead of raping her.

Act Happy and Elated! Say, "Oh, I haven't had sex in so long". He'll wonder why you're so thrilled and you can choose to mention that you have HIV/AIDS or herpes. Sometimes it doesn't work and they'll say, "me too!"

Tell your rapist that you're ovulating and you've always wanted a child. Tell him that if he successfully rapes you that you'll get his DNA from a rape kit afterward so he has to pay child support for the next 18 years. Tell him condoms aren't effective if he uses one, and that you'll still get pregnant because you're on fertility drugs.

Act absolutely INSANE. Most people want to get as far away from a crazy person as possible. Spit, hiss, punch, bite. Now is not the time to remain stationary. Do everything short of speaking in tongues, most rapists will not want to have to put up with a crazy woman who is spitting all over him and herself. Vomiting works too if you can vomit on command. However, if it doesn't ward him off but only makes him more violent change your approach.

Be sure to tell your rapist that it isn't love or sex, that they are in fact raping you. You need to put them back into reality and have them fully conscious of the situation. Tell them that you will find them after this and ruin their life. You will tell everyone that they are a rapist. You will go to every job they ever get and tell their employer that they are a rapist. 10 years down the line you will find where they live and tell their wife and children that they are a rapist.

If you're not looking for ways to get out of a rape situation verbally but are not interested in taking self defense courses, I found a really great article. link It's most definitely worth the read. It gives approaches to never be in the situation where you have to rely on talking your way out of a rape as it prevents the situation from ever progressing that far.

Do you have any tips or advice to share? Any stories or accounts of someone or yourself successfully deterring a rapist? less

Pardon me, I believe I fell out of the stupid truck today.

Is this for real? It seems to me that if you act excited in any way possible or react in a positive manner that if the rapist is caught the defense of "I said NO" would be invalid, yes/no/maybe?

"Be sure to tell your rapist that it isn't love or sex, that they are in fact raping you. You need to put them back into reality and have them fully conscious of the situation. Tell them that you will find them after this and ruin their life. You will tell everyone that they are a rapist. You will go to every job they ever get and tell their employer that they are a rapist. 10 years down the line you will find where they live and tell their wife and children that they are a rapist."

And this right here, seems to be a really effective way to get yourself killed. less

Yeah, I agree. I read that whole bit about hunting the guy down and telling everyone he knew that he was a rapist, and all I thought was "well, he would've just killed me if I'd said that!"

Seriously, I've taken self-defense classes in the past. I've heard all the tricks about yelling "fire" and everything... and it really meant nothing to me when it came down to it.

I got attacked when I was asleep, in my own bed, by my boyfriend. He only outweighed me by about ten pounds... but that translated to a heck of a lot more strength than I expected! No weapons at hand, no one else around, and so you just do what you can. He said he'd kill me if I "made him" kill me, and I believed him.

I also struggle to believe that any rapist will be put off if you tell them they're a rapist. I think that's the point! They can go through the whole pretense later that everything was consensual (and he did), but he knew full well at the time what he was doing! Even in date rape it's all about power. It takes a really unique kind of individual to have sex with someone who's screaming and crying and begging them to stop. It's precisely that bit that gets them so excited. less

Pardon me, I believe I fell out of the stupid truck today.

Is this for real? It seems to me that if you act excited in any way possible or react in a positive manner that if the rapist is caught the defense of "I said NO" would be invalid, yes/no/maybe?

"Be sure to tell your rapist that it isn't love or sex, that they are in fact raping you. You need to put them back into reality and have them fully conscious of the situation. Tell them that you will find them after this and ruin their life. You will tell everyone that they are a rapist. You will go to every job they ever get and tell their employer that they are a rapist. 10 years down the line you will find where they live and tell their wife and children that they are a rapist."

And this right here, seems to be a really effective way to get yourself killed. less

Yeah, I agree. I read that whole bit about hunting the guy down and telling everyone he knew that he was a rapist, and all I thought was "well, he would've just killed me if I'd said that!"

Seriously, I've taken self-defense classes in the past. I've heard all the tricks about yelling "fire" and everything... and it really meant nothing to me when it came down to it.

I got attacked when I was asleep, in my own bed, by my boyfriend. He only outweighed me by about ten pounds... but that translated to a heck of a lot more strength than I expected! No weapons at hand, no one else around, and so you just do what you can. He said he'd kill me if I "made him" kill me, and I believed him.

I also struggle to believe that any rapist will be put off if you tell them they're a rapist. I think that's the point! They can go through the whole pretense later that everything was consensual (and he did), but he knew full well at the time what he was doing! Even in date rape it's all about power. It takes a really unique kind of individual to have sex with someone who's screaming and crying and begging them to stop. It's precisely that bit that gets them so excited. less

All of the self-defense techniques in the world aren't going to protect you when it's someone you know, you just aren't expecting something like to happen. My sister was attacked by a friend, someone she'd known for years. Her reaction was to curl up into a fetal position and cry. This was when self-defense classes were all the rage and she had taken training exercises during gym class in high school. Still didn't help her.

And I just thought about something else, if there is no proof or conviction of rape going around telling everyone this person is a rapist - especially potential employers - is slanderous and the perp can sue the victim.

The best defense is to be aware and unfortunately, that's not always possible. I'm so sorry for what happened to you, words just cannot express my sympathies.


I never walk or jog alone or while wearing headphones. I don't go to unfamiliar places alone. I have a security guard walk me to the car if it's dark and I'm feel uneasy. I always keep my keys in my hand with two of them placed pointed end up between my first two knuckles and I can scream louder than a banshee.

None of this will stop someone who is determined to harm me and I know that. less

I'm so sorry this happened to you Kiki.

But, you are 100% right about the futility of trying to "reason" with the rapist. If they have rape on their mind, chances are, it is going to happen.

Your best bet is to simply try to stay ALIVE, as you did. Doing anything that sounds "cute" on paper (like most of the urban legends at the beginning of this thread) is only going to make things worse. less

I agree 100%. Most rapes are violent acts, a woman is grabbed, beated and assaulted. There is no time to go into a feminist rant about how rape isn't "love or sex." Like a rapist will CARE WTF the person (to him, a thing will think about the rape? YOU ARE NOTHING TO HIM. Threatening him will only put your life more deeply in danger.

I also agree that saying you will "ruin his life" is a good reason for the rapist to simply kill your pretentious ass after he rapes you.

You can't "put him back into reality" he's a freaking predator. Hurting and humiliating women IS HIS REALITY!

You can't argue with someone in the middle of a violent crime.

I also agree that most of these suggestions are silly and make the assumption the rapist is thinking and capable of reason. Most violent criminals simply aren't capable of either in the midst of a violent act.

Running, screaming, or fighting, IF he doesn't have a lethal weapon is the best course. If that isn't possible, try to stay alive, say nothing to him, except "NO!" and then call the police immediately so DNA evidence can be taken and you can be treated medically and psychologically.

You CAN'T talk a rapist out of the act, most of the time. Peeing, vomiting, acting horny are all silly things that NO ONE who has ever actually been raped would think works. When a woman is being raped, the rapist thinks of her nothing more than an intimate object. Too much talk, etc is only going to get you beat worse or even killed. Shut up and try to get away, or try to stay alive and say NOTHING to him afterward and pray he just leaves so you can get help. less

This doesn't quite belong here.. but what the hoot. Has anyone taken a self defense class to ward off an attacker or rapist? Do you know what to do?

Most people know the basics- Have your keys in your hand at all times when you're walking to your car, never go to a second location, if it's dark ask for an escort outside of your work or a store, etc... but my sister called me up and shared some lesser known things.

If you're about to be raped, PEE on yourself! Apparently, it worked for a girl in her city. She was jogging in the park and the guy wrestled her down, she was scared so she ended up peeing on herself, her attacker was so disgusted that he punched her in the face and got up and ran away instead of raping her.

Act Happy and Elated! Say, "Oh, I haven't had sex in so long". He'll wonder why you're so thrilled and you can choose to mention that you have HIV/AIDS or herpes. Sometimes it doesn't work and they'll say, "me too!"

Tell your rapist that you're ovulating and you've always wanted a child. Tell him that if he successfully rapes you that you'll get his DNA from a rape kit afterward so he has to pay child support for the next 18 years. Tell him condoms aren't effective if he uses one, and that you'll still get pregnant because you're on fertility drugs.

Act absolutely INSANE. Most people want to get as far away from a crazy person as possible. Spit, hiss, punch, bite. Now is not the time to remain stationary. Do everything short of speaking in tongues, most rapists will not want to have to put up with a crazy woman who is spitting all over him and herself. Vomiting works too if you can vomit on command. However, if it doesn't ward him off but only makes him more violent change your approach.

Be sure to tell your rapist that it isn't love or sex, that they are in fact raping you. You need to put them back into reality and have them fully conscious of the situation. Tell them that you will find them after this and ruin their life. You will tell everyone that they are a rapist. You will go to every job they ever get and tell their employer that they are a rapist. 10 years down the line you will find where they live and tell their wife and children that they are a rapist.

If you're not looking for ways to get out of a rape situation verbally but are not interested in taking self defense courses, I found a really great article. link It's most definitely worth the read. It gives approaches to never be in the situation where you have to rely on talking your way out of a rape as it prevents the situation from ever progressing that far.

Do you have any tips or advice to share? Any stories or accounts of someone or yourself successfully deterring a rapist? less