How do I get my BF to try Sex Toys??

How do I get my BF to try Sex Toys??

SweetAnn SweetAnn
As far as my sex life, I've always been eager to experiment and try new things. "Sex and The City" is what made me interested in sex toys. My kit now includes a rabbit vibe, a bullet, and a Vibratex wand.

I finally persuaded my significant other into trying out a toy, but something strange happened in the process and now he's acting as if he'll never try doing it again What can I do to change his mind?

Shout out to the ladies -> how do you make your man enjoy sex toys as much as you do? Please help!

Shout out to the guys -> what's your favorite sex toy and why? Is there anything specific you would recommend?

Please answer my questions.. Pretty please!
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dominatrixNY dominatrixNY
something strange happende?
Sep 21, 11:33 am
SweetAnn SweetAnn
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Originally posted by dominatrixNY
something strange happende?
Well, we've tried a cock ring, because we thought it's a safe place to start on using sex toys together - it's not intimidating and doesn't feel like "each other is not enough".

We chose this one - link

He was down on the idea, he put it on, we had some steamy foreplay and I was super excited. He made a couple of thrusts and I felt amazing, but he looked a bit concerned or, idk, concentrated on the ring too much. Then he stopped, took it off and we had amazing sex, just like I was anticipating. When I asked why did he take it off, did it feel uncomfortable or something, he just said, "It was fine, I didn't feel like it this time". I don't understand because it clearly made him super hard and he lasted for a really long time.
Sep 22, 7:31 am
Lena Eden Lena Eden
Quote:
Originally posted by SweetAnn
As far as my sex life, I've always been eager to experiment and try new things. "Sex and The City" is what made me interested in sex toys. My kit now includes a rabbit vibe, a bullet, and a Vibratex wand.

I finally persuaded my ...
After I became part of the Eden Family, my BF finally started warming up to the idea of seeing sex toys in our house

After getting a couple of vibes for me, we came up with an idea that we need to try the We-Ring.

My BF is also a watcher and it turns him wild to see me on cloud nine after an O.. So, one day he asked me to buy a big dildo he can use on me. This is how Mega came in our house.

I think that the most important thing here is to show your partner how you personally enjoy sex toys. At the same time, don't make him think that you love toys more than him (and, the fact is that no toy can really compare to his manhood, right? )

Feel him, do not insist, be open to try new things he fantasizes about and maybe one day he'll ask you for a toy all on his own..
Sep 22, 9:18 am
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
A male perspective here.

Toys are an issue for young men who are generally self-conscious about their masculinity. Be it size, PE (premature ejaculation), stamina or even ED - a lot can go wrong with an erection - it's a fragile thing! especially as we age. Generally speaking a woman's capacity for sex increases while her man's is decreasing!

In my experience young women's issues tend to be more mental/emotional than physical. Any man who half pays attention realizes that women can go on for as long as they choose - but they know that repeating erections after climax is a hit or miss proposition.

So a man faces a choice - do I insist that our sex life will be defined by my limitations - or will I go beyond them?

For me the decision was easy. I wanted sex more often and figured the way to get that was to make sure my wife had a mind blowing orgasm every time.

Much to my surprise that strategy did not work! It wasn't until we figured out multiple orgasms that include vaginal, g-spot and clitoral stimulation did her desire to have sex more often materialized.

IMO the only way to do this is with toys - so the issue for me was trying to assuage her suspicion of the role of toys in the bedroom.

So as not to drone on - the bottom line for us was turning sex from some romantic ideal - into our play-time together. How are you going to play without toys?

Best of luck - be patient and persistent.

Don't be afraid to fail - laugh at the likely foibles.

Experiment - I listen carefully to my wife's feedback. Her off-handed comments guide the toys I select for our next new adventure.
Sep 22, 12:05 pm
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
Quote:
Originally posted by SweetAnn
As far as my sex life, I've always been eager to experiment and try new things. "Sex and The City" is what made me interested in sex toys. My kit now includes a rabbit vibe, a bullet, and a Vibratex wand.

I finally persuaded my ...
It sounds like your libido is greater than his
Would it be possible to get more info ? Like his age +/- 10 yrs , how often the 2 of you have relations ? Does he initiate it 1/2 the time ?

If he's a little older like 40+, he may enjoy .... (let me know his age and I can then mention it.) or give a hint.( Your profile is not informative enough. Filing it out w more details would help EF members )

I can understand him not wanting to continue with the c ring. That doesn't provide any pleasure for us males. It's more for females satisfaction in the way of larger, stiffer and lasting longer. If too tight it's not comfortable. And as much as we enjoy pumping and thrusting, we don't want to do it forever. Tireds the back , you know. And rings give us less feeling in the head. (At least for me it does)

Are you asking if you can get a dildo and let him use it on you ?
Some guys prob most enjoy this activity. Not all the times but every so often.

Does he approve of you using the rabbit ? Does he watch ?

Does he like you petting/fondling him? If so maybe a masturbator. However if you have frequent relations then probably not needed. W/o enough info hard to say.

Do you guys do anal ? If so perhaps so anal toys for him ?
Does he like you rimming him ? If so then some anal plugs or P spot massagers, manual or powered.

Does he like oral performed by you ? If so perhaps a p spot toy that can be thrusted while you are doing him.

As far as toys I like: I like a p spot massager while she is is giving me head. such as link
or link (This one is larger )

If you already checked out the toys for men section here, you will not find much. Sex toys for women are plentiful.

Maybe check out toys for couples. We had one of those u shaped vibes. It is mostly for clit and G spot simultaneously, but can be used during intercourse.

Anyway, good luck. And have a nice wkend.

OH of OH&W.
Sep 22, 6:55 pm
Sexual bliss Sexual bliss
Quote:
Originally posted by SweetAnn
Well, we've tried a cock ring, because we thought it's a safe place to start on using sex toys together - it's not intimidating and doesn't feel like "each other is not enough".

We chose this one - link

He was ...
Rings make me personally super sensitive in the head area which tents to make me orgasm earlier than i want to. How about finding a toy you would like to use in front of him and tell him your ideas with it and show him s pic of it. Watching is very very hot for guys! Why not put on a show? Let him participate if he wants. And then rock his world after you are done with the toy! Try a suction cup dildo. Or a rabbit vibe.
Oct 1, 8:45 pm
Lena Eden Lena Eden
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Originally posted by Sexual bliss
Rings make me personally super sensitive in the head area which tents to make me orgasm earlier than i want to. How about finding a toy you would like to use in front of him and tell him your ideas with it and show him s pic of it. Watching is very ...
+ 1 to rabbit vibes!
Oct 3, 7:45 am
awesomery awesomery
Quote:
Originally posted by SweetAnn
As far as my sex life, I've always been eager to experiment and try new things. "Sex and The City" is what made me interested in sex toys. My kit now includes a rabbit vibe, a bullet, and a Vibratex wand.

I finally persuaded my ...
Id say get him worked up and surprise him with a masturbation sleeve add some warm oils and bound to work
Nov 5, 1:19 am
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by awesomery
Id say get him worked up and surprise him with a masturbation sleeve add some warm oils and bound to work
I'm not so sure - not every guy is a fan of the masturbation sleeve. I for one would not look favorably on such a move by my wife.

Just a point of reference - your husband may love it, but don't be too surprised if he does not.
Nov 5, 1:49 pm
pghaaron pghaaron
Quote:
Originally posted by SweetAnn
Well, we've tried a cock ring, because we thought it's a safe place to start on using sex toys together - it's not intimidating and doesn't feel like "each other is not enough".

We chose this one - link

He was ...
My wife and I started out our toy forays using vibrating cock rings and I haven't put one on in a while. It's awesome that it's the best of both worlds - vibration plus I'm still the one thrusting her but I dunno. Something about it has put me out of the mood. I would suggest telling him that you're into toys and ask if there's something else he'd be interested in trying. Some other ideas are dildos, ticklers, nipple/labia clamps, or just incorporating lube. Be OPEN with him and let him know he can be open with you. Good luck!
Nov 6, 8:59 am
jamiesummers jamiesummers
Quote:
Originally posted by SweetAnn
As far as my sex life, I've always been eager to experiment and try new things. "Sex and The City" is what made me interested in sex toys. My kit now includes a rabbit vibe, a bullet, and a Vibratex wand.

I finally persuaded my ...
Hi. I am a very sexually active male who always loves to please and try new things by being creative. My gf once took her toys into bed with us and began to really get into using them on me. I love to please so I went with it. It didn't take long for having toys inside me to blow my mind and instantly open my mind to so much more. Not to get too detailed into where else I soon explored, one thing is so true. When the toy is used on me and inside of me I have the most amazing endless orgasms I have ever even dreamed of!!
Nov 9, 2:05 am
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
Quote:
Originally posted by jamiesummers
Hi. I am a very sexually active male who always loves to please and try new things by being creative. My gf once took her toys into bed with us and began to really get into using them on me. I love to please so I went with it. It didn't take long ...
"Inside you? Only 2 ways / places I know of for that to happen. I doubt if in the mouth does much. So that only leaves one possibility. In your a**s

Well, don't be ashamed right embarrassed Besides the prostate tucked in there, the anus and rectum has more sensory nerve endings than anywhere else. At least that's what I read........and discovered
Nov 10, 1:23 am
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