It may very well be that the muscles are lax and just need to build up strength. Try not to get frustrated All us mommy's have to build back the strength we once had. I am a mother of two as well. Perhaps start by taking a certain amount of time every day, say 15 minutes, and sit or lay down and insert the Emigi. Do your kegels in this position until you start to feel the vaginal walls are strengthening. This will keep you from feeling like it is falling out and will help you to start building back that elasticity. Keep in mind, just like any other muscle in your body, it will take time and consistency to strengthen. Do it at your own pace and stay with it and you will be up and moving around gripping that thing like a chinese finger trap before you know it!!!