Do you find it easy to talk dirty to you partner?

Contributor: Viktor Vysheslav Malkin Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
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Originally posted by Intrigued
Talking dirty to your partner during sex can be a turn on. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to start. What I want to say seems to sound good in my head, but once the words reach my lips, I feel silly. Help!
Not easy for me, but if the feelings right.
09/21/2010
Contributor: VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
I feel like a babbling idiot when I try to talk dirty. I get so embarrassed and want to just hide my face under the pillows.
09/28/2010
Contributor: SexyySarah SexyySarah
This really depends on how in to it I am, he loves it when I talk dirty, so I'm trying hard to talk dirty.
09/28/2010
Contributor: mllebeauty mllebeauty
When I first ventured into talking dirty I felt really silly, but practice makes perfect. It also has worked better for me with some more than others. Seeing how much it turns him on is a huge incentive. My guy loves it!
09/28/2010
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
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Originally posted by buzzvibe
I find talking in and of itself difficult during sex. It throws me off. I don't know why. Grunts and sighs are easy enough, though.
I find the same ... its like i tend to lose some concentration for a second there.
10/01/2010
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
Come to think of it we do dirty talk but it is light and not forced. It feels natural. I was talking to a friend about it and If one would consider dirty talking as simple sentences such as "do you like that?" "your cock is so hard" etc then I dirty talk with ease.
10/19/2010
Contributor: Danielle1220 Danielle1220
I love talking dirty. I wasn't always like that though. I went through a shy phase and wouldn't even let out a moan...but I've come out of my shell
10/22/2010
Contributor: Misfit Momma Misfit Momma
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Originally posted by auburn87
Even though I'm a talker, I find it hard to talk "dirty" to my partner. I will occasionally but I just feel so out of place.
Not at all. I don't know why, but I have trouble talking dirty without feeling embarrassed.
10/23/2010
Contributor: lamira lamira
Yes, I find it easy to talk dirty to my partner. I am very comfortable with him, so I can trust him with dirty talk.
10/23/2010
Contributor: Matheri89 Matheri89
It's funny, because when my wife and I dated, we had lots of sex, but didn't really talk dirty. Not long after getting married, she asked me (during sex) to start talking dirty to her. Based on her reaction, I've continued, and we've discovered many fetishes and fantasies through it. Right now, we're at about 50% "nice sex", and 50% "talk and be dirty sex".
10/27/2010
Contributor: mysecretcollection mysecretcollection
...and by "sometimes" I mean "when I am drunk".
10/27/2010
Contributor: butterflygirlxo butterflygirlxo
Quote:
Originally posted by Intrigued
Talking dirty to your partner during sex can be a turn on. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to start. What I want to say seems to sound good in my head, but once the words reach my lips, I feel silly. Help!
I find it very hard to talk dirty to my partner, not because I'm afraid too but because I think it's funny. I can't help but laugh sometimes at him,he says some crazy stuff!
10/28/2010
Contributor: butterflygirlxo butterflygirlxo
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Originally posted by Lady Venus
I've always felt silly talking dirty in the bedroom or even moaning/screaming for that matter. But for a while now I've been expressing myself more verbally in the bedroom, and it is so much of a turn on for the both of us.
I'm really glad I'm not the only person who felt silly. I thought something might be wrong with me.
10/28/2010
Contributor: meganthomas meganthomas
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Originally posted by Sammi
I used to find it hard to do, but the more we do it, the easier it's gotten.
I totally agree, its all about practice practice practice! I still feel silly sometimes tho...
10/28/2010
Contributor: Sweet-Justice Sweet-Justice
Even once in awhile I tend to get nervous and I end up using scientific terms for body parts instead of dirty slang words. Most of the time its easy for me though.
10/31/2010
Contributor: Taylor Taylor
It is really hard for me because I am so shy. My boyfriend is really turned on by it and always asks me to do it. I just get embarrassed though and never know what to say. I wish I was better at it
10/31/2010
Contributor: sbon sbon
I've always found this difficult. It feels awkward to me.
11/05/2010
Contributor: kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
Quote:
Originally posted by Intrigued
Talking dirty to your partner during sex can be a turn on. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to start. What I want to say seems to sound good in my head, but once the words reach my lips, I feel silly. Help!
no thats why I'm buying books to learn and read and become smart on these things and comfortable...I bought the fine art of erotic talk book on EF and will definently someday get books nina hartly recomends
11/05/2010
Contributor: Mocha98 Mocha98
Sometimes more than others. Just depends on the situation.
11/06/2010
Contributor: RosesThorns RosesThorns
I love dirty talk but I feel silly sometimes too... I just get so randomly shy
11/08/2010
Contributor: CS2012 CS2012
When we talk dirty we just start laughing. That's part of the fun for us.
11/09/2010
Contributor: crazybat crazybat
It's sometimes for me. When we get into it he often ask me to say things he wants to hear me say and i have to repeat them back to continue my pleasure. It's gotten far easier over time to just pick up things and say them myself, but every once in a while i start to feel really silly and embarrassed, like i'm sounding too scripted or too silly and not as sexy as it really probably is. In a way he trains me to get more confidence to say things on my own, he more or less coaches me on what to say that will turn him on and i take that and make my own spins on them for when i get in the mood and get enough guts to blurt them myself. its all about the mentality, if i think i'm gonna sound stupid and silly i freeze up and often will try and sort of stammer and look like something is wrong and end up making him feel worried that hes doing something wrong when it's just me refraining from just talking dirty and put my worries behind me about sounding silly, but if i don't care if i sound silly and just start thinking of the dirtiest sexiest things i can come up with then i can do it and every time its sexy to him.talking about what we would like to hear and what our boundaries of what shouldn't be said that would be offensive helped too. Or sometimes ill even take notes of my ideas and read over them repeatedly so i can use them later at perfect moments so i don't stammer or lose track of wear i'm going or start saying something and not know where i'm going to take it from there.
11/09/2010
Contributor: removedacnt removedacnt
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Originally posted by joja
Dirty talk came pretty easily to me with my current partner, as we talked about sex a lot from the very beginning - often during sex itself! After a while I started to enjoy going on about what I wanted to do, what I liked that he was doing, etc. ... more
Thank you for that link! I'm definitely going to check that out. I would love it if I could be less inhibited in this area. And I bet my hubby would be too.
11/09/2010
Contributor: Faith Faith
Depends on the situation. Dirty talk isn't hard for me, it just makes me giggle sometimes.
11/11/2010
Contributor: kermi91 kermi91
Depends on how turned on I am...if I'm really charged up then the word just seem to flow and I don't even give it a second thought.
11/11/2010
Contributor: Dame Demi Dame Demi
I can do it, I'm told quite brilliantly if it's either on the computer or talking in a non-sexual situation with someone's who's not a sexual partner, or at least hasn't been more than once or twice. I don't do phone sex; I feel like a moron, honestly. I get quiet during the real thing when I'm seriously turned on, so saying "oh baby" into a phone doesn't really work for me. I like to talk/write dirty as a form of sexual fantasy, and sometimes with a very casual partner. When I'm with someone with whom I've actually HAD sex, it takes away some of my poetic license and just generally isn't as interesting for me. I'm also generally not turned on when others try to do it to me; I much prefer to be the aggressor. I don't look like much, but I can work magic with words, and even when it's not a traditional turn on, I love the feeling I get when a guy tells me I've made him hard, so that just really makes me push the sexual attack.
11/13/2010
Contributor: AmandaV AmandaV
It's easier for me to txt or talk dirty online, however, I love phone sex with my boyfriend. I enjoy being very submissive sexually, and he enjoys being dominant. We'll talk about something sexual and he'll usually ask what i'm wearing, where my hands are, what i'm thinking about etc. It allows me to start it off at my own pace and so I usually start slow and describe in detail what I am imagining him doing to me. Nothing too sexual, I just let it build up. He will add something and i'll add something until I'm literally begging him for his cock lol Its a huge turn on for both of us when I beg. Hearing his reaction to everything I say, builds my confidence and I feel comfortable saying anything.
11/15/2010
Contributor: Pegglepuss Pegglepuss
Babyblue is right. Men love dirty talk. The secret is to stop thinking about what to say and just verbalize your thoughts. Don't contrive things to say. If it feels delicious, then say it. If you want it harder or faster or whatever, then just say it. Look, you're already doing the most intimate things with your partner, the dirty talk is easy. How else will they know what you want if you don't say it?!
11/15/2010
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by Pegglepuss
Babyblue is right. Men love dirty talk. The secret is to stop thinking about what to say and just verbalize your thoughts. Don't contrive things to say. If it feels delicious, then say it. If you want it harder or faster or whatever, then ... more
I like the way you put it - makes complete sense!
11/15/2010
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
Like others have said, it's best to talk if it's natural. If you *have* to have a script, then ask him to pick out some erotica that he likes. I'd avoid porn since the visuals will confound his answer.

If it's simply a matter of being self-conscious about saying something that he won't like, then I suggest changing the scene. Try masturbating alone first. Visualize your favorite fantasy. Then, repeat the process while your boyfriend watches. Finally, describe what your fantasy is while your boyfriend watches (or helps). If you can do that, then you can change your fantasy whenever you want while you're together.
11/15/2010