Sometimes I can but most times I can't. Recently, I did and immediately afterward I began thinking "Why did I say that?!! It was so corny!"
Do you find it easy to talk dirty to you partner?
08/17/2010
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I feel silly during the actual sex but during foreplay it can be fun. I like it more when he talks dirty to me though, I just feel awkward.
Originally posted by
Intrigued
Talking dirty to your partner during sex can be a turn on. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to start. What I want to say seems to sound good in my head, but once the words reach my lips, I feel silly. Help!
08/17/2010
it can be tough, i think the harder part is finding the sam level of dirty for each other, i might spill my guts with dirty talk and she just wont be into it
08/17/2010
I am comfortable, most times. Sometimes I feel stupid, yes, but most of the time I just say what I feel.
Start by being open and honest, saying how your partner's making you feel, maybe how you'd like to make them feel. Ask them how they feel when you do something, or how they want you to make them feel. Keep it simple at first, and then you can work up to talking REAL dirty, with disgusting terminology and some more dirty flair.
Start by being open and honest, saying how your partner's making you feel, maybe how you'd like to make them feel. Ask them how they feel when you do something, or how they want you to make them feel. Keep it simple at first, and then you can work up to talking REAL dirty, with disgusting terminology and some more dirty flair.
08/17/2010
It's always easy, but I only do it when we're in the mood.
08/18/2010
Sometimes I find it easy, but every once in a while it's very intimidating! Gotta be in the mood, though, cuz I can't feign interest in it.
08/19/2010
It's something that I can only do when I feel in the mood at that moment. So other than just go with what you feel, I'm not of much help.
08/22/2010
Yes, we do it often.
08/22/2010
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That is exactly what I was thinking! I have not problem talking dirty with my hubby, but we don't always do it.
Originally posted by
kck
It's always easy, but I only do it when we're in the mood.
08/22/2010
I'm a dirty talker - I can't say i think about it really - I just let it happen...for me though it is all about my partner, because I feed off of them. If they get thrown off by me talking, the sex is definitely not going to be as good for me. That's why I like my current partner - he can meet me toe to toe in the dirty talk department, and we have a lot of fun. And it can be anything - I usually start with a question, or if we have already talked abot some fantasies together, I will mention something tied to that to see where it leads. Or I might make an observation on soemthing he's doing and we go from there...
08/22/2010
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I got confused and thought I was reading my own post when I got into what you said about your D/s struggle.
Originally posted by
joja
Dirty talk came pretty easily to me with my current partner, as we talked about sex a lot from the very beginning - often during sex itself! After a while I started to enjoy going on about what I wanted to do, what I liked that he was doing, etc.
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Dirty talk came pretty easily to me with my current partner, as we talked about sex a lot from the very beginning - often during sex itself! After a while I started to enjoy going on about what I wanted to do, what I liked that he was doing, etc. However, I still have trouble getting "in character" for D/s play (which we are new to but both very interested in). I just don't feel convincing as a dominant - it doesn't help that I break out in giggles when I think I sound silly. The best cure for this is being really turned on.
There are a few really good games you can play to help get into this. I highly recommend Sexuality.org's erotic talk article as a starting point. less
There are a few really good games you can play to help get into this. I highly recommend Sexuality.org's erotic talk article as a starting point. less
It's difficult to come up with a string of words I don't feel stupid for thinking of, and when I do it's another battle to get it to come out of my mouth without stumbling all over it But it's definitely something I want to get better at.
08/22/2010
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That's a shame. I hope you can find a way to break out of your shell .
Originally posted by
auburn87
Even though I'm a talker, I find it hard to talk "dirty" to my partner. I will occasionally but I just feel so out of place.
08/23/2010
I can sometimes, but other times I try and I just end up busting up laughing.
08/23/2010
I had a chance to do this today and feel like I made a little bit of progress after reading about it I think reading and talking about it "out of the moment" might make it seem more normal "in the moment".
08/23/2010
When I first started making noise and talking dirty I felt stupid, but once I saw how much it turned him on, it came naturally. You just have to put yourself out there. : )
08/25/2010
Sometimes.....but mostly we don't talk but I am very vocal when I am about to orgasm. Mostly single words.
08/25/2010
there are few things I enjoy or value more than dirty talk. At this point, it is absolutely one of my minimum requirements in a partner (does that sound ridiculous? It is just an integral part of how I express/interpret my sexuality).
08/26/2010
I find it easier to talk dirty online or over the phone but i do talk dirty in person sometimes especially if it helps getting us in the mood.
08/29/2010
I don’t always feel confident enough to talk dirty to my partner, but sometimes I will do it.
08/29/2010
It does seem out of place. Even though we've been married several years I still (usually) feel like a bumbling teenager when trying to "talk dirty" (or even "talk slightly dusty").
08/29/2010
I find it very tough sometimes. Both my wife and I get embarrassed easily and rarely get very far in this department.
08/29/2010
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I am the same way. I mean, He talks all the time but whenever I go to say something I usually just chicken out! It really is a turn on when I hear my lover saying things to me and he has said that he would like to hear me say things to but it is really hard to get started.
Originally posted by
auburn87
Even though I'm a talker, I find it hard to talk "dirty" to my partner. I will occasionally but I just feel so out of place.
09/01/2010
I don't find it hard to do at all. But, I've been with my partner a LONG time, so we've had years to find out what the other one likes.
Once in a while, we'll break through a prior taboo. There used to be a word I simply wouldn't say, and would get "offended" if he said it. I finally realized, that taking CONTROL of that word would actually empower me more, and actually turn My Man on in a new way.
So, I used it, and he went crazy. He hardened up, even more than he was and just looked at me for a minute and it just made the entire session better. Afterward, he told me he was really proud of me for losing the fear of that word.
He goes through phases of either being very quiet or talking his head off. I like it when he talks dirty.
And, yes, most dirty talk does sound "Porny Corny" but it's just you and your lover. If something comes out sounding funny, it's just one more bonding experience.
Once in a while, we'll break through a prior taboo. There used to be a word I simply wouldn't say, and would get "offended" if he said it. I finally realized, that taking CONTROL of that word would actually empower me more, and actually turn My Man on in a new way.
So, I used it, and he went crazy. He hardened up, even more than he was and just looked at me for a minute and it just made the entire session better. Afterward, he told me he was really proud of me for losing the fear of that word.
He goes through phases of either being very quiet or talking his head off. I like it when he talks dirty.
And, yes, most dirty talk does sound "Porny Corny" but it's just you and your lover. If something comes out sounding funny, it's just one more bonding experience.
09/01/2010
It's hard for me to talk dirty unless we're already having pretty intense sex... I really have to be in the moment. Otherwise I'm pretty inhibited.
09/02/2010
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It really is easier to start off with moaning etc and then move to talking dirty. If this is something you want to do, talk to your partner outside of the bedroom about it. This may make things easier because then your partner knows more about what you want in the bedroom. I have always found that talking about these sorts of things with my partner makes life easier because then everything is in the open and then you don't feel as silly. Good luck.
Originally posted by
Intrigued
Talking dirty to your partner during sex can be a turn on. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to start. What I want to say seems to sound good in my head, but once the words reach my lips, I feel silly. Help!
09/02/2010
I'll tell my husband I like his BIG d---...And I'll tell him Fck ME!!! Fck ME!! Fck ME!!! BUTTTT...that's about all I can muster up. I have found it easier to 'dirty talk' other partners during copulation...But, my sweet husband is just so shy, it makes ME feel strange!!!
On the other part, when hubby does talk dirty (and, believe me, it's not often!), it just does not seem to come 'out' right...He's so shy about it, and doesn't seem to really know "what" to say..It just distracts me, instead of turning me on. Of course, I would NEVER tell him this
On the other part, when hubby does talk dirty (and, believe me, it's not often!), it just does not seem to come 'out' right...He's so shy about it, and doesn't seem to really know "what" to say..It just distracts me, instead of turning me on. Of course, I would NEVER tell him this
09/04/2010
It makes me feel very silly, which is terrible. I've done phone sex in the past, and would even be turned on by a sexy email or my husband whispering something dirty in my ear, but I just can't seem to open my mouth and actually SAY anything, you know?
09/13/2010
I write erotica so dirty talk comes pretty naturally to me, and my girlfriend seems to be getting more and more into it the longer she dates me.
09/13/2010
Yes, it is easy, but she is a stickler for good grammar. Sometimes we end up debating the grammar, which is hysterically funny, but very sweet.
09/19/2010
im slowly turning my wife into a dirty talking hottie. i hate the quiet and it don't have to make sense just don't repeat your self over and over.
09/20/2010