Uptown boyfriend 7" - silicone realistic dildo with balls and suction cup by EdenFantasys - review by DownTheRabbitHole

This toy will satisfy those who need a bit more length to get going, and the silicone is very flexible so you can use it in multiple positions. Since it's silicone, make sure you use a water-based lube because silicone lube will damage your toy. Personally, I needed to either use lube to help this slide in easily or already be almost dripping from playing with myself beforehand. Don't let the seemingly small diameter fool you. This toy feels bigger than it looks. My Charm Rabbit is listed as the same diameter, but it hasn't made me feel nearly as stretched out as the Uptown does. The length and girth may be too much for beginners, so make sure you're really warmed up and wet beforehand if you're new to this size and want to try it.

The only other toy from here I've paired it with is the vibro plug which definitely added to the experience. I've never used it with a partner, but couples can use this too. If/when I have sex, it would probably be fun to ride it with my hands bound so I can't touch myself while my partner either watches or plays with my body, especially my breasts, as I ride it. The only times I use the suction cup are in the tub or when trying to stuff it inside myself. Other than some mild toys, I'm a virgin, so while it might be different for more experienced users, whenever I want it inside quickly, I have to suction it to a chair and slowly sink down on it after covering it in lube for it to fit in easily. Even with lube, I have to finger myself beforehand until I'm wet both inside and out and spread my lips to get the head in without discomfort.

When I'm stuffing the rest of it inside myself, I need to keep playing with my clit and rolling my nipples to stay aroused, so it still feels pleasurable. My favorite ways to use this when I want to get off quickly are to let it sit fully seated inside myself while stimulating my clit with my hand or rocking against a pillow with the fake balls resting and rubbing against my clit while the rocking rubs the length against my walls and g-spot. The length and girth give me something to hold on to that I usually miss when trying only clitoral stimulation. I recently got a new rabbit vibe yesterday, and I can't wait to pair the vibrations on my clit with the Uptown inside me.

Cleaning silicone toys is easy since the nonporous material only needs hot water and soap while paying special attention to the crevices, so bacteria doesn't accumulate there. You can also use a toy cleaner, bleach, boiling it for 10 minutes in hot water, or a run in the dishwasher if you want a deeper clean. I have only noticed a slight smell after a long session, but a thorough wash and letting it air out for a bit will clear that. The material does tend to attract lint, so make sure you thoroughly wash it before and after play and store it in a baggie after it's air dried.

I can't speak for how it performs with the anal play from experience, but just follow some basic rules you should always follow if you do try it: Make sure to use plenty of lube and thoroughly stretch yourself or your partner out before even attempting to use toys. This one especially will need extra stretching and lube because if it's tough for a vagina, and those are designed to have extra give, then you will definitely need more prep for anal play. Go slow, and always listen to your partner or your body before increasing speed or pushing in further. You shouldn't feel pain, so if you do start feeling pain or discomfort, you should stop and take more time to stretch yourself or your partner and add more lube. Another rule of thumb is to keep adding more lube as you play because water-based lube tends to dry out quickly and can cause discomfort or tearing if you become too dry. Also, never go from anal to vaginal stimulation without thoroughly cleaning and disinfecting your toys.

I've already said how I use this to get off quickly, but for more extended play, I have a different approach with this. Laying on my back with my legs spread and feet planted on the bed is my favorite way to start. For longer sessions, I try not to use lube, so I start by lightly stroking my lower belly to stimulate my nerves before moving to my inner thighs. I have to really make sure I'm wet and aroused if I don't use lube with this toy. So I have to lightly stroke and pinch my inner thighs with one hand and knead my breasts and roll my nipples with the other for a while to get into the right headspace before I can move on. Once my skin starts tingling, and I feel my insides getting wet, I can slowly slip my fingers inside and gently stroke my inner walls, spreading my fingers wide whenever I pull them out. My thumb usually stays outside and rests close to my clit but far enough away to avoid touching it while gently rubbing nearby to increase anticipation. Before I can start using the toy, I have to spread my juices on and around my outer lips so the head of the toy can slip in easier.

Once I feel wet enough, I spread any extra juices on my hand along the toy and position it with the fake balls pointing up and the head resting against my entrance. As I start slipping the toy in, I start rubbing my clit with my thumb until the toy is fully seated. Once the toy is in, I put one hand back on my breasts while the other slowly thrusts the toy inside me with the top of my palm resting against the bottom of the balls so I can grind them against my clit at the end of every thrust. The slow build along with the thickness and length of the toy feels amazing!