Siri is awesome, for sure. I don't have Nea so I can't speak from experience with that, but I've also heard good things there. Really, though, you don't have to worry about masturbating. You're already doing it. Don't pressure yourself to "get somewhere" with it, just relax and enjoy the sensations and stop when your hand gets sore. Pushing yourself will probably only make you tense up further, and if this tensing is uncomfortable tensing, then it's kinda missing the point of masturbation (it should be fun!)

Here's my personal experience with the whole thing: I fretted about orgasms for a good couple years before I ever had one. I used to madly research online exactly how one goes about having one, and why couldn't I. I didn't really get what I was supposed to be doing when touching myself either. So I just did whatever. It felt nice but I never *got anywhere* - frustrating, but I eventually sort of resigned myself to my fate and just did it anyway without hoping for a big magical O.

My boyfriend at the time gave me my first orgasm, which was incredibly liberating. I still couldn't get myself off for some time after that, though. Eventually, I figured out what kinds of touches I liked best (practice makes perfect!) and got really into the excellence of fantasy and one night - voila! Fantasizing was key for me, so I say just work on fine-tuning what kinds of thoughts turn you on (or watch some porn, if that's your bag) and have fun with it. A toy may or may not help you initially - fingers themselves are a great toy but if you think something vibrating will inspire you then go for it less

Could always focus on clit stim rather then worrying about insertables atm. i suggest checking out this bullet vibe: link Small, discreet, and can be used in the tub/shower.

If you can't always get a hold of batteries for it and want something with regular batteries, then i suggest this one: link less

I would definitely focus on your clitoris. A lot of women cannot have an orgasm from vaginal stimulation, but I don't know any woman who cannot achieve a clitoral orgasm.

I would recommend a cheap bullet vibrator, not just because they're my favorites, but because you won't lose too much money if it turns out to be a no-go.

I wouldn't call myself a virgin, but I have not had a penis inside me and I find it difficult to use toys that are more than 1" in diameter. If you do decide to insert toys, just be sure to use a lot of extra lube (I like Astroglide) as you are less likely to break your hymen with less friction.

That being said, it would be good for you to break your hymen eventually. My doctor told me that I should eventually buy a bigger dildo and just break it myself. As you get older, your hymen becomes tougher and tougher. I have a great aunt who is an older virgin, and she is having a lot of gynecological problems that are difficult to treat as a result.

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When I first began masturbating, I didn't have a "goal" of where I was trying to get. I started with rubbing on my clitoris and this felt good, so I continued to do so with variations in movements. I would say to focus on getting to know what feels good to you instead of trying to get somewhere with it.
Like many other people have said, I would suggest a nice clitoral vibe for experimenting at this stage. I would say go with something cheaper while you are still trying to figure out what you like less

This is great advice. Just get to know your body. This includes what feels good to your breasts, your thighs, your rear, and other erogenous zones. I would say that, unless you are very aroused and very wet, to explore your vaginal area with lubricant. If you're not adequately lubricated, it won't feel as good. Don't just focus on your clit, however. Focus ALSO on your labia and touch the whole of your vulva. You might be surprised how good this feels.

Inexpensive clitoral vibrators that I would recommend (and have tried):

Posh
Little Honey

Expensive Clitoral vibe I would HIGHLY recommend:
MiMi And I recommend it for a beginner because it goes from a very low rumble to a very intense vibration and has patterns. It's silicone, so you can disinfect it and that frees you up to trying it stimulate different areas of your body (however, do not insert this anally).

I haven't tried this one, and it's a little pricey, but not too bad:
Mia

Some inexpensive ones I would recommend but have NOT tried (I'm recommending because they seem intriguing to me):

Waterwhirl
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I started masturbating at a young age. I think you have to not expect an orgasm, but just focus on touching your body wherever it feels good. You might also want to try other househould items to rub between your labia (make sure you clean well before and after).

Also, make sure you are doing something to turn yourself on first. If you're not wet, then things will be a lot more difficult and you will tire yourself out because your hand won't move as smoothly. I like to read romance novels or other people's masturbation stories.

Don't be afraid to just try things. I'm also curious why you're afraid of breaking your hymen... less

household items such as?

Personally, I would not recommend putting anything in your vagina that is not designed to go into your vagina. Or your labia. I say this because even if you wash it, if it's not a sterilizable item, you may inadvertently transfer bacteria. Not to mention, things around the household are not crafted with sensitive areas in mind. Seams could scratch or cut. less