How should I handle this?

How should I handle this?

jhbkjg7 jhbkjg7
Ok, so when i was doing laundry I came across my sisters vibrator (Im her older brother) I very discretely placed it back on her dresser and didn't say anything. I think she is embarrassed though, cause she has been really quiet. The vibrator she had was inexpensive and looked like it was broken. I feel like I should make it up to her and get her another one for her birthday, to communicate that she doesn't need to feel embarrassed about having or using a sex toy, and should feel like its perfectly normal and healthy. How should I get her one? I was thinking just buying it and placing it on her dresser. My sister is in her mid twenties and we are close and pretty open about discussing sex and relationships. She often has me buy her pads/tampons. Any advice or suggestions on how to approach this is appreciated!
10/13/2016
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Originally posted by jhbkjg7
Ok, so when i was doing laundry I came across my sisters vibrator (Im her older brother) I very discretely placed it back on her dresser and didn't say anything. I think she is embarrassed though, cause she has been really quiet. The vibrator she ...
I wish I had advice, but I'm unsure how I would go about it.
10/13/2016
jhbkjg7 jhbkjg7
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Originally posted by PolyLove
I wish I had advice, but I'm unsure how I would go about it.
its cool thanks anyway
10/13/2016
sXeVegan90 sXeVegan90
If she feels comfortable enough with talking about sex with you, perhaps you could go about presenting her with a gift card on her birthday or Christmas to a retailer online that sells adult toys. That might ease her embarrassment of you picking the toy out for her, and instead she could discreetly purchase one for herself. I don't know if that'd be too awkward or not, but that's just a thought if you wanted to allow her to privately browse through a selection and pick out something she likes best on her own. I'm going by how I'd personally handle the situation. I don't know your sister or you, or how you think she would handle something like that, but I'd rather be able to choose on my own with a gift card than my own brother picking something out for me.
10/14/2016
jhbkjg7 jhbkjg7
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Originally posted by sXeVegan90
If she feels comfortable enough with talking about sex with you, perhaps you could go about presenting her with a gift card on her birthday or Christmas to a retailer online that sells adult toys. That might ease her embarrassment of you picking the ...
Thanks for your suggestion! A gift card is certainly a good idea, I just thought it would be more thoughtful to purchase a nice one for her so she doesn't have to deal with the uneasiness of purchasing one online or in a store herself. By giving her one it also helps communicate that Im totally fine with her having and using one, like I dont want her to feel uncomfortable or embarrassed about having it. It seems she feels that way since i found it. I figured that i would just leave it in her room and send her a text.
10/14/2016
DancerKittyKat DancerKittyKat
If I were your sister, I'd want you to talk about it with me so there wouldn't be an elephant in the room. I would probably freak out if you sat me down because I associate sit-downs with accusations, but perhaps just offering information about yourself would be best. Perhaps offer how you are part of an online, sex toy community, have a fair bit of knowledge about sex toys, and believe there should be no shame.

I would not get her a sex toy without asking her first. But a gift card is a great idea - it gives her the chance to find something she likes. I know if it were me, and a family member offered to buy me a sex toy, I would refuse out of embarrassment, but I would not decline a gift card. Another cute idea would be to get her a toy bag / toy pouch, that way, she can protect her new toy from prying eyes if she wishes.
10/14/2016
jhbkjg7 jhbkjg7
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Originally posted by DancerKittyKat
If I were your sister, I'd want you to talk about it with me so there wouldn't be an elephant in the room. I would probably freak out if you sat me down because I associate sit-downs with accusations, but perhaps just offering information ...
I certainly agree that talking would be a good approach to take just to clear the air. I guess i will mention that I bought a vibe for my girlfriend who thought it was a fun gift which she really likes, and then ask "if you want I can get one for you as well" and see what she says. The thing is she knows i came across it, and I feel getting her a new one is i think a really nice way of letting her know not to be embarrassed. She has been pretty open about talking about sex. She is in a long term, monogamous relationship with a wonderful guy. A few times she has asked me to get her non-latex condoms for her because she is allergic. I guess a vibrator purchase might not be so big a deal after all.
10/14/2016
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by jhbkjg7
Ok, so when i was doing laundry I came across my sisters vibrator (Im her older brother) I very discretely placed it back on her dresser and didn't say anything. I think she is embarrassed though, cause she has been really quiet. The vibrator she ...
How about directing her to our site so she can look around. You could casually tell her you found this site with ordinary everyday people's reviews.

I'm sure you saw some of the men's toys. If not, "What are you waiting for ? " Let her know you browsed around and saw there's a lot of stuff here. And also mention to her there is a friendly forum here. There are many older threads, questions asked/answered and discussions.

Perhaps suggest, "I'm going to order something. Would you like something too ? "

Or leave your computor on this page where she will see it. She may feel less embarrassed knowing you are looking at sexual products.



And Joey, please let us know how it goes ? Lots of inquiring minds here.
10/14/2016
jhbkjg7 jhbkjg7
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Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
How about directing her to our site so she can look around. You could casually tell her you found this site with ordinary everyday people's reviews.

I'm sure you saw some of the men's toys. If not, "What are you waiting for ...
Hi Love Bears, Thanks for the reply,
I think Im just gonna get her the lelo billy and slip it under her bed. I figured that would be best. You gave it a good review so I figured it would be a nice pick. Do you work for eden fantasies?
10/14/2016
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by jhbkjg7
Hi Love Bears, Thanks for the reply,
I think Im just gonna get her the lelo billy and slip it under her bed. I figured that would be best. You gave it a good review so I figured it would be a nice pick. Do you work for eden fantasies?
Thanks for the nice comment. No, but seems like I do. Came here to read reviews on a toy. Saw they had a search box for threads. I wanted advice on something. Decided then to join up. Some nice members encouraged us to do reviews.

The Billy can be used on gals and guys. So, good choice. And easy to clean. Ours is few yrs old and still going strong and used frequently.
10/14/2016
jhbkjg7 jhbkjg7
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Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
Thanks for the nice comment. No, but seems like I do. Came here to read reviews on a toy. Saw they had a search box for threads. I wanted advice on something. Decided then to join up. Some nice members encouraged us to do reviews.

The Billy ...
So heres what happened, I left my screen open to the Eden fantasies vibrator page, she saw it and jokingly asked what i was looking at. I was like my girlfriend wants to upgrade the vibe she uses, and I thought id get her a new one. I then said that im totally fine that my girlfriend uses a vibrator, and just want her to be happy in the relationship. I mentioned that I noticed her broken vibrator in the laundry and was wondering if she wanted a new one. She was a little surprised at first but then said "I guess so" and laughed. So I guess i will be ordering two.
10/14/2016
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by jhbkjg7
So heres what happened, I left my screen open to the Eden fantasies vibrator page, she saw it and jokingly asked what i was looking at. I was like my girlfriend wants to upgrade the vibe she uses, and I thought id get her a new one. I then said that ...
Layla Rabbit works well also. Need to watch sizing though.
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Lately OW has been partial to the Air Flirt
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She likes to use the innie shaft on her clit first. Strong and many patterns.
10/14/2016
MrClark MrClark
I agree with many of the comments here, that a gift card & being up front/direct with your sister, and if you can level the playing field admitting that you have toys of your own, etc then it might help with the embarrassment factor.
10/15/2016
Vnessa Vnessa
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Originally posted by jhbkjg7
Ok, so when i was doing laundry I came across my sisters vibrator (Im her older brother) I very discretely placed it back on her dresser and didn't say anything. I think she is embarrassed though, cause she has been really quiet. The vibrator she ...
You're very sweet for wanting and feeling comfortable enough to replace her broken toy. I love the suggestion by DancerkittyCat to mention your connection here to the Eden Community. Giving her the introduction could really be a benefit to her and she'll meet great people who are jumping to help inquisitive minds. Open communication is something I feel she will truly appreciate from you. Especially under the circumstances. I'm sure she's feeling a little uncomfortable right now with not knowing the thoughts you may be feeling. Then, a gift card would be perfect for her. She'll know you're completely comfortable with everything and she'll know she can talk openly with you if needed
10/20/2016
DancerKittyKat DancerKittyKat
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Originally posted by jhbkjg7
So heres what happened, I left my screen open to the Eden fantasies vibrator page, she saw it and jokingly asked what i was looking at. I was like my girlfriend wants to upgrade the vibe she uses, and I thought id get her a new one. I then said that ...
That sounds like it went really well! Yay!
10/23/2016
MrClark MrClark
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Originally posted by DancerKittyKat
That sounds like it went really well! Yay!
Agree, creative solution and glad it worked out well!!
10/23/2016
jhbkjg7 jhbkjg7
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Originally posted by DancerKittyKat
That sounds like it went really well! Yay!
Ok so, I ordered a lelo vibe for her. When it came i discretely placed it under her bed and sent a text saying that her birthday present was there. i also let her know that the vibe was a personal item for her to enjoy and that i just wanted her to be happy, and that she shouldn't feel embarrassed about using it whether it be alone or with her boyfriend. She texted me back saying it was a very kind and thoughtful present and was much nicer than her previous toy.
glad it went well yay!
10/31/2016
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by jhbkjg7
Ok so, I ordered a lelo vibe for her. When it came i discretely placed it under her bed and sent a text saying that her birthday present was there. i also let her know that the vibe was a personal item for her to enjoy and that i just wanted her to ...
Which Lelo ? They make great products !
10/31/2016
jhbkjg7 jhbkjg7
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Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
Which Lelo ? They make great products !
Are you a guy or a girl?
10/31/2016
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by jhbkjg7
Are you a guy or a girl?
not telling.

Check out our profile page and reviews and/or threads for a clue
10/31/2016
DancerKittyKat DancerKittyKat
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Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
not telling.

Check out our profile page and reviews and/or threads for a clue
Hehe! Can't you tell by their profile picture?! They're bears! Big, fluffy, cute bears!! <3
11/01/2016
MrClark MrClark
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Originally posted by DancerKittyKat
Hehe! Can't you tell by their profile picture?! They're bears! Big, fluffy, cute bears!! <3
but seriously... it's pretty clear if you check out their profile.

Also, I concur LELO makes awesome toys.
11/03/2016
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