Do you, or someone you know, use sex as a way to get what you want (outside of the bedroom)?

Contributor: TexasBrat TexasBrat
I was thinking of a couple people I know that will withhold sex from their partner, just so that they can get what they want.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Yes, I do use sex as a way to get my way.
3
Yes I do know someone or more than one person that does this.
12
No, I don't use sex as a way to get my own way, it's WRONG
28
I don't know of anyone that does this.
2
Total votes: 45 (37 voters)
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Contributor: MaryExy MaryExy
I would never do that to my guy. I would be totally out of line to do such a thing.
05/30/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by TexasBrat
I was thinking of a couple people I know that will withhold sex from their partner, just so that they can get what they want.
That's the recipe for how to build a war zone! You should never with hold intimacy or physical affection from anyone to get what you want or to punish them let alone a lover! You start with holding sex to prove a non sex related 'point' and you are simply hurting yourself.
Now it's ok to admit that you are angry and that sex isn't appealing at that particular moment but it's better to use the time to get past the problem and build the relationship rather than letting the problem fester.
05/30/2011
Contributor: zizfaye zizfaye
This is something I would never do. However, I do have a friend who told me she used to do this all the time.
05/30/2011
Contributor: Kdlips Kdlips
yes sometimes
05/30/2011
Contributor: Wondermom Wondermom
never, I think its wrong to manipulate a partner that way unless it is part of an agreed kink ritual.
05/31/2011
Contributor: kjkitty kjkitty
I never hold back sex to get what I want. Ever. However, my boyfriend always wants to do nice things for me after sex and yes, I let him.
05/31/2011
Contributor: big b big b
how would my wife ever get the honydo list done
05/31/2011
Contributor: NarcissisticLust NarcissisticLust
Quote:
Originally posted by TexasBrat
I was thinking of a couple people I know that will withhold sex from their partner, just so that they can get what they want.
My boyfriend and I will occasionally withhold sex to make the other take out the trash or promote studying, but we are never serious.
05/31/2011
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
That's the recipe for how to build a war zone! You should never with hold intimacy or physical affection from anyone to get what you want or to punish them let alone a lover! You start with holding sex to prove a non sex related 'point' ... more
Agree 100%. If you love someone you love them, and intimacy and physical affection are tied together with the love. You start making those manifestations of love conditional, and you're going down a slippery slope. I do know people who do that, but I find it pretty reprehensible.
05/31/2011
Contributor: ToyGurl ToyGurl
I would honestly never do this to my fiance. My roommate had this habit of sleeping with her old boyfriend to get gifts and it was just pitiful. I think the only time I may have come close was when my fiance and I were arguing, and I just wanted him to "shut up" and "be happy". This was in our younger days. Of course, now we are better at talking things out. But it worked well back then.
05/31/2011
Contributor: AYoungHomeWifey AYoungHomeWifey
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
That's the recipe for how to build a war zone! You should never with hold intimacy or physical affection from anyone to get what you want or to punish them let alone a lover! You start with holding sex to prove a non sex related 'point' ... more
I agree 100% with you- communication is key and witholdin sex does nothing but make the problem worse. How is that a loving relationship!
05/31/2011
Contributor: DTV88 DTV88
That is wrong. but i know some people who do
05/31/2011
Contributor: salaciousrex salaciousrex
I don't know anybody that does this, and I don't do it. I don't think it's exactly the right thing to do in a relationship unless there's a REALLY good reason, but who am I to judge?
05/31/2011
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
Nope - never! That's not my style.
05/31/2011
Contributor: sarki sarki
No & don't know any one who does
05/31/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
As a long married couple, keeping each other happy is the goal. That general sense of well being means that we don't need to 'get what we want'. I want her to have what makes her happy - and she's the same way.
05/31/2011
Contributor: Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
I know tons of girls that do this.. and one guy actually, but I think he's a rare exception.
05/31/2011
Contributor: moonch1ld moonch1ld
I never have but it would probably work on my gf. She would be pissed though.
05/31/2011
Contributor: Miss Anonymous Miss Anonymous
I dont, because i have an amazing partner that gives me what i want. I have and do have friends that use sex to get what they want in life. I personally think it's sad. People should have more resepect but they dont. It's wrong on so many levels.
05/31/2011
Contributor: A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople)
No, I would not do such a thing.
As for withholding sex specifically, not only would I consider it unethical, but also I would not be able to do it for long.
06/01/2011
Contributor: purple579 purple579
no because i wouldnt be able to wait it out and i am able to get what i want without doing this
06/09/2011