Do you ever feel weird about...

Do you ever feel weird about...

mistressg mistressg
I am wondering, do you ever feel weird about using toys with a new partner? Do you just spring it on them and throw something into the mix, or do you have a talk about it?
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mistressg mistressg
I am thinking more in the way of vibrators and actual sex toys, not like rope, blindfolds, cuffs, etc. Because for me that it easy to introduce, but I realize that is different for other people.
12/05/2011
Caprieclipse Caprieclipse
its all in how you introduce it, but often talking about it can help!
12/06/2011
Eva Schwaltz Eva Schwaltz
I mention the fact that I'm a reviewer, and don't be surprised if they find anything. Something along those lines.
12/06/2011
Chirple Chirple
We'd talked about toys not as an idea, but just as a topic before we'd even had sex, so I think it was normal to include them whenever we felt like it.
12/06/2011
K101 K101
I am female and voted other because I have never used toys except with my current partner. We've been together for 5 years so he's the only person I've ever used them with. I never felt very awkward using them with him. If I did have a new partner, I'm sure it would be a long long time before I was comfortable with anythng to do with sex, much less toys!
12/06/2011
Kendrir Kendrir
It's definitely in how you introduce it and how comfortable you feel personally and with the other person. I'm pretty fortunate in that I only really started discovering toys after I was married, and my wife and I have been pretty careful and patient with trying to introduce toys to our relationship
12/06/2011
SweetSurprise SweetSurprise
I feel awkward only with new people but Im in a long term relationship and have been most comfortable with my current partner. We pick them out together so its a fun experience. He loves that I try new things and express myself on EF. Lol it benefits him as well.
12/06/2011
unfulfilled unfulfilled
My situation doesn't really apply since I've been with my husband for years so no I'm not weirded out about using them. At first he was apprehensive for me to use them, but the other day he made the comment, you haven't gotten any new toys in the mail lately what's up? So I think he's enjoying them as much as I am.
12/06/2011
married with children married with children
it was a little weird at first. But nothing too out there.
12/06/2011
null null
i have difficulty bringing these things up with partners, but I have that problem with pretty much anything I want that might be seen as 'off'.
12/06/2011
Michele Michele
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Originally posted by mistressg
I am wondering, do you ever feel weird about using toys with a new partner? Do you just spring it on them and throw something into the mix, or do you have a talk about it?
I actually, still feel wierd when using them with my husband. I'm trying to get out of that, though.
12/06/2011
geliebt geliebt
I mentioned it very early, to keep from having a potentially big bubble to burst later on. I was totally apprehensive and I still am for if/when he wants to perhaps use any toys with me though I don't have the fear of being DISOWNED because of it anymore, which is nice.
12/07/2011
SMichelle SMichelle
I think it's nice to use toys with a partner. I never just spring it on my partner -- rather, I bring it up as an idea first.
12/07/2011
Zinzai Zinzai
Always talk about it first, be funny to just spring it on them...
12/08/2011
Willow Wand Willow Wand
Haven't had a new partner in well over 6 years....
12/08/2011
AmethystSmoke AmethystSmoke
I voted 'other' since I only bought my first toys in February of last year when I found this site and my husband and I have been married for several years. No weirdness with us but I haven't a clue how I'd work myself up to introducing them if I was single and meeting new partners...
12/08/2011
philly philly
depends on the toy, the partner, and how new they are
12/08/2011
Missmarc Missmarc
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Originally posted by mistressg
I am wondering, do you ever feel weird about using toys with a new partner? Do you just spring it on them and throw something into the mix, or do you have a talk about it?
I like to talk about the use of toys with guys before the first time we actually have sex. Otherwise with most guys, if you reach for a vibrator in the middle of sex (this is only true if this is a new partner), the guy tend to stiffen up, and get all weird about it.
I've never had an orgasm through just penetration. So pretty much need a vibrator on my clit to get an orgasm. If I want an orgasm from the sex, I pretty much need a talk with the guy before the sex act.
12/08/2011
mama2007 mama2007
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Originally posted by mistressg
I am wondering, do you ever feel weird about using toys with a new partner? Do you just spring it on them and throw something into the mix, or do you have a talk about it?
i have never used a toy in my husband's presence.
12/09/2011
Cherry21 Cherry21
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Originally posted by mistressg
I am wondering, do you ever feel weird about using toys with a new partner? Do you just spring it on them and throw something into the mix, or do you have a talk about it?
Never had this issue. I've been with my guy for almost 8 years. That would be horribly awkward though.
12/10/2011
Dr Anal Dr Anal
When trying some of my bigger toys with new partners it can be a little awkward
12/10/2011
Lucky21 Lucky21
It's a little awkward bringing it up, but it's always been worth it.
12/10/2011
ss143 ss143
BF is the only sexual partner I have had and hes fine with toys enjoys using them so I have yet and hope not to encounter this situation but I dont think I would feel weird about it. I would simply bring it up in a conversation
12/10/2011
Rossie Rossie
I've been with my husband for 18 years, but have only used toys the past few years. It was a little weird when I showed him my first glass dildo, got to explain that it's just something to spice up playtime, and has nothing to do with his wonderful performance.
12/10/2011
Sinfully Sinfully
It depends on the toy and the person. Im normally pretty open about everything though. Doesnt really bother me.
12/10/2011
LAndJ LAndJ
It took a long time to introduce toys into my current long term relationship. I just wasn't sure how he'd feel about it, so I started with something really small and let him stumble onto the rest on his own.
12/10/2011
neon neon
we have sort of stumbled into it together
12/11/2011
ichwillwaffels ichwillwaffels
Quote:
Originally posted by mistressg
I am wondering, do you ever feel weird about using toys with a new partner? Do you just spring it on them and throw something into the mix, or do you have a talk about it?
I don't use them with my partner because I know he isn't into it. But we talked about it before trying anything.
12/11/2011
Blooddragon Blooddragon
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Originally posted by mistressg
I am wondering, do you ever feel weird about using toys with a new partner? Do you just spring it on them and throw something into the mix, or do you have a talk about it?
I have been married a while..we didnt use toys right away.
12/11/2011
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