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Using old toys with new partner?

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Contributor: Arlinnae Arlinnae
If you have lots and lots of sex toys that you used in a previous relationship but you dont want to throw them away as they cost lots of money or you like them too much (maybe you have a big collection of luxury vibes) then how do you introduce them into your new relationship without it seeming weird or creepy or dirty?

Would you use them with your new partner or would you chuck them and get some new ones or would you just not tell your new partner that you used them with your ex?
12/07/2012
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Contributor: Taylor Taylor
I think it would depend on what the item was. Things that are primarily used on me like my vibrators I would keep. I probably wouldn't expect someone to use something like a cock ring if it had been worn by an ex, so that I would probably either throw out or try and give it to my ex.
12/07/2012
Contributor: roskat roskat
^I agree. I wouldn't get rid of my vibes or dildos. But yeah, a cock ring is something I would replace. Just out of courtesy. It might be too much for a new guy to use something that has been on another guy's penis.
12/07/2012
Contributor: dv8 dv8
Conversely, how would women feel about using sterilizable vibes and dildos that a man had from a previous relationship? Quality silicone or something like an nJoy Eleven are expensive so replacing them becomes questionable.
12/07/2012
Contributor: Mwar Mwar
I'd keep all the toys I use.
12/07/2012
Contributor: jr2012 jr2012
I would want to keep them....but I know I couldn't if I was in that situation! Just too weird.
12/07/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
I agree with Taylor.
12/08/2012
Contributor: Geogeo Geogeo
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Originally posted by Arlinnae
If you have lots and lots of sex toys that you used in a previous relationship but you dont want to throw them away as they cost lots of money or you like them too much (maybe you have a big collection of luxury vibes) then how do you introduce them ... more
Use them with a new partner and just not mention the ex, except maybe for cock rings, that'd be weird
12/08/2012
Contributor: roskat roskat
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Originally posted by dv8
Conversely, how would women feel about using sterilizable vibes and dildos that a man had from a previous relationship? Quality silicone or something like an nJoy Eleven are expensive so replacing them becomes questionable.
Well, personally I wouldn't want to use a toy another woman has used on her. I do get the cost factor since I have expensive (and sterilizable) toys myself but it just doesn't sit right with me.

But for the Eleven I might do an exception...
12/08/2012
Contributor: *Camoprincess* *Camoprincess*
Personally I have kept all of MY toys that were used just on me since I mainly used them alone so it wouldn't be like the ex would be mentioned anyways. I have tossed some toy from my last relationship but that was because it was either a cock ring,cock sleeve or toys that I didn't like or they died. My current partner doesn't care if my toys where there before him or if I got them when we got together he just loves using them on me. I however, don't think I could use a toy that has been in another women no matter if I could sterilize them or not. If my partner brought a pocket pussy or something of that nature from his previous relationship then so be it.

When it comes to the male side of "toys" I have packed those in my exes' stuff so they could have them when they were without. How nice of me right?!

When my last relationship ended I had posted a topic about what do you do with lingerie from your relationship that just ended. Most responses were keep it an wear it for myself especially if there wasn't a particular event that stuck out in my head on why I wore it for the ex. I mainly get lingerie for myself now anyways.
12/08/2012
Contributor: dv8 dv8
Would having nonmonogamous sex change anyone's perspectives? People don't want to use toys that were used by an ex but what if those toys had been used in a play party?
12/08/2012