The PC muscles are tricky to isolate, especially if you've had kids! I found when I was first starting out with kegels, that just resting my finger near my vagina (whether on my clit, outer lips, or even inserted) was enough of a trigger for me. As long as I can tell that I'm not just pulling in other muscles.

I think it just takes a lot of focus, concentration and patience, honestly. I've also heard that visualizations help, though I wouldn't personally know this from experience.

Though, there's absolutely nothing wrong with needing an insertable. Some people just do, just like some people need a trainer when they go to the gym. less

Don't actually know if this is common, or if it's just me. I have found it hard to know which muscles to contract without the aid of something inserted inside me. I recently purchased but have yet to recieve a vaginal exerciser. I am hoping that this will help me to better isolate the proper muscles. Once I recieve the L'amour p.w. pleasure system, I will do a review, as well as a follow up review on it's help in this department.

In the mean time.....


Just wondering if anyone has any suggestions on how I can learn to isolate these muscles without any aid? less