I'm a bit young at the age of 22. I was a virgin before my current boyfriend and we've been having sex for about a year or so, probably over. The problem is that sometimes it hurts a LOT down there during but particularly after sex. This mostly happens whenever we do it fast but not always. When we first starting have penetrative sex, we ALWAYS have to take a few minutes (even when I'm already aroused) to try and get him in there (he is by no means a large man but average and only a little girthier than average). It always hurts us both at first but after that, it's fine. Until the pain for me afterwards, of course.

I was wondering if this is normal and if it happens to a lot of women. Or maybe it's just because my body isn't as used to sex as some people? We don't have sex everyday. Sometimes we go days without (like right now because I've been in pain for a few days). I wonder if it would hurt more or less if we had it more often. Are there any tips I could use to make sex not hurt?